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MISSMYFIGURE
3/29/06 10:07 A
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| I would like to add being able to ask for forgiveness when you are in the wrong.
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I agree with everything previuosly posted.
I would like to add:
Being a good mother also means showing your children that you are human and make mistakes.
Also, being a good mom means once in a while putting yourself first. Let dad or the grandparents spend some quality time with the kids and do something for yourself. If you do not take care of yourself, you are no good to anyone.
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BUFFEDSTUFF
3/27/06 7:48 P
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| a good mother is one who prepares you to handle all aspect of life and then lets you become everything that you are meant to be.
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| A good mother is one that tries their best to make their kids, happy, healthy, and well disciplined.
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SARAHMAE22
3/27/06 10:04 A
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To me, a good mother is someone who puts their child(ren) first. A good mother:
- Reads to her children often
- Gives kisses and hugs all the time
- Spends time listening and talking with her children
- Does things/spends time with her children doing things that they both enjoy
- Trys to do her best to care for her children in every way that she can
- Loves her children unconditionally, and doesn't judge them or put them down at all
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LAYERS_OF_ME
3/26/06 10:20 P
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I loved Veganmom's post, and would like to add:
Communicating with them. Providing the right amount of information for them to process at their developmental level. Not too much, not too little.
Giving your children the power of choice, and loving them enough to allow them to face the consequences.
Showing them, not telling them, that they matter.
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How do you define a good mother? What attributes do you recognize in people you consider to be...good mothers?
A good parent...
... provides basics of food, shelter, clothing for the children. Homes do not have to be immaculate, but they ought to be safe and secure. Nobody wants to worry they're going to be out on the street in the next month or wonder where the next meal is to come from.
...They practice good birth control and do not grow their family beyond their means to support them well.
...takes an interest in the children's growth and activities and spends time with them no matter the age.
...takes the time to guide/discipline children while young. Good manners can't be taught too soon. And what the parents don't teach, the world will, and usually in a much harder way.
...try to give the children an emotional vocabulary and the means to cope with their emotions. Show the children that the parents are also human, also have feelings, and everyone deserves considerateness.
...teach the children that you don't inherit the world from your ancestors. You borrow it from your grandchildren.
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XOXO_UN1_OXOX
3/21/06 4:50 P
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My mom did her best in raising us kids but I don't think she always was a good mom. I remember her mostly cleaning up and never spending time with us.
My house is never spic and span but I make sure in summer that we go to the park and go for walks etc. In winter we go swimming as a family usually every 2 weeks. To me the quality time is what makes you a good parent!
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LOSINGINHIM
3/21/06 4:50 P
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| Good question, good thoughts! I teach middle school, and I can usually spot those with "good" moms--they know when to stop their excessive behaviors and care about what their parents will think. They also are happy kids! Of course, each child is different--my 2nd one is showing me that already--but being a good mom incorporates a little spoiling, a lot of discipline (teaching, if you will), and even more unconditional love!
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I think your a good mom if your children are loved and know it. If your kids know they are/were the most important thing in your life. I think you can be a good mom and not have money for them to have everything they want. I think that just because someone has to work outside the home to pay bills now days doesn't mean they are bad but it is important to spend quality time when you are there. Our kids that have graduated and on their own have learned the lessons in life to prosper and make decisions for themselves. We have done a good job. If they are happy and successful (and I mean have what they want in life not just have money.)
Oh I also think your a good parent when they come to at 21 or when they ahve kids and say mom I never understood until now but you were totally right to do what you did.
Just my opinion but that is when you know you are/were a good mom.
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EMMALEESMOMMY
3/21/06 3:03 P
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| My Mom is a supermom, so she definitely defines a good mother. Really I think it has to do with loving your children. I think a mom and dad need to be the role models in a child's life. We are the people they see most, they will follow us and listen to us. Being a Godly mother and wife and just doing the best you can with everything else. Being patient is also a plus.
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IWANNABEALOSER
3/21/06 2:53 P
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| How do you define a good mother? Does the phrase, to you, mean your kids are clean, homeworks done, and they eat their veggies? I'm curious, what attributes do you recognize in people you consider to be...good mothers?
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