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Yeah, this morning I was still feeling very full, so wouldn't eat all morning. I had 4 cups of water and a cup of tea and just got back to work from my 3 hour lunch. My husband had a dentist appt so I was gone for a while. I fell asleep and woke up feeling starved so had a bowl of cereal and came back to work. I'm now drinking more water but still feeling a little hungry.
You're right about asking myself if the calories are worth it. I used to drink about a six-pack of soda a day but haven't had any regular soda in quite a while. I had root beer, grape, and cream soda but could never even finish a whole can. I kept passing it off to one of my sisters or my husband! I won't be doing that again as those are not good calories. I could have had something much more scrumptious!
Kim
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Ok, first of all dig deep inside of yourself and stay completely on track for the next four days and those calories will leave as fast as thay came on and you may even see more loss. Second I get the food it tasted good, it was half orders ans all but the soda has no advantage at all. you could have eatten a whole cake or something more worth while. When ever you are going to have something that is not on plan ask yourself if it is worth the calories, fat and such or if you could have something more worth while for those same calories. The hard part now is that your body is going to tell you it wants more of those high fat and high calorie foods. You have to do everything you can to eat healthy for the next four days or so. But some of your favorite healthy foods, fruits, vegetables, and such that will keep you filled up for less calories and more fiber and tasty enough to satisfy you. You can do it even if it is one hour at a time. Trust me I am sitting here wanting to eat carbs and such right now but till I can figure out something that i can have for lunch that is healthy, tasty, and will be enough on my stomach to not leave hungry I will not eat yet.
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Well, this weekend was the worst since I started my diet. I did okay but drank a lot of non-diet sodas which was drinking a lot of calories. My worst day was yesterday when my mom offered to take the kids out to McDonald's. I thought that I and my husband should have a nice night if she was willing to take the kids. We went to a great greek restaurant where we had our first valentine's day together. It was so great! We ordered something to share so that we could try a little bit of everything but I didn't think I would go so overboard! I had a half of a half caeser salad to start, a slice of pizza, and half of my lasagna. It's not that bad except that only two hours before that I had four potato skins with lots of sour cream and only one hour before that I had a whole lot of popcorn at the theatre. It was the worst day ever!
I need to get back on track as I weighed two pounds heavier this morning. Hopefully it's just because my stomach hasn't had a chance to digest it all yet.
Kim
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VEGASGIRL
3/27/06 10:55 A
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| Good morning everyone, Just working today on getting in some exercise as I want to meet my mini goal by this friday. soon it will be swim weather and I hope that will really help me to tone up. How are all of you doing?
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| that's exactly right vegasgirl! Thank you!
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| Yes, we need to remember the good comments and let go of the bad!
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I will always remember my cousin getting excited about me wanting to lose weight although I never did stick with it then. I did lose a few pounds but gave up before I could even really start. I loved food then and still do but have learned to set limits for myself. It does help to think of her because she wanted something good for herself. Alot of my family pointed it out as though it were something bad (e.g. like saying she's always on a diet or that she just wanted to look good) but who cares what she does it for and that she wants to eat healthy for herself and her family. She's doing what she wants to do and is keeping herself healthy! It's a good thing and family shouldn't up her efforts down.
It's great to think of those inspirational people and then get rid of those bad thoughts of what others have said about those great people who done something with their lives!
Kim
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| You just do the right thing for you and as others are ready then you will know they want to get more serious. I figure I have enough on my plate running my own life ( and my sons) I do not want to be responsible for others lives. I do however love deeply and will always support my family and friends as they need it and back off when they need or want me to. Unless they are doing something to harm others or their selves and i am not talking food. We all have issues in one form or another. i have just come to the conclution taht life is to short to sit on the side lines watching it lived because of food and my health so I am finally doing something about me for me!
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Some family members can be so great! I had a cousin when I moved to Prince George about six years ago who introduced me to Herbalife and she was so excited that I wanted a change in my lifestyle! She was so energetic and full of life and now, when I'm finally following through with those old plans, I think of her and think about what she has done to change her life. She was just as overweight as I was and is down to a size 0 now! Lucky her and lucky me someday! There are some really inspirational people out there and they can be your family members!
Kim
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| Kim - that's so exciting that you have your family on board with you - even if its not as much as you would like. You can inspire them to want a better life. I have an aunt who lost 100 pounds, and her change in lifestyle inspired my parents to stick with it.
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I hope so! It wasn't just my younger sister this time but my older sister now as well. I found that my family were making very sarcastic comments about my diet. They had made comment about my weight but never anything that really bothered me as I knew that I was overweight and my mom asked me what I would do about it. Our whole family is overweight though so it never seemed like that big a deal. Now, both my sisters are onboard with me and they're both trying to better themselves, so I think it's going great! I know there's something wrong because we all have weight problems that have lead to further health problems. It's not funny anymore, it's getting serious, and I think we're all starting to think about that. I just wish my sisters were a little more serious about it.
Kim
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| It sounds to me like you and perhaps your sister are breaking this verbal abuse cyle. WAY TO GO!
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That's the way I'd like to be, just letting people know how they're affecting the way I feel. I take ownership of my own feelings by not saying that anyone 'makes' me feel anyway but I also need to let others know that I don't feel good about what they're saying. I was never really this overweight before so I didn't realize how I made my sister feel when I would say things to her. She would cry and get upset and I just ignored it. I feel for her now but never made that effort before. We are helping eachother through our weight loss efforts now and I compliment her when I see any change at all made in her appearance. I think it boost our self-esteem to hear those little compliments as well as our motivation to continue losing weight! I hope that we all learn from these mistakes and that we are all told how we are affecting others.
Kim
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Everyone is sooo right, when we learn to speak up and tell people (it doesn't matter their age) how what they do effects us, even if others' behavior doesn't change, we feel better about ourselves for being strong.
(And when I feel strong, I don't need to use food to cope with my troubles, and we are healthier anyways!)
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| Gotta say Kim, I agree with dancegirl. I think we teach others how to treat us. If it is not in your personality to be real forward or out spoken then be polite but firm EVERY time anyone says something that makes you uncomfortable. EVERYTIME, politly but always and if they try and get out of it my joking or blowing it off as not meaning it that way. Repeat yourself politly that it hurts your feeling. It is at least worth a try.
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DANCEGIRL1017
3/18/06 7:14 P
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| Just tell them flat out that they are hurting your feelings are you dont like it. By age 11, they are old enough to understand how they make other people feel. They should respect you, their mother, more than anyone. Just tell them straight out how you feel. Dont worry about sugar-coating it.
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| I am so in the same boat. I can be going along just fine with everything and like a light switch I am struggling with food, portions, moving and for days then flip of the switch back on track and so on and so on.
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That's good that you're so determined! I had the drive and determination before but have fallen off track over the last little while. Hopefully today will be a better day.
Kim
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VEGASGIRL
3/16/06 12:24 P
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| Not a problem kim. Your weight loss goal is extremely important. Did you know that by losing 20 to 30 pounds you add YEARS to your life. This is a proven fact! So yes you are doing something extremely important for you and the loved ones you touch. So, Keep up the good work and shear your thoughts with people who will be there for you. Your family is still great for being your family and no one can replace them but we can be here in your life as friends too. i am so drained today and have 40 more minutes to march in place so i am going to do at least 5 to 10 minutes now. Have a nice day everyone.
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You're right. No matter how little weight I have to lose, it's important to me, so I treat it that way! I know that you have much further to lose than I do but I don't see the difference. We are all in this together. If we weren't here to lose weight, why would we be here? Thanks for the encouraging words and the insight!
Kim
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| Well lucky you Kim. You do have a supportive weight loss family! All of us. I completey understand with what you are saying and agree 100 % with you. You are smart and right on the bulls eye, There is no good reason to battle this later when it is more and harder and effecting your health. Right here and right now is the perfect day to get healthy. Also the most important thing you said was about you and I want you to feel pretty and comfortable with yourself and your body. It will be a gift to you and your husband because you will be thinking about him and other things instead of worring about your tummy or whatever you do not feel comfortable about. Be patient with other people like your mom as she is afraid of change or something but she loves you. Other people may not understand but I do and I am still 130 something over weight. I understand that those 20 to 30 pounds you want off mean just as much to you as my pounds I need to lose mean to be. That is why you vent, educate, celebrate or whatever on this site so that your needs on this subject are meet with other like minded people.
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I know, I wish I had a family that was completely supportive, but my mom is one of those people who doesn't think that you need to diet unless you're way overweight. I only have about 27 to 37 more pounds to go depending on when I plateau but I am overweight. I don't want to wait 'til I'm out of control. My sister weighs about 300 pounds now and she is just starting as well but she is making a good change in her life too. I don't want myself to get that far though; I want to be happy with myself. I'm a little embarrassed of my body at times but my husband doesn't even seem to notice. I want to be within a health weight range or below the high of the healthy range at least. I know it says that I could be around 104 and be healthy but I don't think I'll ever be at that weight again. I think skinny people look extremely unhealthy anyway. I don't mind being the way I am right now as I've already lost 22 pounds but I'm hoping that I can get the rest off quickly!!!!
Wish me luck and come here to find the support you need if you ever feel like you don't have that support at home! It feels great to be here!
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| I think your confidence is great and I feel the same way. I am lucky enough not to have any immediate family say those kind of things from a bad place. When I was young i felt bad on the insid but looked well on the outside now it is the oppisite way and I am striving for that happy medium. I love growing up and into our selves, I just want the outside to reflect the me on the inside. I want to get healthy so I can do more things without my weight holding me back. My family has been completely supportive on my changing my life. Even my son who has accepted a fail safe zone in the house meaning only healthy food. I feel very lucky and my son has learned the importance of what all that weight froom over eatting and eatting junk food did to my life. I have two bad knees and am on disability. Even his friends have been supportive.
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It's really hard to let those who you love go though. I know I would have a hard time just telling my mom she was out of my life for a comment she made. She has made comments but I've put them aside and said, it comes from jealousy, or that it comes from not having what she wants. I'm doing well compared to other family members. We all talked about going on this diet when we started but I'm the only one who really took it seriously.
I don't actually care what anyone else says because I believe in myself more than I believe in what anyone else says.
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| WOW, I guess I am lucky as my son would never say something like that. He has even made it clear that is not now or has he ever been ashamed of my weight. I must say that I would in no uncertin terms talk to my son about him feeling it is ok to degrade, demean or disrespect others and then ask if he feels it is ok to make yourself feel better at others exspense. We really are hard enough on ourselves with out loved ones adding to it. I do have relatives that have made thier comments and the ones who talk to me from love and concern are fine but those that are just mean or rude or no longer in my life. Life is to short to not pick happiness over someone like that to me cause they can never take back the damage they do, it stays in our brains and thoughts.
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*grins* Actually, with kids that young I can imagine that probably really is true. I actually talk to my two children about how big they are growing all the time also.
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| I have a 3 and 1 yo and they are both awesome too. My 3 yo is just learning to really speak his mind but doesn't say much about mommy being a little overweight. I don't think he knows as much either though. We do talk about eachother's tummies but not in a negative way. I think he thinks big tummies are better 'cause I tell him he's growing super fast and look at his cute little tummy!
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Sometimes I wonder if I am just really lucky with my 4 and 5 year old. They have seen me around our home with just a sports bra on at times and have never said anything about my "tummy".
They also tend to think that "Daddy" is bigger than "Mommy". Even, though I weigh a lot more than him.
However, they haven't really been around anyone that talks like that a lot about people who are overweight. And long before they were born Greg and I seperately decided that we didn't like watching TV and never kept one plugged in when Greg did have an older TV set.
Not long ago ... me and the kids finally got moved out to the Denver area in Colorado. And the TV just didn't get moved with us.
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| I know, I always tell my son what the feelings of the other person could be when he does something hurtful like hitting or scratching as he is only 3. I want him to learn to take the other person's perspective so he will learn that what he does affects others. I hope that you've talked to your kids about things they've said as I'm sure they'd want to consider your feelings when doing or saying anything. I know that I would want my mom to talk to me if I said anything that hurt her.
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Hi Stacie!
I agree with the ladies here, I would sit down with her and let her know that she hurts your feelings when she says those things to you. Ask her how she would feel if someone made fun of her. That's what I always tell my daughter (6) She's only in kindergarten and kids are fierce these days!
All the Best,
Laurie
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