It's usually really stressful at first because you have to coordinate the church and reception hall and make sure everyone can come. But believe me...it gets better! It will slow down in the middle and then about 3 months away the fun stuff begins. So, once you get over the initial hump, just relax.
RYAN8669 4/16/07 9:06 A
I understand exactly what you mean! I feel like I have waited a very long time to find the man of my dreams and I want to enjoy every second of being engaged and the whole planning process and the whole wedding, everything!
I would suggest getting on www.theknot.com and take a look at the checklist they have. This will tell you what you need to be thinking about right away and what you can wait on! We got engaged and set the date, then I realized that it was only 10 months away - The knot's checklist really helped me to set goals and not stress out! Now I am actually ahead of the game and there has not been any stress at all so far!!
Good luck and congrats!!
CRICKETRO 4/16/07 6:21 A
well , just stop and enjoy the time wt ur fiance. ;)
we got engaged on Sept 4, 2004, but have been already living together since Oct 2002 . we didn't set the wedding day then.
in March last year we decided to get married and we did on Nov 4, 2006, it was bit stressing b/c we payed for everything but we were used to living together, already had our apartment, jobs...so on.
however, we still act and feel like in day one of our relationship.
just ENJOY , being engaged is wonderful , ok, ok, being married is better LOL :)
MOM2SIX 4/16/07 1:06 A
I understand exactly what you mean! I wanted to take some time to just enjoy the moment, too. Unfortunately, I was also too excited to NOT think about wedding details! We took about a month to just discuss what we'd like for a wedding, no real planning. Maybe you could try that. It does help to know exactly what kind of wedding you both want before you dig in and start planning. We talked about what style we wanted, how big, what season, etc. before we began researching places and making a guest list. We also took time to 'date' again and just bask in the excitement of the wedding. We would go out to dinner and just linger and chat about how happy we were, how our lives would change, and, of course, what we needed to do in the meantime. We also chose our date carefully. After we decided all that we got into the nitty gritty of actual planning.
Congratulations and I hope this helps!
LOLA926 4/15/07 6:17 P
I really wanted to take this time to enjoy being engaged. I don't want to think about the cost of the wedding, who is invited, flowers, dress...NONE OF IT. I want to just be engaged. Planning is already starting to go through my head. How can I stop thinking about it? I would really LOVE to NOT think about planning for at least a month, maybe even two. All I really want to do is be happy that I am going to spend the rest of my life with a wonderful man that loves me, and accepts me as I am.
