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MRS.JURECZKI
4/16/07 9:28 A
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| yeah...it is just really hard...and now he is playin tball and has pictures saturday and they dont wanna cut into their time so they dont wanna take him to take picutres and to his game....
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| ahhh, didn't catch that bfore....makes much mroe sense now.
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MRS.JURECZKI
4/13/07 3:38 P
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| They can...but that's kinna the point right...not to let him be around my son...HE LIVES WITH HIS DAD & STEP-MOM....he will be there and be with him....
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| Wow...that's all I can say.
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NITROT150
4/13/07 12:48 P
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| SO, if you have custody, his grandparents can't see him? I don't follow....
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MRS.JURECZKI
4/13/07 12:47 P
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| Nope as long as they can prove they are married she is considered 21!!! And I do have a problem with my son bein around him and her...but the DA says there hasn't been anything happen and I can't do anything unless I want total custody...but I want his grandparents to still get to be with him....
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NITROT150
4/13/07 12:32 P
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| Sounds kinda backwards to me. and if he is so abusive, I would be really nervous having my kid around him PERIOD. Amazes me that this kind of law enforcement still goes on in this country, that kind of stuff just doen't happen up this wya much, i'm sure there are a few instances, but jsut cuz your married doesn't make you 21. ya know. yikes. the law is still the law, and when someone is putting anyone's life in danger (especially a child) the cops and judges have a responsiblity to take care of that problem, that is their job!
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MRS.JURECZKI
4/13/07 12:26 P
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| Ok heres the deal with the cops...we live in Jefferson County...not even a mile down the road it changes to Chambers County....when we call the cops they can't do anything cause he goes back to Chambers County...but now the good thing is...my friend's dad is now the Judge of Chambers County and he will crack down on him...plus my Uncle (who happened to marry him and his "wife") is the Judge in Jefferson County...all I have to do is call and make sure he stays in one spot long enough...the last time I called the cops they swited drivers when they saw the cops comin....he set the cruise control and she climbed over him...how do I know...my friend (his best friend) told me!!!! Then they hide the beer....she normally is drinkin too...but she is fixin to be 20 and they are married so the cops don't care that she is drinkin underage!!!!! I live in a small town and we have several backward cops...only a few are good....couple I'm glad I'm kin to!!! They just always find a way to get around the law!!!!!
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NITROT150
4/13/07 11:55 A
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| If ANYONE was drving around with my kid drunk, i wold be calling the cops, they would no longer be having unsupervised visits or anything. That is just not right on any account EVER, no excuses! Don't let him get away with that AT all!
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MRS.JURECZKI
4/13/07 10:52 A
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| I was with a control freak too...I was also 15 when we started dating...had our son when I was 17 and then when I turned 19 he kicked us out...I finally stopped seein him about a 1 1/2 years ago....all the abuse (physically, mentally, emotionaly) didn't open my eyes...I have been stopped by cops comin home from his house doin 95 (cause the truck wouldn't go any faster cause of the governor thing) in a 45 got outta the truck and thank God knew the cop...I was covered in blood and he was like what do you want me to do...he was willing to kill him for me...well he just happened to be my ex's cousin so we called him and he came and took me home and cleaned me up....well my son's dad also wouldn't let me see my friends...I had mostly guy friends...I'm a tomboy...the only friend I was allowed to see was my best friends from the time I was born she was there...and that is only because she is his stepmom's neice....anyway he wouldn't let me leave the house at all....I couldn't wear makeup....couldn't cut my hair....couldn't talk to my family....couldn't let my family see our son....couldn't have any money...even what was in my savings....couldn't even have my driver's license anymore....I was only allowed to drive if he passed out from drinkin...which eventhen he would try to drive...he flipped our truck and it rolled 4 times with me bein 5 months pregnant...he really didn't start the abuse til after our son was born...then he would get jelouse cause our friends could come over and want to see the baby and not him...his best friend would even help me bathe him and stuff and that would make him soo mad that this other guy would help...we lived with his parents and their house still has holes in the walls...his bedroom door is missin still...and the concrete is still cracked where my head his the concrete...my body and head hit the walls...and the door is gone cause I locked myself and our son in the room so he couldn't get to us and he broke it....luckily I had climbed out the window with our son and "stole" the truck and went to my best friend's grandparent's house....I thought I was in love too....I was...just he wasn't...I still love him cause he is my son's dad...I wouldn't have a problem if he dropped off the planet or became "aligator bait"....the only reason I stopped seein him wasn't because he got "married" to the girl who had their daughter 2 days later...ever heard of a shotgun weddin? her dad really had a gun pointed at him the whole time....but that is not why I stopped seein him...they were married but not even together...the reason I stopped was because Halloween of 05 I had gone down to see my son (he was with his dad that weekend) and we went trick-or-treatin...and I left to go to a party with my friends...well his wife wanted to go with me and some of the other people we both know so I said yeah...she was in her truck and I was in front of her in mine...well there is a huge bridge that crosses the Intercoastal canal...well when we were close to his he came flyin up behind us...well he kept tryin to hit her truck...well I slowed down to let her pass me cause my truck was just like his and it was a big 4x4 dually that could take more than her lil truck...well everytime she would try to pass he would hit her...well when we got on top of the bridge he hit her and spun her out and she almost went over the side..thank God she made it to the bottom and went into the canal down there....I got outta my truck and he knocked the crap outta me and told me to leave...well my other friend stopped and we finally made him leave....we pulled her truck outta the canal with mine and pulled it off to the boat ramp and left it...went to her dad (who owns a wrecker service) and he went and got it...he wanted to kill her...well the next mornin I called to check on my son...(he had wanted to come home with me and when his granpa found out what his dad did...for some reason said I was lyin bout it and wouldn't let him)...but anyway when I called his granma (who is my best friend's aunt..and one of my closest friends) told me they got back together and she said it was just an accident...HELLO NO!!!! Anyway THAT is what opened my eyes and I never went back eventhough he has tried and tried...now that I am gettin married and finally happy and they are on again off again he is bein even worse...(plus she just had their 2nd kid...well maybe his) they both use to follow me around town...I worked nights so I wouldn't get home til like 3 or 4 in the mornin and they would be there waitin and follow me....he tries to start stuff with my fiance...tries to tell my son lies about me...it is bad...plus he just got his license back after a DWI but then brought our son home Sunday drunker than a sunk and drivin and got outta the truck with a beer in his hand...I was sooo pissed...I know this is a lot but I just want you to know I've been there too and I would hate for that to happen to anyone...eventhough I don't know you...look at the past to see the future...that is what I had to do....as far as the eating disorder...it is a disease...if he isn't supportive now then will he ever be...I know he prolly just wants the best for you but he needs to help you not hurt you more....I had that same problem...but he was the cause of mine...he would tell me all the time I was fat and wouldn't let me eat....then after our son he said it even more...I was on all kinds of medication for depression and stomach problems...once I tried to start eatin again I couldn't keep it down...I had ulcers like crazy...so just know that we are here for you and no matter what you can turn to God for help too....I knew that since I was little but never really realized it til I gave up one night and just cried and prayed and that is when my cousin who was in the NAVY called from Nevada and said he felt like there was somethin wrong and I was locked in the bathroom with my son cryin cause I was scared to death of his dad and my cousin left...went AWOL...to come get me and take me home...he told my parents he would only bring me to them if they promised not to say "I told you so" in any form or fashion...I owe my life to my cousin...he got in a lot of trouble but once he explained and stuff it was ok...I even got to meet his officers and they are now like family to me...heck I even dated one of em...there are people out there who will help you and you won't lose your indepedance....just hollar if you need anything...we are here for you!!!!
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LADYBOOP1970
4/12/07 4:24 P
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As someone who was with a "control freak" for almost 20 years my advice to you is GET OUT NOW! Before he makes any more demands, before you do anything legally binding like getting married. I started seeing my ex-husband when I was 15 years old. He didn't like my friends, he didn't like that I went out for sports (too much time away from him) etc., etc., etc. Long story short, I ended up marrying him when I was 20 and by the time I divorced him 13 years later (only 3 short years ago) I no longer had any friends that he didn't approve of, I had quit college (too much $ that he didn't want to spend and too much time away from his watchful eye) and financially he had ruined us so I wasn't able to stand on my own two feet. I finally got a clue when he became physically abusive (he was always mentally and emotionally abusive) and I left him. Even after that he would stalk me and follow me around town at all hours of the day and night.
What I'm trying to say is someone who is already putting these kinds of demands on you will only get worse as time goes on. He may have very valid reasons for not wanting the tattoo or the cat but those are relatively small decisions that he is already denying you the right to make. What will it be like years from now when you're trying to raise children or buy a house...
As far as the eating disorder, I do believe it is a disease that needs constant attention before people are able to get better. The fact that he doesn't seem too supportive now doesn't say a lot for his willingness to stand by you "for better or worse, in sickness and in health." And as I'm sure you're aware, stress like this can easily be a trigger that could send you back into relapse.
I hope I didn't come off sounding too harsh or judgemental because that was not my intent. Your post just hit a lot of hot button topics for me and I would hate to see another person go through that.
I thought I was in love too, but what I now realize is that it was just easier to stay than to stand up and be my own person.
Good luck to you.
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CONFUSEDONE
4/12/07 2:20 P
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| Im 19 years old. My boyfriend of three years and I moved in together about a year ago. I have been struggling with an eating disorder for about 4 years not and was recently hospitalized. After I returned home, I had a minor relapse and came home one day to find all of my stuff packed in garbage bags. My boyfrined kicked me out of the house for two days only letting me return if I swore to stop my eating disorder. Thing is,that isnt something you can just stop. It is a disease. He doesnt understand that. He told me If I were to go back to my old ways he would leave me. Anyway, Im young and I want so badly to be on my own and do what I want to do while im young. He will not allow me to get a tatoo, though I really want one, he wont let me get a cat, though I really want one. I just dont know what to do, I love him so much but I really want to be independant and do my own thing, but its not possible with him. what should I do?? any suggestions?
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