Thanks for the advice ladies. Sounds like not getting the zipper up on the dress of your dreams is a big motivation! I think I'm leaning towards the procrastination, but I still feel unmotivated! And I'm totally excited to go dress shopping! Hopefully that excitement stays with me after the first dress is on :-)
CRICKETRO 11/12/06 5:20 A
i got married Nov 4th 2006. when i first looked up a gown in April this year i was 165 lbs and the sales ladies told me that nothing would ever look good "on that body". i already found SP and i was starting to lose weight. 25 lbs later, in mid-Sept , i got the gown, directly frm the shelf. a perfect fit! by the time my wedding was, i've lost another 5 lbs and the gown was little loose on me but looked fab LOL (oh well, there are photos on my SP page).
my advice is to postpone as much as u can the time to get the wedding gown. no reason to get it now and have it altered later. if u do have to get it now, ask how much do the alterations cost...just to be sure. i am sure that only thinking of being a bride will give u enough motivation to lose weight. it sure gave me! :)
SARABLUENOSE 11/12/06 3:28 A
I'm with Katie! I bought my dress with my mum, at home (overseas), and then brought it back with me to Europe... Then, I went up a dress size... And ignored it because, well, I could...
Then I tried the dress on, and when it wouldn't do up - well, that worked for me...
If you need a visual image in your mind to REALLY know where you DON'T want to be, then go ahead - try a dress on... But don't let that just make you despair or feel bad about yourself... Realise that you look good now, that you could buy a bigger dress that looks great and glowing and stuning NOW - but you want something more than that...
I now have an image of myself when the dress didn't fit, and a mental picture of how I will look when it does... And I superimpose them over the image of my bridesmaid eating cake in front of me whenever we catch up for coffee... It's working for me... I even pull the images out (mentally) when I don't want to work out...
NURSEKATIE 11/11/06 5:12 P
I felt the same way when I "started" trying to lose weight again (I had previously lost 40 lbs on weight watchers and was 10 lbs away form my goal weight and gained 10 lbs of it back). So I only have 20 lbs to lose and I was not serious. I then bought my wedding dress, which was the size I was a year ago and the back was no where near closing and it hit me, you are not healthy right now and that needs to change. So now I have a picture of my dress (on th perfect mannequin) on my fridge, in my locker at work, in my bathroom, by my computer, etc... To remind me what I am working towards and that has helped tremendiously. The other thing that helps is that I don't have to go to my initial sizing until the end of January or the beginning of February (it's a 2007 dress that I got at a wedding show that isn't available to ordering until January). So I knew when I bought my dress in September that I had plenty of time to safely and effectivly lose the weight for good so that I could buy the dress the size I wanted to be and just maintain for 9 - 10 months.
So what you need to do is find something that is special to you that will motivate you. I don't think that "trying on a dress just to see how aweful it looks and posting that aweful picture of myself in it on my fridge" will do anything, but make you feel bad about how you look now. The goal is to feel good about yourself now, during your healthy lifestyle journey and at the end.
Hope that helps.
~Katie~
DMBNL41 11/10/06 9:00 P
Hi all. I'm a 25 (well on sunday I will be) year old bride to be. The wedding is 7-28-07 and I have just started to try and get "serious" about losing the weight. The thing is though...I don't think I'm serious. I WANT to be. When people ask "do you have the dress yet" I don't want my answer to continue to be "well no, I have to lose all this weight before I am even going to try one on". The wedding is approaching fast...2007 is approaching fast and I don't know if I am just too laid back about it all, or if I lack the right motivation. What do you think about trying on a dress just to see how aweful it looks and posting that aweful picture of myself in it on my fridge? I wonder if that will be enough motivation?
