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CHRISTINECOLO
11/28/06 10:37 P
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| I am 55. My Dad died 9 years ago. My grown sons will be giving me away. I am doing a balloon launch for my Mom at the wedding. I am hoping that it will be snowing so we can send her balloons to heaven in the snow. I miss her athousand times a day...but I'm sure somehow she knows that. She was my best friend. I didn't want her to linger in pain tho, so I am glad it ended the way it did. She was such a strong woman...I hope I can be as amazing as she was.
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JANICESKATES
11/28/06 8:46 P
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You're not alone. You have your fiance and friends and (maybe) other family to keep her memory with you. You may not think of her every minute or even every day, but you'll always think of her at the big times and during quiet reflections. That's enough. She'd want you to continue living your life at a normal pace and you can't do that if you're focused on your grief.
Don't feel bad if there's something you want to cut at your wedding because she's not around to appreciate it. My dad died almost 10 years ago, but I didn't want anyone else to walk me down the aisle (I went alone), and we didn't have a father/daughter or mother/son dance so that I wouldn't dwell on it.
I was at a wedding a couple of years ago for a friend whose mother died when she was young. Her aunts, her mother's sisters, gave a toast to say how much her mother would have enjoyed the wedding and my friend's happiness in life. If someone else close to your mom will be at the wedding, you might suggest (or hint to someone else to make the suggestion for you) something like this so that your mom is remembered and honored in a happy way at your wedding.
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I am sorry to hear about your loss. I am sure she will be with you through every step.
Best wishes,
Nina
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CHRISTINECOLO
11/14/06 1:06 P
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| She would not have been there anyway. She lived in Florida and was way to ill to travel. We were going to broadcast the ceremony to her. She will be watching from heaven, I am sure.
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I'm sure it will be hard to not have your mom with you physically at your wedding. She will be so proud of you though because you're going to look so beautiful!!!
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SHELBI81
11/13/06 11:10 P
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| Sometimes keeping busy is good... It keeps your mind off things and don't feel guilty... No matter what - she 'IS' your mother and she is a part of you. Doing whatever it is that you do at anytime would make her happy just to know that you are doing it. Make sure you look after yourself... go and have a massage or a facial and treat yourself... sounds like you deserve a nice rest!
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CHRISTINECOLO
11/8/06 11:14 A
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| Congratulations!!! My wedding is about 6 weeks away. I am kind of just numb now...I don't think about Mom every minute and sometimes that makes me feel guilty...but she would have wanted me to have a happy, beautiful wedding and that's what I'm trying to accomplish.
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SAMBINA77
11/8/06 10:52 A
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Just wanted you to know that i got married on the 21st. The wedding was great and alothough I missed my Dad I made it through. The Daddy/daughter song was hard...but watching my new husband and our daughter dance together helped.
Everything will be fine....just remember that.
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My thoughts are with you at this time...
May you feel her prescence at your wedding. I know that she'll be there for you.
Use the vision her strength to help you through this really hard time and to help you in losing the weight you want.
I know where you are coming from.
Take care.
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JOYFULSERENITY
10/10/06 7:00 P
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| My condolences to you and your family.
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SAMBINA77
10/10/06 3:10 P
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| Just remember time heals.
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| I'm glad that things are a little easier for you. Take care of yourself still.
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CHRISTINECOLO
10/10/06 10:45 A
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| My condolences to you. It is very hard. My mom and I shared a heart. I am an only child and she was my best friend. She bought the silk flowers for my wedding this last summer...so she will be there in a way. I think she knew that she wouldn't survive. I am glad she is in a better place...she was in so much pain, but I was left here all alone and I miss her terribly.
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SAMBINA77
10/10/06 9:59 A
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| I can relate...I am getting married a week from Saturday and my Dad died on September 2nd...it will be hard just remember the day is about you and even if we can't see our parents they will be there.
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CHRISTINECOLO
9/15/06 9:00 A
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| Thank you all for your support. It gets a little easier day by day, but that may just be because I am sooooo busy with estate stuff that it hasn't soaked in yet. I can still feel her presence so that is comforting.
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Christine, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's definitely not easy losing soemone you love.
I lost my Dad 2.5 years ago. He had a sudden stroke and that was it. You will never get over or accept losing someone you love but you do learn to deal with it... and it isn't easy but things come along that help you deal with it... Keep your head up, I'm sure your Mum just wants you to be happy... and she will be right next to you on your wedding day, as my Dad will be with me. My thoughts are with you... xo
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| We'll keep you in our thoughts, Christine.
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| My condolences. Your mom will be with you still on your wedding day.
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| I am sorry to hear about your loss. I am in a similar point in my life, At the end on July I lost my best fried (as close to a sister as you can get - with different parents) who was also to be my Matron of Honor. She lost over 50 pounds before her wedding day and was the most beautiful bride I have ever seen. I am hoping her love and my memories of us will give me the strength to do the same. Just remember that even thought they are not physically with us, they will always be in our hearts. stay stong and we can get through this!
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CHRISTINECOLO
9/11/06 6:57 P
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| My Mom passed away the morning of Labor Day. Now she cannot be a part of my wedding. She would have been very proud if I got myself into my beautiful dress. She was so brave and strong until the very end. I am going to honor her by being just as strong and losing this weight and be healthy and beautiful on my wedding day.
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