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ROSE101493
10/13/06 3:47 P
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| i think its so much of a hassle having them there.
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SHELBI81
10/13/06 12:23 A
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| This is a great post... we had so many kids running around at our engagement party that we won't be having children at the wedding. I think sometimes the parents actually appreciate having the night off from the kids, that is of course if there is someone who can weatch the kids for them... makes it hard when there isn't someone to baby-sit.
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| we specifically put on our invitations "reception to follow for adults and children over 10"
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ROSE101493
10/10/06 3:45 P
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| i dont want to deal with the hassle of watching chiildren that arent mines or my fiances making a wrecked and you know when parents are having a good time they are not watching there kids
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PURPLE_OCTOPUS
10/10/06 1:33 P
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| I agree with Terri. I am being very specific when I'm addressing envelopes, and on the RSVP card, I am putting "We have reserved XX seats in your honor". They should be able to figure out kids aren't invited.
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| Spreading by word-of-mouth and being very specific on the addressees on the invitations is the best way to let people know. It's definitely your decision as to whether you want children at your wedding or not.
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ROSE101493
10/9/06 5:36 P
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| im putting on the reception cards that this is a adult reception i do not want my familys children running around waisting stuff all over the place and like you said my family members have more than one child a piece and i have a big family my fiances children is not even coming to the reception. for one how is they going to get home at 12 midnight because that is when the reception is over and plus i do not want their parents drinking and driving with the children in the back.
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| This was all helpful! I'm going to have the same issue at my wedding! Thanks everyone!
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thank you WALTHERCHIC for the advice. 
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WALTHERCHIC
8/7/06 11:34 A
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DH's cousin was having a heck of time with this. She has 3 cousins with 6 children each and they are clueless about it being just their names on the invites. She knew it wasn't "proper etiquette" but she went ahead and wrote "Adult reception immediately following..." on the Reception Cards. It was the only way to get through to her relatives that the kids weren't invited.
Good luck!
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| THANK YOU FOR THAT IDEA TOO, PARROTHEAD!!
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LISDEDIEU - that was what my wife and i did. hired two responsible known high schoolers who were family friends and set them up at her parent's house with food /videos/etc and put on the invitation
"for your convience a sitter will be provided for children under 15" or something like that - no complaints only compliments from folks who were happy to be able to get a night out w/o having to line up sitter, pay etc...
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Thank you for the suggestion..
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Another suggestion... the inner envelope on the invitation should state who you want invited to the wedding/reception. The outer envelope would read "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe" while the inner envelope would read "Jane and John". If they don't get the hint, then it's in their hands.
If you're talking about kids not invited to ONLY the reception, see if you could hire an older younger family member (did that make sense??) to watch over the kids in another area... Order pizzas and have movies for the kids... that might end up being cheaper than having to rent a bigger reception hall. But who knows?
Hope this helps, and if I think of anything else, I'll let you know :-)
::Edit:: I just thought of something else... On the RSVP cards, you could go ahead and write the names of who is invited on the card (I guess depending on what the card layout is).
JOHN AND JANE DOE
___will be attending
___will not be attending
Or however you want to do it!
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well i told my mother and she was the one that told me that the people are going to get angry at me for not allowing for them to have their hundred kids running around like maniac in my receptions. I told her that i don't really care but my mother do!! 
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JESTERJIGGER
8/1/06 8:18 P
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I agree...I'm still undecided on the kids at the wedding deal. But FI's aunt won't be able to come if kids aren't invited, and my old boss and his wife won't both be able to come if we don't have kids (plus I LOVE their kids, I would kidnap them and raise them as my own if I could). However, I don't really want my distant relatives bringing all their kids, since it's over 40 if they all come. Of course, it'd be different if I was close to my distant family, but instead I could care less if any of them were even at my wedding. However, I need to invite them, so I've got to make a decision about the kids thing.
Are your parents angry that you don't want kids at your wedding?
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| Thank you jesguys for you input.. You know how family stay angry at you for anything and everything and because me and my boyfriend are the one paying for it I think that i should have the people that I want in my wedding reception and not the one that they think ii should have.. what you guys think??
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| I agree. You can spread the word by your parents and fiance, or put in the # that is invited to the reception on the RSVP card. If someone puts in a larger number for their children, call them directly to explain.
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JESTERJIGGER
7/31/06 9:51 P
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Who do you need to tell? Extended family? If you and FI's parents know then ask them to handle the family part. Your mom (or dad) can let relatives with kids know that due to space constraints it will be an adults only affair. FI's mom can let her side of the family know. You can let friends with kids know if they are your friends, or FI can let friends with kids know if they are his friends. Of course, this would work best if both sets of parents are on board with the no kids idea. Otherwise, I would get them on board as soon as possible. You really just need the parents to let their relatives know that it's adults only due to space constraints, and then make sure you address the invitations to just the two adults in each party. You could look into stating no children on the invitation, but I would prefer to spread that by word of mouth, since technically guests shouldn't be bringing more people than are on the invitation.
Also, keep track of the RSVPs, if you haven't done invitations yet, leave a blank for them to fill in the number of people so that you can catch people adding kids and give them a heads up early on. (Or your parents can).
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| How do you tell your family that you want only a adult receptions? I have a problem i need some advice in telling my family that i want a adult reception only because some of them have to many kids and i have to get a hall that fit more than 350 and i don't want to spend more money on the hall than on the rest of the stuff.. Can someone suggest something??? Please..
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