I had the same problem with one of my ex-bm. Yes ex-bm...she is my cousin. She has quit being a bridesmaid in my wedding because she is apparently having financial problems, which is totally understandable and her nanny told me she would help her if my cousin needed help with paying for her stuff. My whole problem with her is that she has yet to call me and tell me directly. Even if she would have wrote me a letter that would have been fine. There are ways of getting my address or phone number (ex. calling a friend or family member). Apparently she has told everyone else but me. The way I found out was through one of my other bridesmaids which is also one of my cousins. I would just talk to them and ask them what is going on like everyone else has stated. Let them know that you need to know if they are still going to be in the wedding because if they are not then you need to find someone else.
KELLINA 5/17/06 10:35 P
Totally bring it up NOW or it will bite you in the butt. I have ONE non existent Matron of Honor and my other BM and Maid of Honor are doing all the work.
Major catastrophe now and they all hate each other! ARGH! Good luck! :)
PSUWIEST 5/3/06 7:58 A
This may sound harsh, but sit them down and explain that they're really not cooperating with you and you can't plan the wedding without their input and help. If they're still waffling on their involvement, then scrap 'em and pick two new attendants.
Honestly, do you want the headache of dealing with two attendants who won't answer your calls, e-mails, or don't want to get involved with your wedding planning? Especially the stuff that pertains to them!
TWEETY170 5/3/06 3:56 A
I have similar issues with one of my BMs. I will give you some advice, and I'm going to take it myself. :) I would say just confront them about it. I mean, don't go bridezilla on them or anything...just say "hey, I really want you to be in my wedding, and you're important to me. It's been really hard for me to get ahold of you and I also understand that you do not want to come to my makeup party. Is everything okay?" Maybe that will get the conversation rolling. Good luck!
ZOLA_NATALIE 5/3/06 12:18 A
I have one Maid of Honor and one Bridesmaid. They go to the same school in Idaho and I understand that they are both busy. However, if I ask them a direct question, they either never answer me or if they do, it is a month later when I alredy needed the answer. I am having a make-up party this saturday to hang out with the girls (I have to get my wedding make-up), discuss wedding stuff, get re-aquainted, and look at dresses for them since our original idea didn't work. Now I find out from my mom, that my bridesmaid really doesn't want to go to this make-up party. Why didn't she tell me? Oh, she didn't tell my mom, she told her mom, who told my mom, and then it got to me. I'm not bugging them all the time, I've only really asked two things since christmas, one was for some info for a get to know you newsletter (which I never got), and the other was for this party. It is supposed to be intimate and fun. I haven't seen them since christmas and I thought this would be great since I don't have the money for a spa day or manacures or anything like that. I need some advice on this. What do I do about my practically non-existant girls?? I've tried calling them (since they are now home), and I never get any answers, they are never around and don't answer e-mails. I need help.
