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SARAHKRISTY117
3/20/06 2:11 P
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| It's a huge tradition where I'm from and everyone I know does it. I don't feel guilty really having one. I mean, they don't have to come up and dance during it. And I'll gladly dance with everyone without money. It's something done for fun and to help out the new couple. My fiance and I are very young and need all the help we can get..haha.
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FEISTYKITTY
3/20/06 11:36 A
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Well, we've decided not to do it. I brought it up when talking with the DJ we've decided to hire, and FI said he's just really not comfortable with it.
So, decision made! Thanks for all the input!
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| I like the idea of doing the money dance and then donating the money to a good cause. That makes the money dance seem much more important, at least to me.
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HILLARYMVRE
3/18/06 5:21 P
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I haven't been to a wedding without a dollar dance either. I don't really want to look like we're asking for more money but I think a lot of people kind of expect it.
Therefore we will probably be having one, however, we will also be donating all of the money to the humane society.
It was kind of important to me for our dogs to play a part in our wedding even though they couldn't physically be there. Both of them were shelter puppies. We will also have guests make a donation to the humane society instead of klinking glasses to get us to kiss. Granted, we may be interupted more to kiss, but its for a good cause!
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| If the money dance is a tradition I would say go for it, but if it isn't some people may find it rude. The first time I saw a money dance was at a friend's wedding I wasn't crazy about the idea, especially considering the gift my fiance and I were giving, but I knew they were having one. I usually have eough cash to tip the bartender a check for the gift, and some lip gloss lol.
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FEISTYKITTY
3/16/06 10:44 A
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Thanks for all the replies, it's given me a lot to think about. I also asked my sister (who had a money dance at her wedding) and she asked "how many rich people will be there, anyhow?" The answer is somewhere in the neighborhood of 2, so I'm thinking about skipping it.
Although the idea of having the DJ announce that the money is optional might be good, too.
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After reading LMF's post and then mine again, I realize that from what I said my family sounds condesending and rude. So I completely apologize... I didn't mean to offend anyone who truly enjoys the money dance.
Wow I did not sound good...please forgive me!!
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We're doing one as it's a traditional thing in our city (and it's very traditional in hispanic culture and I'm hispanic). Also, we aren't registering for gifts, just for a honeymoon, so it's a neat way for some people in our family and friends groups who don't have much to give us a little gift.
It's not really considered tacky here, but more fun. And if you only have a dollar, it's not looked down on at all.
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Here they're called "Dollar Dances" but if you only give a dollar you're considered cheap. Which is why it's done towards the end of the night when everyone is tipsy and freer with their money...
I agree with the previous posters that it's slightly tacky. Yes, it's a good way to get some extra money but the guests have most likely already given you a gift or money (or both).
If your fiancee is adamant, I'd do it but have the DJ announce that money IS NOT required to dance with the bride. That way people feel free to dance without having to pony up more cash.
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| We never did that in our family but I did see it at my friend's and I did it. I don't know if I like it since people are giving you a gift in some way. I guess to each their own.
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Money dances started as an ethnic tradition...today many people adopt the idea to earn some more money. It is a tradition in my finances family but we definitely broke away from it...we feel that people are buying us a shower gift, wedding gift, transportation to the wedding, hotel stays, etc that was more than enough money for them to spend on us. I also think that it is a tad tacky to ask for more money. 
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| It is called a bucket dance where I am from! And it is a huge hit...I have never been to a wedding without one. I think it is just for fun anyway :) It gives you time to dance and talk to more people...we are doing it at our wedding for fun =) My whole family would be disapointed if we didn't. I don't think it is tacky it is a matter of fun!
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| I would personally feel tacky doing a money dance. But, whether or not a money dance is tacky does vary from family to family, so like others have said, go with what works for you and yours!
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CORREABRIDE2BE
3/15/06 5:26 P
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My fiance wants it (it's a big portuguese thing around here) but I won't have it. My theory is I would dance with anyone who came to my wedding (whether or not they bought a gift) for free... so why should anyone feel obligated to pay me to dance? In the end though, some guests expect it, and look forward to it. So do what is common in your area, and what you feel comfortable with. If you don't think you'll fell guilty after, then go for it! It is definitely an easy money-maker if your guests are into it :) I told my fiance if he really wants to do it he can... but it would personally make me uncomfortable, so I won't participate. If you think that you and your guests are comfortable with it, then do it for sure!
-Jocelyn
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JENNIBALYEAT
3/15/06 4:34 P
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| My mom told me "if people are coming to your wedding and bringing a gift, there is no need for a money dance". I believe money dances are tacky anyway and a tasteless way of saying you need more money. I know a few people who have had them and only the drunks get up and dance with you.
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FEISTYKITTY
3/15/06 4:14 P
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I'm just curious - who's doing a money dance? Is that something that's becoming less traditional? I kinda want to do it (come on, who wouldn't?) but I'm afraid that with the changing of the times, people might see it as just begging for more money (I mean, they probably already brought a gift, now they have to fork over cash, too?!).
What are your thoughts on it?
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