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| I am so sorry to hear that. I know you will have a great summer though. I was in Dublin in December and had the best time ever!!! We met so many people in a 4 day time frame, it was crazy! You will enjoy it. I hear that Scotland is great from friends as well.
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It's hard hard hard. You will eventually see the light in the tough experiences though! You can get back to your independence--focus on yourself and being who you are. Even though it is tough right now, having independence can be a blessing!
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| well we officially broke up
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DANCER1007
3/31/06 7:44 P
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| Maybe it's a blessing in disguise I guarantee you it all works out, and that you are going to have the greatest experience in Scotland, I wish I could study abroad!!! Experience life, my fiance and I will be experiencing life together..but sometimes I wish I could just go off and do my own thing. Good for you!
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SCHEEL1430
3/31/06 3:14 P
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getting out of college, traveling abroad, all are such wonderful experiences. i did something very similar right after college graduation. i was engaged in college to a wonderful man, but we had no business being married. looking back i'm really glad we called it off before the wedding. you are going to have the time of your life in your travels and probably come back a very different person. live it and love it.
i'm sorry you guys are going through all of this. it's so hard. hang in there.
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AURORAVLAD
3/31/06 6:03 A
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| while we aren't anywhere close to getting married, or engaged for that matter, things are starting to work a lot better. We've started to take it one day at a time and work out our differences. So far, so good.
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| This might be a blessing for both of you. Now that you will be studying abroad you will have time and distance apart.This could be a chance for you both to decide whether or not you are truly right for each other. Enjoy your time abroad, focus on yourself and your studies. When you return it may be the start of a whole new life for you.
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MOMMYSALAMI
3/21/06 12:59 P
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| At least he told you enough ahead of time and not bale from the alter! Youre gonna do just fine! If this wasnt meant to be, best to find out as soon as possible. Do good on your studies, and your self discovery!
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HOTTIEWANNABE
3/21/06 9:10 A
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YES!!! Everything happens for a reason!! I think about old boyfriends and then I think of my fiance and thank the Lord I did not marry one of them. Never settle for someone who is doubtful whether they want to marry you...heck never settle for anyone period.
For me I would tell him to hit the road and never look back. Then I would go abroad and live my life to the fullest, doing whatever my heart desires. Just think of it this way, what if you had been married, what would he have done then? And if he's so quick and easy to change his mind, what else will change at the drop of a hat in the future.
And don't worry about finacing a wedding, if you really want to be married that won't truely matter. Remember the wedding does not make the marriage.
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AURORAVLAD
3/20/06 12:56 A
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| So of course now I get all the little mailers for photographers and wedding receptions...stupid industry
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FARMERMARN
3/14/06 11:27 A
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I hope you can have a great summer and keep on having fun and learning! Things like this can amplify insecurities, especially when it causes you to focus on what the other person wants. Don't forget about you and what you want in the long run...
GO HAVE FUN!!!!!!
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| I agree that things happen for a reason. Good luck with this and remember it will work out the way it is supposed to.
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REDERICA1980
3/14/06 8:51 A
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| I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason. My heart goes out to you! Enjoy your study abroad (its an opportunity of a lifetime). If your relationship is meant to work, then it will. We're here for you!
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HUGS! Definitely agree that the breather will give you time to think. At least you didn't pay and go through it and then decide afterwards. Good luck to you and we are here for you!
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| I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope it all works out for the best for you.
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A007BONDGIRL
3/14/06 3:56 A
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| keep your chin up, it will all work out how it is supposed to. if you had doubts about getting married, then this is a blessing!
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AURORAVLAD
3/14/06 1:47 A
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So, I'm no longer getting married next year. The engagement has been postponed indefinately, mostly due to financial things and his sudden decision that he's "just not ready." See, it was all fine, except he was the one who wanted to get engaged in the first place. Luckily, we hadn't paid for the ring yet. He's the one that took me ring shopping. He's the one that told me June, July or August we'll get there...well, I guess I got my wish to slow down. The good news is, I"m going to go Study Abroad in Scotland this summer. Give us a breather, I suppose. Give us some self discovery time. I guess I'm just confused.
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