I learned that those that want to be involved will do everything the possibly can to be involved. If you don't want her involved at all I would truthfully talk to your father. Explain where you are coming from. Let him know that you don't mind her help but you only want help when you ask for it, you don't want it continously thrown in your face.
I don't remember if you mentioned your mother, but if she is involved let your stepmom know that although you appreciate her wanting to help you really think that it should be your mother's place.
There truthfully is no nice way to say it and I truthfully don't know how to deal with the stepmother because my parents are still married. Just remember it's your wedding. Don't let others change your plans for your wedding.... this is something I am finally getting a handle on now, 6 months out.
JESSANDDAN 2/26/06 11:01 P
I got engaged in August, and since then every time i talk to my step mother it is about the wedding. It is nice that she cares but not all the time, it would also be nice if she didnt critize everything i have chosen. She doesnt want me to have red bridemaids cause thats what she had in her first wedding and she got divorsed. She is also making life hell between my MIL and her because she has told my MIL that she has put a spanner in the works. My step mother has her own daughter which she will be able to involve her self as much as she likes but i just want her to leave me alone. Any ideas on how i can get her to butt out without upsetting my dad?
