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SUNSHINEGAL_30
2/26/06 11:50 P
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I have a major compulsive personality (meaning: I have to be organized and perfect all the time). It's a huge flaw and really causes more stress than necessary. So while I work on breathing instead of panting, Yoga, and counting to 10 before I have a meltdown, I also put money in a jar every time I get upset about something. The first time I cashed it in for a manicure. The second time I paid for two sweatshirts from Old Navy. Now I've got enough to cash in for a 45-minute massage--that'll be tomorrow. That's not really a solution to stress, I guess...but if you have to be stressed, you might as well reward yourself along the way.
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| It's complete stress the first couple weeks because you are thinking about everything you have to do. After things start getting done, things settle down. My suggestion get organized. As soon as we got engaged, I bought a 3 ring binder, dividers, and sheet protectors. I put everything in there: venues, dresses, cakes, makeup, hairstyles, bridesmaid dresses... you name it, it was in there. I later widdled it down. My wedding is completely planned 6 months before the event. It's a nice feeling. A lot less stressful and I can actually enjoy the fact that I am getting married in less than 6 months now. Although about a month before I will start stressing out again.
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CERACOBBLER
2/24/06 10:30 P
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i was very stressed the first few weeks of my engagement - after about a month the stress just sort of died down on its own. just overwhelming shock of 'all the things that just have to get done' when in reality i just needed to sit back and figure things out. once i had my wedding/reception location figured out things just started to fall into place.
good luck with your planning and enjoy it :)
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| How do you keep calm when you get excited? I find my problem is knowing that I have to make all these decisions, and wanting to do it TODAY to get it over with. I get over-excited about it, and get all anxious about setting the date, and making sure the church is available. I feel like once I can get that, the photographer, and the location decided, I can chill out with the rest of the details. But in the meantime, I just want to get that settled! I'm trying really hard not to be wedding, wedding, wedding 100% of the time... but it's so hard when you've just gotten engaged, and that's all people ask you about! :)
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| First of all you got to take it one day at a time. You need to come up with a game plan. First decide on a location...some locations come with DJ, Caterer, etc some do not. Make sure you exercise daily to keep the stress down, even if it is only a brisk walk.
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JENNIFER_BOST
2/24/06 7:41 A
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| I think I have found a church down here, but then we are having a separate reception in Iowa with his family so it's really crazy!! I haven't even thought about photographers yet!! This weekend we are going to sit down and start really talking about stuff to do..let the fun begin!! :)
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PERCIPIENT
2/23/06 9:36 P
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| Oh my god I'm totally in the same boat. I think I'm driving my fiance insane :) Engaged a week, and I'm ready to book the church already! Seriously, my friend was telling me that's the first thing you do (after you pick a date) because they go so quick! Ah! I found out one of the photographers I really liked was already booking for weddings in July and August of NEXT year. It's NUTS.
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JENNIFER_BOST
2/23/06 7:33 P
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| Just got engaged a week ago and already I am getting stressed about how to plan a wedding that's in a year. How do you bride-to-be's keep the stress level down?
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