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Thanks Christine,
I will let you know if I need your help. I will also read coach Deans motivations.
Take care,
Louise.
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CHRISTINEDC
6/16/06 11:07 A
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Relax, Louise. Nobody is upset about this. SP has a perfect right to do things the way they want to, and they seem to recognize that it's not everybody's cup of tea.
So many people who join SP have medium to serious health issues. I guess it takes a doctor to get some of us to pay attention. When my doctor suggested that I lose some weight, I readily agreed. But then I went home and whined to my husband, How can I do this? I can't exercise like everybody else. What am I gonna do? Poor me. And he wisely said, Well, then, you'll just have to do it without exercise, won't you? He was right at the time, but with the help of SP I found a way to exercise.
So much of weight loss--and health in general--is a mind game. I cannot control my post-polio decline, but I can do my utmost to be healthy and postpone it to the extent possible. And DOING something makes me feel much better about myself and my situation. I learned that from SP.
Louise, if you've lost weight then you know what to do. So maybe you need to look into your motivation for when things start to go awry. Coach Dean here on SP is WONDERFUL on this topic. Look for his articles in the Resource Center, and talk to him if you get a chance. He posts pretty regularly and has some ongoing threads on motivation.
GOod luck with your goals, and let me know if I can help.
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ChristineDC,
Thank you so much for posting here.
I read your journal and congrats on your achievement of your weight loss and goal weight.
At the moment I struggle to lose any weight but I think it might be in my head. I've lost more than 30kg (66lbs) three times in my life just to gain it all back again. I CAN'T maintain my goal weight.
Here in South Africa I even worked for a weight loss slimming club for 7 years and battle every single day of my life. Eventually I resigned because I was exausted from trying. I gained back over twenty pounds the first month. Five months later I gained back everything I lost and more.
Reading your story has motivated me beyond believe. I never thought of adding a few calories at a time. I just wanted to eat everything that I was deprived of for so long.
I am afraid of losing weight if that makes any sense. I want to be thin but it scares me to death.
I've got Lupus and my dr. told me to lose weight or die. I was in hospital for 14 days and still I've got this mental block that tells me that I am going to fail and gain it all back again.
Maybe one of the coaches can help me here. I don't know where to ask for help. I only know that I need help desperately.
Thanks for listening and I will follow your story every week now.
Greetings
Louise.
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CHRISTINEDC
6/16/06 9:35 A
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Louise: I know EXACTLY what you mean. I was asked to write a success story and did so, but SP wants the stories to take a certain format. I felt as you do that the story loses power when it becomes "as told to," and so I decided not to submit a story. Still, I suppose, there are a lot of people who would not be comfortable writing it themselves.
I did post my success story in my journal, Chartings, if you want to see it. It's at 3/20/2006.
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Hey Matt,
Thanks for the input. I never thought for one moment that the members did not tell their own stories. I just found it strange that it was told in the third person and not the first.
I have read hundreds of success stories in my life and I never saw it written in this way before. I really did not wanted to offend anybody. I am sorry if you feel offended.
Greetings
Louise.
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Hey Louise,
I know in my wife's and my case we actually did write the story. The SP editor at the time did change it from first person, but all the info, feelings, and emotions were straight from us.
matt
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SPARK_COACH_JEN
6/5/06 9:44 A
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Louise,
I appreciate the feedback and apologize if I misunderstood before.
Thanks for clarifying!
Coach Jen
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Excuse my English. Sometimes I use the wrong words. Not credit for losing the weight but in the sense that she cannot speak for herself.
I took the first person I could find to give you an example. Natasha N.
She felt....She also had serious.....Natasha had some....she still struggles.....eventually she....
I am not trying to find fault honestly. I just wonder why can't it be Natasha's words. I felt.... I had serious.... I still struggle...etc.
It sounds like all these people are dictating and somebody is relating the story to us. Like she can't speak for herself.
Am I putting my neck out here. Sorry. I thought it was a suggestion.
Louise.
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SPARK_COACH_JEN
6/5/06 7:32 A
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Louise,
I'm not sure how we are giving ourselves the credit when the story is about the person and all of their hard work and success.
Most of the story is in their own words, we just do some editing as necessary.
Coach Jen
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Dear Sparks,
Why do spark tell the loser's stories and not the losers themselves? Why change everything they say to somebody else telling the story?
One day when I am at goal I would like to tell the story in my own words. I don't mind if it gets edited, but at least it will by my story in my words in the way I did it. It will be my way of motivanting others. I will still give spark the credit, but now sparks are giving themselves the credit. How come?
Louise.
Ps: I love the case studies.
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