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I was married the first time at 19 and was widowed at 21. He was the love of my life. We had a baby who was only 6 month old when he died. He was in a car accident. I remarried at 24 mostly because I was lonely and I wanted another child. We had a baby but he had serious mental problems that he had hidden from me before we married. I stayed with him for 5 years. When he tried to kill me and the kids I left him. I stayed a single mom for a while. Then I met the man I am married to now. We lived together for 3 years before I would marry him. I wanted to be sure we could make it. We have been married for 15 years now. We are very happy together and he has been a wonderful father to my children. He had 3 of his own kids and our biggest challenge was merging the two families. But it has worked out very well and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world.
Rene
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One of my first husband's many talents was being an authentic French Chef who trained with Julia Child. This took me out of my 'too thin' state and then some. My second husband and I lived most of our married life in Saudi Arabia where I cooked and taught yoga and stayed at a healthy weight. My present man and I have been together 15+ years and he is younger and keeps me active and supports everything having to do with me staying healthy.
I feel blessed to have and to have had such amazing men to share my life with. 
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| Was married for 20 years to wrong guy and have three amazing adult children by him. two are married and one still lives with me and husband no 2 and goes to University, but will graduate in fall and will move out I hope. My new husband & I have been together for 13 years but just got married in Sept of 2005. We are older now and we do enjoy each other's company and we love each other very much so we decided why not get married. It is working out so far. I'm not much for being married because I love my freedom but you know this is Ok
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| Well I have been married twice before..........never lasted more than 2 years, this time I am on year 7 ND HAPPY AS A LITTLE PIGGY IN *s*
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OLDREDROSIE
4/23/06 6:15 P
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Hey all! This is my second time around! Got married way to young the first time!(18) BAD relationship..lasted 5 years. Got married again at 24...too soon probably! I have 3 great kids! Time will tell how this one works out...there are days that it would be really easy to walk away! I think I gained weight because I just wasn't happy with me..then I would get depressed because I was heavy..and I would eat more! Strange but true! I think I depended on HIM to make me happy. Now I realize I have to make ME happy! So...I am trying to lose weight to boost my confidence and to break the cycle of lose..gain..lose...gain!
If this marriage doesn't work out..NEVER AGAIN!LOL
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INFOGODDESS
4/20/06 6:23 A
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I've been married twice, divorced twice because I had "settled" and chosen the wrong guys. Each time I lost lots of weight - I just felt lighter after getting out of depressing, non-functional marriages. I felt good about myself, and the weight just seemed to disappear. Gee, maybe I should marry again so I can divorce again and lose all the weight I've put back on
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AUNT_BEE_1945
4/19/06 11:55 P
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Married, in 1963 - had a daughter and a son. Divorced, husband left me for his best friends wife.
Started dating, fell in sainly in love with my two younger children father, we were never married. But togather 10 years.
Married a man I didn't love, God Only knows Why!
I Divorced him, some fool burned down the hall of records and my divorce papers never got recorded.
Five years later got to talking to my x husband. I was lonesome, and tired of being alone, made the mistake of inviting him up to Washington to Visit.
He has been here very since, I be came disabled, now I feel trapped, because of money. Hard to live on 545 dollars a month. So I am still in the marriage. He is a good person, I just need something more than he knows how to give.
Aunt Bee: Getting so Old now! Who Would want me.
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| I agree with you Bonnie, I have a boyfriend of 4 years and it has been great. We do our own thing and share those things we want to share. We give each other the space one needs now and than. I am in control of my life and that is the way I like it. Divorce is so hurtful and in this day and age I never want to do that again. It took me 30 years to firgure this out but I am enjoying my life. I am not saying marriage is bad it is just not for me, and the world is better if I just stay single. More power to those who stay married, they are stronger than me. You all are great and my hat is off to you all who can indure.
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I'm with Renee,
gave up after the third disasterous one (He was a drugaddict and ended up dying from hepatitis B & D, which I thank god, I somehow didn't get too)
But I have been in a commited relationship for over 5 years with Al. He's actually the one who doesn't ever want to get married again, but it is fine by me. Seems to work out much better this way!!!
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RUBYSLIPPERS
4/13/06 11:19 P
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| ok you win but I thought I might...1st at age 19 for 1 year, 2nd at 23 for 7 years, 3rd at 38 for 4 years,I sometimes think I am just not the type to be married, although inside it is truly what I want, but I can;t seem to find the right person and have settled and that is why i have been married 3 times. If i ever do find the right one I will definately do it all over again
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| Well i hold the record of a lovely 4 times. This why I do not need do married thing anymore. I just can't pick them or I can't get it right....so no more. I am happier this way and I am in control of my life.
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Howdy group!
I don't think it's how many times we've been married, I just think we're older and it's harder to get rid of our extra weight. I got married at 19 (that was a bright idea) divorced 10 years later and remarried at 32 (better idea). My husband is the best thing in my life. It's my hormones (or lack there of) that are driving me crazy.
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Marries three times and put on weight after the third, I think, from feeling like I just couldn't make good decisions. Also had some other issues that cropped up at the same time over some childhood abuse and I didn't want to look attractive.
I am currently living with my significant other. We've been together for over 5 years and I think age helps. I don't think we would have gotten along when we were younger, cuz he was just like the exes, drank alot and ran around. Now he's too old!!!!!
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PERMANENTCHANGE
4/13/06 10:08 A
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| Not sure there is a pattern there ....I've been married to my first and only love almost thirty years. I think a lot of weight gain is just not exercising enough and wrong food choices. Then there is emotional eating and we all to some degree eat because of happiness,sadness,boredom,etc etc....We can do this now because we have tools,support ,and know it's a lifestyle of regular exercise and balanced and normal food portions. Good luck on your journey fellow sparkers!!! Have an awesome day.
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| You may be correct here...this is my second marriage (15 years) and I started putting weight on within 2-3 years after marrying again. In my first marriage (15 years) I spent more time exercising and was fairly athletic and have found with this marriage, I don't push myself as much. In my first marriage, I tried to create the perfect life and it didn't work so guess I don't try as hard the second time around. I need to work on that...
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| For me, the second one wasn't any better than the first because I made the same mistakes all over. Now that I'm older (and hopefully wiser) I don't have the same temperment I had when I was younger. Will there be a #3? Probably not, but you just never know!
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SPOTTEDOWL
4/13/06 6:51 A
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I've just been reading some of the postings in different topic areas of the Getting Fit Over 50 page and was struck by the number of people who are on their second marriage. I am - and am wondering if an unsuccessful (we both could have done things better I'm sure) first marriage has a lot to do with weight gain. Unhappiness usually makes me eat more for some reason....... Anyway, wondering how many of us were married in the 60's and are now on second marriages.
Married first 1965 - divorced 1990 - remarried 1994.
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