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4/26/12 11:52 A

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Loved your story. Congratulations!

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2/5/12 11:58 A

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@GYPSYFIT
"That was the biggest thing, positivity"
That was the most inspiring.. THANK YOU!!!!
Even though I don't really believe he and I are going back together I am determined to give my confidence a boost... And you helped me!
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10/18/11 9:31 P

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Since you told me your story, I'll tell you a little of mine. My boyfriend and I dated for a year. I was completely head over heels for him.. and he for me. I have weight issues, he doesn't, I came from a severely messed up and broken home.. his family is completely normal. I had emotional issues from my past that led to me being overweight in the first place, and I just couldn't look past them. No matter how many times he complimented me, told me I was gorgeous, beautiful, whatever, and he just wanted me to be healthy.. I didn't listen.
So during one month, when my depression really just.. I had given up on everything. Eating right, working out, everything.. I was jealous of girls who were his friends who he had never even met outside of the internet! I cried every night on the phone, I did worst things, I was absolutely self destructive. I had things I had never allowed myself to feel, instead I did everything to numb the pain. And I lost him.
The day I lost him, I promised myself that I wouldn't hurt myself anymore. I cried so much, so hard that first week, I walked around with perma-puffy eyes. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks. For the first time in my life, I wasn't hungry. NOT a good thing. I ate a bowl of oatmeal a day, only because I made myself. And I slept. I also made affirmation cards. I thought of every compliment he'd given me, my friends had given me, anything I could remember, and I wrote them down. At first, I had no compliments for myself. Until I did, and added to them. That was the biggest thing, positivity. Every time I started crying, getting upset, etc.. I knew he was dating again. I pulled out those dang cards. And I made myself go out and start dating again. I even met a guy who I really liked.. I just.. didn't love him like that... I moved from WA state to NV.. and then something happened.
He got ahold of an ex bestfriend, the one who had set us up, and cried to her telling her how much he missed me, how he had done me wrong.. all these things.. that was 5 months to the week after we broke up. I was already in NV. I was in a stronger place. I was NOT going to go rushing back to him. We exchanged a few messages. He said he had been a D*** and appologized. I accepted. At that point, my heart was .. wary.
I kept dating different guys, nice guys, letting them take me to the movies, going out to kareoke. Etc. I always thought about him. I never stopped. But I told myself it wasn't meant to be. And then.. Nine months to the week after we broke up, and four months after he appologized.. we just started talking again. A month later, I moved back to WA state, and now we live together.. our relationship is everything it was, everything it should have been and more. Our relationship is stronger, because I am stronger. We both did a lot of growing while we were apart, and it reflects in how we are together. Something about you putting your story down though, just made me feel compelled to tell mine :0)

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.- Thomas A. Edison


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10/11/10 3:27 A

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The worst part about this whole situation is that I have this other guy who is trying to start a relationship with me. He is wonderful and so sweet and I know I should like him but I'm still stuck on this other guy. It's like the song "The Way i Loved You" by Taylor Swift:

He is sensible and so incredible
And all my single friends are jealous
He says everything I need to hear and itís like I couldnít ask for anything better
He opens up my door and I get into his car
And he says you look beautiful tonight
And I feel perfectly fine

But I miss screaming and fighting and kissing in the rain
And itís 2 AM and Iím cursing your name
Youíre so in love that you act insane
And thatís the way I loved you
Breakiní down and coming undone
Itís a roller-coaster kinda rush
And I never knew I could feel that much
And thatís the way I loved you

He respects my space and never makes me wait
And he calls exactly when he says he will
Heís close to my mother
Talks business with my father
Heís charming and endearing and Iím comfortable
Taylor Swift Lyrics on www.lyrics-celebrities.anekatips.com

But I miss screaming and fighting and kissing in the rain
And itís 2 AM and Iím cursing your name
Youíre so in love that you act insane
And thatís the way I loved you
Breakiní down and coming undone
Itís a roller-coaster kinda rush
And I never knew I could feel that much
And thatís the way I loved you

He canít see the smile Iím faking
And my heartís not breaking
Cause Iím not feeling anything at all
And you were wild and crazy
Just so frustrating intoxicating complicated
Got away by some mistake and now ..

I miss screaming and fighting and kissing in the rain
Itís 2 AM and Iím cursing your name
Iím so in love that I acted insane
And thatís the way I loved you
Breakiní down and coming undone
Itís a roller-coaster kinda rush
And I never knew I could feel that much
And thatís the way I loved you uhhh
Whooa whooo oh oh
Oh and thatís the way I loved you
oh, oh oh uhh .. oh oh oh whoow
Never knew I could feel that much
And thatís the way I loved you

It's like in my head I know that it'd be so much better to be with this other guy (who calls me beautiful and gorgeous all the time) but I can't bring myself to feel anything for him. It's all about this other guy. ARRRRRGGGGGHHH!

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9/17/10 2:16 P

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Even though I don't know you guys I kind of had a similar experience with my high school sweetheart. We are both in college now not together but he has told my friends that he wants me in the future? and he even once confessed when he was drunk that every time something didn't work out between us was because he loved me so much and could picture the rest of his life with me but that scared him because of how young we are. He said he felt like he shouldn't have already met the person he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.
It might just be that your guy is scared of the feelings he has for you since y'all were friends before his feelings are probably strong. I hope that everything works out for you and it is really confusing while it goes on.
As for me I'm trying my best to cut off all ties with my guy. I don't want to be sitting around waiting for him. He knows that I may not be there when he is ready but he is still willing to take that risk so I figure he isn't worth my time anymore. I want to get skinny and find a new man.

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9/6/10 4:57 A

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So things have started up with us again. I'm so confused.

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7/27/10 4:14 P

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Wow.. that guy sounds like a massive jerk. He gave a lot of signs along the way in your story, actually, that he was not worth your time (red flag #1 was him not kissing you around anyone else)... but I'm guessing you might be really young still and not yet fully experienced in the horrible ways that *some* (thankfully, not all) guys can unfortunately be.

I think all your revenge goals are great. I too have embarked on such a revenge mission towards a guy who hurt me badly in the past. But what I found was that by the time I achieved my goals I no longer cared about the guy who hurt me and I was enjoying life too much. Of course, when I got slim he came crawling back all apologetic and everything. I just shrugged him off and continued having fun. I was told (by his best friend's gf) that he cried himself to sleep on more than a few nights about my rejecting him. Did I feel guilty about that? Heck to the NOOOO!

Best of luck to you!

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7/23/10 11:09 P

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I like # 3 ;)

Red Hot Heart Breakers Challenge
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Total loss aim ~17 lbs
DONE AND DONE!


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7/18/10 11:20 P

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Thanks. And I definitely will. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!

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7/18/10 8:39 P

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Well I have faith that you will get your revenge, and I wish you all the luck in the world. Let us know how it goes.

What ever does not kill me will make me stronger.


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7/14/10 1:10 P

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While I'm losing weight, getting in shape, and getting healthy for me it is a little bit for revenge on every guy who has ever screwed me over/rejected/hurt me, especially this last one. We have been really good friends since our Freshman year in high school (2004-2005) and I've always had a crush on him but I resigned myself to believing that nothing would ever happen.

About a month and a half ago we were hanging out alone, like we usually did, in his garage watching "South Park" and he had his hand on my leg and kept touching my face and getting really close to my face (as he'd been doing for a month or so prior to this incident) and I just wrote it off as him flirting (which was how we interacted, anyway). No big deal, right? Wrong. We went into his basement and started watching a movie throughout which he continued to get in my space and touch my face and say things like, "I can't keep my hands off of you" which I laughed off and assumed were jokes. That is until he got right in my face (forehead to forehead), which he'd been doing for the month or so before this (but only when he'd been drinking), but this time our faces were so close that our lips were touching and we were just talking like that,not kissing. Yet anyway. Then he did that again and licked my mouth. I was like, "Really? You licked my mouth?" and he replied, "Well, I'm not gonna lick your face." So leaned over to his chair and licked both sides of his face (my friends and I are weird people so this isn't that out of the ordinary). He was a little shocked, "Really? Now my face smells like your spit." I laughed and leaned over again (which ended up being me leaning on his chest) and wiped the spit off of this face. Then he grabbed my wrists and we wrestled for a second. Then he started kissing me. I was so shocked that I didn't kiss back for a few seconds, then I did. After a while we stopped, looked at each other, smiles, then started giggling. I sat back into my chair and we continued to watch the movie. In my head I was freaking out but trying to keep calm on the outside. A little while later we were resting our heads on our hands and he kept smacking my hand out from under my head and I would do it back. Then that turned into him leaning over to my chair and kissing me again. I was so giddy. Then our friend came over and we all watched the movie for a while longer. Then he had to go pick up our other friend and his date from prom so the other guy and I just went upstairs and hung out with his mom, younger sister and cousin. While he was gone I text two of my best friends to let them know what happened and they freaked out. Then he got back and we had a bonfire. Then after that was over he drove me home. When we got to my house, I said, "Ok, well, bye." And bam! we were kissing again. We made out for about an hour when my dad came outside to take the dog out to go potty and I decided that would be a good time to say goodnight. We did and I snuck inside, floating on air. The next day I had a job interview (I got the job) and my grandma drove me to that then dropped me off at a photoshoot my friend was doing, I told her and she freaked. Then we went back to my place and hung out. Then my bestie got off of work and I went over to her place and gave her all the details. She'd wanted us to get together/knew this was going to happen for a while and was thrilled.

Then he text me later that night, "Damn. I'm so hot and sweaty" to which I replied, "Well, at least your lips aren't swollen to twice their original size (he was biting them). ha ha." "Mine have had more practice. Lol." "Well, we should try and get some practice time in on Friday (my bestie and I were having a bonfire) ;)" He replied with, "Definitely :)" I was so excited for the bonfire. Then we all got drunk and nothing happened. I was so bummed. Then another week passed and nothing happened. :( So I assumed it was a fluke and decided that it wouldn't happen again.

The next Sunday (two weeks after the first incident) he decided to have a bonfire. He picked me up and we went to his place with his best friend. We walked into the house and I was standing by the table and he just walked up and put his arm around me and gave me a squeeze and I wrapped my arms around his waist and that was our hug. Very relationshipy, if you ask me. Then more people came over and we had the bonfire. After the bonfire we were discussing what to do and (he had gone into the house to put his hookah away) he came out stood next to me and put his arm around me again. WTF?!?! I know, craziness. Then we went to our friend, Joe's, house to watch Inglorious Basterds. We started out sitting next to each other on the couch. I couldn't even listen to him breathe I was so excited by him (Sorry if that's TMI). I think he was having the same problem because he was breathing quite heavily. Then I went to the bathroom and someone stole my spot so I sat on the floor with Joe's sister. The movie ended and we all went our seperate ways. Rich, the kid that rode with us went to the bathroom before we left. So, me and the guy walked outside. We were walking down the driveway just chatting and I yawned, then he bumped into me on purpose. So, I pushed him playfully and said, "Jerk". Then he asked, "You wanna start something?" to which I replied, "Absolutely". Then he kissed me. We made out of a second and did our usual "pull-apart-look-at-each-other-smile-and-g
iggle" routine. Then we walked to the car. Once in the car we started again. Then Rich opened the door (Rich likes me :/) and the dome light turned on and we scattered like cockroaches. It was hilarious. Then they dropped me off at my house. I was so dizzy and freaked out (in a good way).

Then the Wednesday after that he sent me a text at about 8 PM saying "Movie night at my house" so I called him and asked what time but he didn't know because he was at his grandmother's birthday party. My car didn't work so I told him I'd try and find a ride. He told me he'd pick me and that he'd call when he was close. Three hours later he called and informed me that he was 13 minutes away, he's funny sometimes. He pulled into the driveway, I came out and got into the car. We chatted for a second then he kissed me, we made out for a while then headed over to his place. Then he pulled the car into his driveway and we kissed again. Then we went inside and I watched "Robin Hood Men in Tights" with his sister while he fell asleep in the chair next to me. Then the movie was over and his sister and I couldn't figure out how to turn it off so I woke him up. She went upstairs and he turned off the DVD player and the TV (pitch black in the basement now) and came over and started to kiss me, again. We did that for a while, then we went upstairs and said goodbye to his sister and he took me home, not before we made out in his car in his driveway, again. Then we made out again when we got back to my house. Then we did some other stuff, I'll spare you the details.

The next night he and Rich picked me up for another movie night. Then my BFF drove me home.

Then the night after that was my BFF's birthday. We all got drunk and the guy had sex with my best friend (she was so drunk she doesn't remember and I know this would never have happened were she sober) and I made out with his best friend :/. Awkward.

Then things were weird for a month. He pretty much ignored me and when we were out in public with our friends he acted very weird. Now things are slowly getting back to normal.

Sorry that was so long but that's the whole story.

Now for my plan of action to exact my revenge on him:

1. Get in shape so I look dynamite for the Spring Break/End of school year trip he and I are taking to either LA or Las Vegas (I asked my friends and he was the only one that wanted to go)
2. Get tan, because let's face it, white and pasty with bright blue veins showing through your skin is NOT attractive.
3. Get a boyfriend, if even for a month or two, it doesn't need to be forever. By no means would I be using the guy but I have a feeling the first guy I date during my transformation won't be the last guy I date. Preferrably, I'd like a guy who is hotter and has a better body than this guy, that'd sting him.
4. Hang out with him as much as possible and act as if nothing happened.
5. Turn him down (at least the first few times) if he tries anything. I'm not going to completely deny him since this is what I want but I'm for sure going to make him work for it, I had to.
6. Be happy and live my best life possible. He dropped out of college, just as I started. He once, drunkenly, told me that he admired all of my goals and dreams for my life so I'm gonna chase after them.

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