that was a excellent start now the next step is not to even call and ask is he coming over for the weekend!
i hate to say it but 5 weekends in a row it's obvious he is seeing someone else or he does not want to be bothered anymore or both!
i have learned from enough relationships that if they get on there defense about asking to spend time with them there is more than likely a another party (person) involved!
he has become accustomed to you calling every weekend to see if he is coming over so START PLANNING YOUR WEEKEND NOW!! lol.... as much as you want to call him because it has just become a habit DO NOT CALL HIM LET HIM CALL YOU!!!.. when he see's/realizes that you have not called him i guarantee you he is going to call you because in his mind he will be thinking wow she didnt call to see if i was coming over...where is she...who is she with...i wonder if she's someone else...
if you give a man/some men to much attention they start to think they have wrapped around their finger but if treat them like a dog or give them just enough attention to let them know your interested!
but honestly who wants to or feels like playing games wiith a grown man!
if things were fine and then he starts acting simple he either is scared of love because he has been hurt before or seeing someone else and usually it's both becuz most men don't like expressing themselves so they start seeing someone else!
he doesnt have the courtsey and respect to call you and say im not coming over for 5 weekends in a row..gurl go on with your life he is not worth your friendship....heck it's summer time you can and will meet another man!
So my ex and I have decided to stay friends, and I have recently moved away from where he lives. he still tells me that he loves me more than I will ever know and what not but whatever on that one. So I called him the other day to see if he was going to be able to make it to my place this weekend and he started to get all defensive about the fact that he was not going to make it again (this is the 5th weekend in a row).
So anyway, he started talking garbage about how I always get on him for not actually making it and I told him ....... "I DON'T CARE WHETHER YOU MAKE IT OR NOT, I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHETHER OR NOT TO MAKE OTHER PLANS. YOU SEEM TO THINK THAT I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU, WELL I HAVE BEEN DOING JUST FINE WITHOUT YOU HERE IN MY LIFE!!!"
I was so proud of myself that I just had to share this with all of you. I feel much better for doing so, and it is such a freeing feeling.
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