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Team I first want to say that I have neglected this thread when here is where it all started for me with all the great support I got and still get from this team.

SANDY when my youngest DS moved out right after high school, moved close enough I could yell out the back door at him. He was in the process of moving out, but I thought he was gonna wait 1 more day before he moved his bed. We were gone all day and when he did not come home I went and looked in his bedroom and seen his bed gone and broke down into tears. It got better with time cause he was down here almost all the time, but then he got a girlfriend, and they have been together 3 years now I am still not over that, so I can only imagine the pain of one moving away.

In my situation over the g/f issue I had to be told to put my BIG GIRL PANTIES ON emoticon I don't even remember what my original name was when I started but as you can see I had to stick with it. That was just for my issues with the g/f not the same thing as the pain of them leaving us in the beginning as I am slowly, but learning now.

The other ladies on this team are much better with word's and saying thing's in the right prospective than I, but just know that my heart does go out for you SANDY emoticon

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IWEARBGPANTIES's Photo IWEARBGPANTIES Posts: 756
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Team I first want to say that I have neglected this thread when here is where it all started for me with all the great support I got and still get from this team.

SANDY when my youngest DS moved out right after high school, moved close enough I could yell out the back door at him. He was in the process of moving out, but I thought he was gonna wait 1 more day before he moved his bed. We were gone all day and when he did not come home I went and looked in his bedroom and seen his bed gone and broke down into tears. It got better with time cause he was down here almost all the time, but then he got a girlfriend, and they have been together 3 years now I am still not over that, so I can only imagine the pain of one moving away.

In my situation over the g/f issue I had to be told to put my BIG GIRL PANTIES ON emoticon I don't even remember what my original name was when I started but as you can see I had to stick with it. That was just for my issues with the g/f not the same thing as the pain of them leaving us in the beginning as I am slowly, but learning now.

The other ladies on this team are much better with word's and saying thing's in the right prospective than I, but just know that my heart does go out for you SANDY emoticon

Faith

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Acceptance is the Key for Me.


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Team I first want to say that I have neglected this thread when here is where it all started for me with all the great support I got and still get from this team.

SANDY when my youngest DS moved out right after high school, moved close enough I could yell out the back door at him. He was in the process of moving out, but I thought he was gonna wait 1 more day before he moved his bed. We were gone all day and when he did not come home I went and looked in his bedroom and seen his bed gone and broke down into tears. It got better with time cause he was down here almost all the time, but then he got a girlfriend, and they have been together 3 years now I am still not over that, so I can only imagine the pain of one moving away.

In my situation over the g/f issue I had to be told to put my BIG GIRL PANTIES ON emoticon I don't even remember what my original name was when I started but as you can see I had to stick with it. That was just for my issues with the g/f not the same thing as the pain of them leaving us in the beginning as I am slowly, but learning now.

The other ladies on this team are much better with word's and saying thing's in the right prospective than I, but just know that my heart does go out for you SANDY emoticon

Faith

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Acceptance is the Key for Me.


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3/9/13 2:49 P

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I'm glad to hear the update on your son, Sandy. I haven't checked this area of the team page in a while and was behind. I'm glad that he's found work to keep him afloat while he pursues his dream.

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Sandy--sounds good! My DD2 is looking for another summer position--the one she had hoped to get may not be funded due to Washington's inability to figure out what is going on. DD3 has applied for a couple of internships but hasn't had an offer for the summer yet. While I'd love to have them around, they need to do something that will move them ahead.

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2/27/13 9:15 A

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Great that he found a job----and good that he realizes he needs a job before moving again---esp. in NYC---man, that place is expensive!

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2/27/13 6:56 A

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Well, sorry it took so long to get back here for an update! Son is doing okay! He loves his film internship, and he got a paying job as well in a restaurant...a cool Irish Pub! He seems to be getting it all together. We did help him financially to get started, but he thinks he can make ends meet from here on out. He's a good "kid" and is trying hard. Thanks to you all for your support during the transition. I think there will be another transition, maybe this summer...he's talking about going to NYC where the film jobs are. But we told me that he needs have a FT job lined up first before he makes the move. And he agrees.



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1/16/13 8:16 P

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Sandy--how are things going? Is he doing okay? Are YOU doing okay?? We are here for you--vent, cry, moan, celebrate--whatever is okay with us. We have had those emotions!!

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1/10/13 7:43 A

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I Love the gift card idea. Thanks!!!

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1/8/13 9:24 P

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Sandy--my DD1 moved to CA (from NJ) to go to grad school--barely paid enough to cover her costs AND she had a freeloading boy friend so I was frantic. Anyway--we'll listen if you need to vent.

A gift card to the local grocery store will work as a way to make sure he is eating. Shipping lots of the foods will be really expensive--the gift card lets it all be spent on food instead of postage.

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1/8/13 7:53 A

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That Subway pass is a great idea and will save him money---maybe you can do that again---and hopefully he will find a filler job while searching for something in his field. And remind him that entry level is often the way you get started.

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1/8/13 7:07 A

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Thanks for your support! I really appreciate it. So helpful to hear from friends.
Also, thank you for the Spark tissues. I need them :( But I am trying to think positive, and I like your idea about the care pkgs. When we took him to Boston, we took him grocery shopping and helped him stock up. I also bought him a subway pass for the month to help him get started.
So we will see what happens. Whatever happens, it will make him stronger.
Thank you!!!!

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1/7/13 8:06 A

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Hard to see them go---esp. when we worry about finances. My oldest son moved out on us right out of high school----he had to make a decision to live by our rules or find another place to live. For a while he lived with his grandmother but when he quit his job before he had a definite one, then lost his car and his license, things went downhill. He eventually landed on his feet---moved in with a friend, eventually in with his gf, found a job in walking distance, and slowly got back on his feet. It was tough watching him struggle---but it helped make him a man. At least your son's situation sounds a little better and more of a head on his shoulders. But with his degree, he probably feels he has to be in the city area to really find his way. Hard on us moms though. Maybe send him care packages with food and necessities like soap and shampoo---that way you can feel like you are helping but he can feel like he is making his own way. Good luck!

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1/7/13 7:16 A

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Hi friends,
My son graduated from college last summer (Emerson College in Boston). He came home to Maryland and spent the fall with my husband and me. He worked, saved up some money, and spent time building his portfolio (he is a film major, with interest in animation).
This past weekend, he moved back to Boston. We drove him and his things and helped him move in with a friend. When we left him, my heart broke. On one hand, I am so happy that he wants to spread his wings and is taking the leap.
My main worry however is that at this point, he doesn't have a job lined up. He has paid his January rent and has enough to live on for about a month, but I am so worried about how he is going to make this work financially. Even if he lands a job right away, it will be hard to make enough for living expenses, esp his Feb 1st rent payment. I want him to succeed so badly!!! My husband and I have had many conversations with him, and he is confident that he can make it work, even if he just gets a restaurant job initially.
So my heart is hurting from missing him, coupled with worry about his finances.
Has anyone had a grown child move away under somewhat tenuous circumstances? Any advice or consolation?
Thanks,
Sandy

Edited by: SANDYB223 at: 1/7/2013 (07:17)
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