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2/5/14 10:07 A

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Hope she finds a good job to give her experience with the horses. Is Liz going for her CPA?

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wow ..I have twin girls too! Liz is in Indiana completing her 4 yrs in accounting. She is looking for another college to complete her masters. Mary just graduated from equestian college with a training degree. She is looking for a job with horses to get experience. So many are also out of state. She is looking at a horse camp for children, also in Indiana. These are the youngest of my 4 girls. Mary is back at home but I know not for long.


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5/21/13 7:57 P

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Woohoo, Faith!!

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It took me awhile started in January and here it is May and I am doing it!!!!!!! emoticon emoticon for the help. Whew looking back that flu was nothing compared to this medication reaction. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason and here I am 9lbs down and moving on. Faith

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emoticon emoticon That's what I needed to hear. It is a new day I have been sick for the last week to bad cold or flu which ever they call it so when I am sick my mental health goes to the crapper. This to shall pass. Faith emoticon emoticon

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Amen to what Cathy said! Set the goal of drinking water or getting 3 5 minutes exercise sets--lifting cans of soup even! These little things seem silly but lots of little things add up to changes and the changes add up to losing pounds! You CAN do it--we'll help!!

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You need to set up small goals and a reward for each one----just something small and not food related---that will help---and yes, it takes awhile to get it off---but in reality, we did not put it on all at once either. Chin up! emoticon

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1/28/13 1:15 A

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Well it is night time and I am depressed everytime I look down at my self I think I am never gonna get all this fat off. I try and look at it like short term goals instead of thinking of taking 100lbs off but it just doesnt seem to help this time.

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I find if I have a craving and take care of it right away, I can have something truly good and not be way over---but if I wait, then it gets bad. But I have also found some really good low cal things---like dark chocolate 60 cal.Jello pudding---that meets my chocolate need and for something cold and creamy.
Glad you had a good weekend---mine has been pretty good, too.

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Wow tracking your food everyday is great!!!! I thought that I had really did bad yesterday, but when I logged it I had not done that bad after all. So far in this last week I have had no sweets except for those 2 cookies that were very low in fat and sugar that is why I tried them,but they werent that good emoticon I have not binged at night, in a week and I have actually seen the benefit's of that I had no desire to eat at all, and if I do then it is time for me to go to bed. It is just like everything else that is a bad habit I just have to break it. I sure hope everyone has had a great weekend I sure have. emoticon emoticon emoticon Faith

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Good to hear that.

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LOL the white powdered one's would have made me drool. Today is a new day and with my new SP friend's I got good pointer's to remember, so I am still doing great thank's to those friend's. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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1/25/13 7:43 P

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You think yours is bad---my dh brought home 3 bags of little white donuts tonight! At least they were not the chocolate ones---they tempt me much more than the white powdered ones--LOL

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LECATES that is to funny emoticon emoticon emoticon Good points I will have to remember, but I would like to put him in the trash emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon at least I am not turning back to the food for TODAY emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Yes, it is all about you---not what he wants---he might complain about your weight but if he keeps sabotaging it, that is not really the issue--he just needs to put someone down to make himself feel better---if you don't give in to it, it defeats his purpose. And when he does bring something healthy in,thank him but ignore the other stuff---and hey, you can always bury what he brings home in the trash can. LOL

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LECATES you are so right. I have the perfect example of that today it happen last night, and I am so proud of myself today. He baked cookies last night he was nice enough to tell me what the serving size was in how many I could have, so I ate that amount and when he went back for his 2nd helping he ask if I wanted more I said no I am good. I have apples and oranges to eat and that is what I had been munching on the last 5 days well when I turned down the cookies he quit eating the cookies and ate an apple so I dont know what his game plan is and further more I dont care I am gonna lose this weight and not even acknowlege what he is doing and go from there after I get healthy, but one thing is for sure I will not play the victum anymore to him. I seen on a t.v. show today that fat-shamming could help obesity I guess he was ahead of the program on that one!!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon One more thing I have joined SP before and never followed thru well this time I am going to use this emoticon tool and emoticon people emoticon and MAKE IT HAPPEN

Edited by: IWEARBGPANTIES at: 1/25/2013 (11:42)
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1/24/13 9:17 A

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Husbands are usually are worst saboteur---hard to deal with it, too. You can always throw it away---LOL---boy, would that tick him off. Maybe make space on a cupboard for your special snacks--so when you get the munchies, you can go there instead of to his stash.

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My kid's tell me that "Oh mom you don't need to lose any weight you look fine" not him though He tell's me how bad I look. My whole point with him is he did not have to make hateful comment's he could try and be supportive instead, and he is the one that is contantly bringing junk food home, but he just say's just cause you can't have it doesn't mean I can't. Faith emoticon

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Has he taken a good look in the mirror at himself lately? Bet he does not look the same way either. But in weight loss, you really have to do this for yourself---my dh would be fine with my weight but I am not---I want to be able to do things with my granddaughter and also for me to have fun for myself.

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It is only been a few day's since it happen,but I just can't get over the anger of it. I am trying but it is just not working. I can't stand the fact that he is so judgemental about it I have had a weight problem the whole time we have been married. He has never accepted the fact that I am never gonna be the weight that I was when we met which is when I was in high school I guess it just took him this long to actually say it instead of thinking it. We have been together for way to long for him to come up with some crap like that. Faith

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If you have a good relationship with him, you won't lose it--but it will change. He needs to grow and Cathy and Terri have been there with sons--I just have girls. But--come and vent to us ANYTIME!

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Yes, being a grandmother is even better than being a mom---a chance to spoil them and then give them back---LOL

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emoticon TERRIJ7 You are so right. That is why I needed to put it out there I needed good feedback,to think and try different option's. emoticon emoticon Faith

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Faith, as close as you are to your son, you know you want him to have a full life and enjoy what you've enjoyed in being a parent. He has to venture out, fall in love and create a family of his own so you can get to know how wonderful being a grandmother is! I know that probably seems a long way off and maybe not something you're excited about but, trust me, you WILL be!

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emoticon so much LECATES I am in the process of doing more of that. I have started I really have,but I know that I have to do more with it. I am working so hard to change my thinking around on every thing in my life right now,trying to stay positive in every way,not take on to much at once. I have to keep reminding myself of the quote at the bottom of my page. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Oh I almost forgot. I was very proud to see that I got a trophy on my feed. emoticon emoticon Faith

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Maybe a bit, but you love him but you also want to continue to have a good relationship with him and develop a friendship with his new love--think of it this way, maybe you are getting a new shopping pal with his new gf----and my son and his fiance sometimes play board/card games with me which I love to do but my dh does not---so I see that as a good thing. Maybe you could invite them over for that kind of thing---like ordering in pizza or other stuff they like and having a game night now and then. Be creative and think of new ways to enjoy time with the both of them---it will make all of you happier.

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I can't even imagine loosing 2 at once double the pain double the tear's I know because I know how hard I cryed when my last one left home,and he lives close. Now he is in a long term relationship,and I feel like I am loosing him all over again. I realize he has to go on with his life and be happy but I miss him. DH says that he is not suppose to be my best friend that I am his mother whatever is right or wrong he was my best friend,and I miss going shopping or whatever he ask me to go places with him all the time. Am I being selfish? I am happy for both of them,but it does not change the fact that I still miss our time together. I am putting this out there because it has really gotten me down I need to manage it a whole lot better than I am now. I know that you all understand what it is like I just need some feedback on this one it is my first time dealing with this. Faith emoticon

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I cannot imagine twins leaving at the same time--hard enough to have the "baby" go off to college this past fall! Please come join us--we will listen and advise and listen and cry with you and listen.... I knew graduation would be tough but these ladies stood by me and just listened. I had a horrid summer--and then DD3 left and things got even worse.... but now I like the time with just hubby and me. If it is just YOU--we'll suggest things you might want to do to get more company. Your girls DO want you to be happy--and you know you can't be happy if you keep them home with you forever cause THEY need to grow and stretch their wings--that is what you were trying to teach them for 19 years!

So please join us--let us help!!!

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GIRLG33K, like the others said, come and join our chat to relieve a touch of pain and know that you are not alone. My nieces are twins who are very close to their mother and they are 27 years old now. One girl lives on an island called Kwajalein, one is in CA while her husband finishes up studying to be a doctor at Loma Linda and their mother is in Maine yet they all remain very close and fly to see each other when they can. It isn't the same but facebook or texting really helps to stay in touch. Hang in there and know that although it may not seem like it now, one day you will find you may enjoy the quiet.


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Oh MAN, that's a tough one. You don't say where you live and how far you are from Sacramento. I'm in N. CA, about 5 hrs. from Sacto and used to make the trip several times a year to visit family.

Cathy (LECATES) is right that we all know how it feels, even though we each have different dynamics in our families. Some of us are very close to our kids, some of us are grandparents already, some have college kids who go back and forth...come and join the January chat and let it all hang out. It really does help to process all those emotions when you can talk about it with someone--even someone you don't really know yet.


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That is heatbreaking to have both leave at once. We all feel some of your pain, each of us at different levels. I second Cathy: we welcome you to come here for support.


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That is hard to lose them both together---no wonder you are feeling this way---but eventually it will get better---know you are not feeling that way now---so come and post when you are sad---it will help and we don't mind---we understand how tough it is.

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I have twin daughters that were left at home, they are 19+ one just came home from the military (South Korea) and the other one was getting ready to leave for her move down to Sacramento. When they were here together I was so happy and full of joy. Now one of the twins has moved to Sacramento and the other twin leaves for South Korea on the 23rd, but she is in California until the 20th. They were moving things and getting rid of stuff out of their room and I am home alone. When I walked passed their room I saw empty hangers in the closet I lost it, I started bawling. Having them both being gone at once is a double whammy to my heart :( They are my mini-mes we go everywhere in public, and everyone asks where are the girls and then I have to hold it in and regain my composure not to break down in the grocery store and such :( Oh well I know it is part of life ... :(


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