I had a picky eater at two who, although everyone said he would, never outgrew it (he's 10 now).
I tried EVERYTHING under the sun to get him to eat. We punished him (feel really awful about that now, though), we encouraged him, we bribed him, you name it.
I worry so much that he is not getting enough protein, so now the rule is, if he doesn't eat what we are eating, he is allowed to make himself a peanut butter sandwich. I don't force the issue anymore, especially since his health is more important than whatever issue causes him not to eat anything I prepare!
It seems that he has issue with meat, as he won't eat it "mixed" in with anything (like spaghetti sauce, any kind of casserole, etc.), but he loves meat loaf, plain chicken breast, plain steak or pork chops, etc. But, every time I think I have it figured out, he surprises me. SO, I refuse to be a short-order cook as well, or to reward his picky eating. I figure peanut butter is better than nothing.
I've tried the making-the-great-dessert tactic also, but for me, it just turned the whole evening into a struggle that ended up with my 10-year old throwing up the dinner he forced himself to eat to get the dessert. Wow, did I feel awful. SO, I think it works in most situations, especially when the picky eating is just a battle of wills or a matter of the child exercising control (which according to my son's doctor is what most picky eating is about), just not in mine.
In any case, I just wanted you to know you are not alone.
I've by no means arrived, but praise the Lord, I've set sail!
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