I know this is an old post but being new, i had to read it.
I too go through the same thing. but i think its more out of what i have seen my mother do rather than chalking it up to "Woman/wife/mother responsibility" so its a habit now and we all know bad habits are hard to pass up.
We can do this together and I am gonna check out that book.
*Tasha - South Florida*
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Guilt is the worse thing out there, I know this first hand. But like I always tell my older sisters, you have to take or make time to take care of mommy (yourself) because if mom's not up to par then what's the point? I believe that a lot of the self-inflicted guilt also comes from control, you want to control everything and anything within your reach. So you start telling yourself, that your child "needs" for you to do this, your spouse "needs" for you to do that, your family "needs"...emphasize on the word "need." The truth of the matter is that sometimes the best gift is to let people do things on their own. It benefits them in the long run, and it allows more me time for you.
Guilt is a devious thing...but at the same time only you have the power to end it. so the very fact that you acknowledge that guilt may be a factor to your over-eating is a BIG..scratch that HUGE thing. SO you're on the right track. Remember when it comes to your well being, you are the only one that has the power to change or let things continue. The choice is yours!
Guilt was a tool The Roman Catholic Church used to control and manipulate our ancestors the Native/Indigenous Peoples of the Americas. Unfortunately like so many other evil traits the catholic's and Europeans forced on us,we need to break these unhealthy cycles that ultimately destroy us,our Children, our People,Our Communities and eventually the entire World.
Yes, it is hard to give yourself priority but as you mentioned, and I feel now, if you want to be the best at taking care of your family, you have to take care of yourself! I've also learned that I need to become my own 'best friend,' and if I want to be around for my children as long as possible to take care of them my health takes highest priority.
**~Nancy~** Northern N.J. (EST)
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In the book "The Latina's Bible" by Sandra Guzman, she writes "...guilt is a useless emotion and a wasteful mental exercise. Guilt drains you." She also acknowledges that it is also a big part of Latina psychology. I have such a hard time with guilt myself. I feel guilty or responsible for things that really have nothing to do with me. I have said for a long time that I eat my guilt. I am trying to learn to let things go, but have had a hard time. It is especially hard when I do things for myself. I am so used to being last in line, taking care of everyone else but me. I find it hard to break away from this way of thinking. I love taking care of my family, I just need to make time to take care of myself too.
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