Whenever you overeat in response to an emptiness experience, you are tacitly agreeing that you aren't an adult, but are still a helpless infant in fear of abandonment. It 's not the truth, but it's a version of the truth that you keep alive this way. As you learned in the very beginning of this book, it's a universal experience that on some unconscious level, childhood fears of abandonment get reduced to one almost palpable image of an empty cavity that can be filled only by something outside, as if we're still infants with open mouths waiting for milk, screeching like the baby birds being fed in nature films. That primal, early memory of being hungry—of being voracious and unattended to, desperately needing milk in order to survive and feel comforted and loved, in order to avoid discomfort—gets implanted in our psyches, and we recall it as a potential disaster state. We fear that maybe no one will be there to fill that void, and then it'll go on endlessly, while we helplessly wait in anguish.
The familiar "empty" feeling that any emotional eater can tell you about is only an inch away from abandonment terror. As long as you believe that such terror is too horrible to experience, the food trance will have a seductive power over you.
The cure for this is based on a cliché. Remember, that was then, and this is now.
Can you relate to this? How are you going to deal with your emptiness layer,
if this applies to you? Please discuss.
Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go." (NIV)
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