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4/6/09 12:29 P

That sounds wonderful! I have yet to learn to say no when it's hard to say no. I'm getting back into reading Gould and it is helping. Keep up the excellent work of stopping the binges. So important for our sanity, if not our health!

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4/6/09 10:18 A

I've learned to "radically correct" myself when I see a binge moment turning into a binge day.

About a year ago I was having a rough day. Since I had already messed up that morning, I figured that buying a pint of Haagen Daz afte lunch wouldn't really matter. Well, I was driving home after getting the ice cream, and I realized that continuing the screw up was NOT the way to go, so I just took the unopened pint and threw it out the car window. I don't know where it landed, if it hit anyone/thing or what. I didn't care! I just winged it out and didn't look back. I regained controll and actually felt good about it (but felt stupid about wasting four bucks).

So - now I'm more controlled (and less wasteful) in my radical correcting, but I still do have to get in my own face, or so to speak, and actually yell at myself to back down sometimes, stop the madness, etc. It's a learned habit - I had to practice turning the tide. It's almost a physical effort, pulling yourself away from a continued binge, but it can be done. And it can be done without throwing stuff out of your car window!

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1/26/09 10:40 P

Lordy, I have not done well with this. A discount market that's on the way home had boxes of Belgian chocolates that sold at Costco for 11.99 were being sold for 2.99. I went through nearly half the box in one sitting. You'd think I was never going to have a chance to eat chocolate again! Anyway, here I am pretty much back on the wagon. Can't ask for much more than that.

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12/10/08 3:28 P

Boy is this the fitting subject for me this week. I was so excited at my new progress and then every morning since, I've binged. It is always harder if I blow it in the morning because I really struggle with finding value in the things I do right or try to do right the rest of the day when I make a decision to forgive myself and move on. One thing that's helping me is to stop looking at it as having good or bad days because then I can't wait to end my bad day and I set myself up for real pressure to perform well in the morning, probably the cause for my early binges. I am working on seeing the journey and my life in terms of hours continuous hours some spent sleeping some working, etc... but one continuum, one flowing connected experience that way the disappointments are kind of watered down and there is no such thing as a bad day. It hasn't been easy but I am trying hard.

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12/5/08 12:32 A

This is pretty much the big one for me. It's the centerpiece of what I am working on. I feel like I am constantly checking in with myself about what's happening etc., and letting some bites of somethings not turn into night long binges. It's scary. Binge City is where I have lived for so long. It's tenuous but exciting to be moving out.

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11/19/08 3:00 A

Perfection is really difficult to keep up. If you are rich like Marie Shriver, and have a staff of about 60 people, you can pull it off, but for us average people, it is a big bill to fill.

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11/11/08 8:25 P

I'm not expecting perfection this time around.
I am focused on every choice I need to make surrounding food and exercise each day. If I eat more than "necessary" on a particular day, I am still pleased that I didn't binge. I am beginning to appreciate all of the small changes, and not beat myself up over what are small lacks of victory during my day. That is raising my self esteem and giving me hope.

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10/24/08 12:04 A

I think this is one of the hardest skills to get down. It's much easier just not to eat the first bite. Some day I;ll know better how to stop myself even after I've eaten something I didn't need, but I think I'll ride on my training wheels for awhile!

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10/23/08 10:23 P

Wow Jibbie. That had to really hit home that it was all about weight loss at TOPS. I think that too often in weight loss communities when they see a weight gain they say, 'what did you eat?' rather than 'what was it that upset you'? I am so glad the SP is doing the trick for you.

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10/23/08 10:49 A

I went through a period about 12 years ago where in 3 months I gained 40#. I'd stayed at about 170# after my last child and then during this period I ate ice cream all the time. I've mentioned this on the boards before, as I was going to TOPS CLUB then and the weigh record asked me not to come because I was ruining the club's records with my gains. I don't know WHY I was doing that and still don't. I just couldn't stop craving Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream and Black Walnut. ::::::smacking mouth:::: Yes, it was a LOVE AFFAIR with ice cream and I hated it. I was taking Prozac so depression was not the issue. How I wish I'd had SPARKS then!

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10/5/08 12:07 P

Discuss here your victories or struggles with habit #3:Bounce Back.

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