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10/6/11 12:19 A

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Where's Doc and Splat?


You must be careful how you walk and where you go, for there are those following you who will set their feet where yours are set.
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10/5/10 11:09 P

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Splat, I haven't gotten any notifications and haven't been checking in. Sorry to hear the news. It's tough to lose a close one. Hope you're good. I know you're good...hope you're well.

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Sorry for your loss. I think of death like a broken leg at first you can't use it and there is lots of pain then it begins to heal then yuo can slowly start using the leg then as time goes by the pain goes away. And most the time you wouldn't think about the broken leg but sometimes like when the weather changes it is sore or aches and reminds you.

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Long time no see, gentlemen. BUSY last year but I"m back around here and there. Being in uniform has been fun, but hectic, and I'm off again next month for more teaching.

KCIR, the inevitable happened at the end of March and I lost my life long friend and former father in law to his fight with a rare blood disease. I didn't get to see him his last night and that bothers me, but as we have discussed, we had made our peace and things were right between us. Not that it makes the loss any easier, but I have no regrets except for no more time with him.

I'll check back in after I put my unifoprm back in the closet for the year. Then it's riding time!



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9/23/09 10:31 P

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I'm not getting the notification that you guys posted on this thread, so I'm just catching up.

Doc, sounds like you are making progress, albeit slower than you wish, but progress. Splat, sounds like you are having your Summer fun! It's over now (or is it, actually 80 degrees here in Boston today).

I got my oldest daughter off to college. The little one is now back in school, in 6th, and I am working like a dog getting ready for the holidays.

I plan on taking a week off about the middle of October, before the big work push through the rest of the year (holidays).

I'm watching Jarhead. Great flick. I know Splat liked this one.

Doc, how was the vacation in the city?

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8/8/09 9:13 P

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I'm glad it's Saturday night, that's for sure. What a week. Had my Army Reserve team and their families over today for our annual family day. The weather cooperated with 90+ degree weather and the pool was even 86 degrees. Turned out to be rather nice and a good end to a really long week.

Gotta get my big bike in to the shop tomorrow for a cooling problem. Great. And here I was planning a long ride Friday to see another concert out west.....crud. Unless it gets fixed up quick!

Doc, it sounds like you're enjoying your job! '-)

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8/6/09 6:37 P

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Fellas, sorry for the delay...

been a lil busy with the new position at my job, they took me out of the check cashing stores, and now have me roaming the streets doing collections...

lol it's actually pretty fun...I mean the people who owe can get pretty nasty, but with a judgement in hand, they can't really say much....
...and if they don't pay, then I'll be back with the sheriff or marshall and seize their property...
anyways...been slackin with the gym a lil bit...went yesterday but I hadn't gone since Friday...I've been eating decently...not too good...but not horrible either

but I went to the gym this mornning, plan on going later on...and maybe some treadmill some action tonight...

how you fellas doin'?

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7/29/09 5:58 P

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Let me know when "soon" is so I can get on board with you. If you can put forth as much desire and effort then I can hang in there with you - it's for the same cause!

Make sure to watch "How To Bring It" so you'll know that Tony is going to kick your ass. He'll also explain how to do your best and forget the rest.

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7/29/09 11:46 A

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HAHAHA Well I had to literally tear up my room because I didn't remember where I last put the box....lol and after an hour of hunting, I finally found it under a bag of old clothes in my closet...lol don't know how it got there...lol


Anyways the entire set is here....including the nutrition plan and the fitness guide...

I just got back from the gym and I need to go to work in an hour...so I think I may start this thing soon...

...lol hope I don't kill myself

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7/28/09 5:11 P

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Doc, you'd be set for P90X with those items. Believe me - 10 pound dumbbells for some of the moves will kick your arse. Or triceps, or shoulders.

After 4 weeks, those 10's will be a bit light and you'll be wanting more weight.

I guess I'll get the discs off the shelf, then!

And like Rick said, more reps with lighter weight is actually better in that you don't build bulky muscle, rather your muscles become leaner, stronger and deeper with lighter weight. Weight builds size, reps build strength. There's a fine line there, too, but reps are good with the right weight.

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7/28/09 12:25 P

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Doc, you can tone your muscle with lighter weights (more reps) just fine. Also, mix in good old sit ups and push ups.

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hmmm...I don't really have dumbbells in the house...well actually now that I think about it, my stepfather does have....but they're the 10 pounders I think....I have to look for them, I guess that'd be better than nothing?

The Pull up bar I wouldn't be able to get because...well...my door has a wierd slant to it...so I don't think it'd work..

so then that just leaves some resistance bands that I can probably buy at a sports store, and I'll be good to go?

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7/25/09 6:29 P

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Lift up the bed frame and get those DVDs out. I'll get mine off the shelf and join you. I've got a physical fitness test in October and need to prep for it and drop some weight I seem to have found over the winter and so far this summer. Maybe it's riding the bike and partying that did it, but I'm not sure. '-)

You don't need a buttload of equipment to bust P90X. Dumbbells and resistance bands are really all you need. If you really want a pull-up bar, WalMart or Walgreens has one that fits in your door frame without damage. You do what you can with what you've got and keep working at it. Tony will tell you - do your best and forget the rest.

We can be manly men doing manly things for our fellow men.

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lol I bought the p90x program back when I was making progress on here about 2 years ago....I never used it because I thought I had to get all the equipment first and second I needed to be able to do the basic requirement tests, which I wasn't able to do at the time....


...it's currently collecting dust somewhere under my bed...



oh, and you guys are DA MAN(s) lol

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7/24/09 11:36 P

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You are the Man, Doc.

You must be careful how you walk and where you go, for there are those following you who will set their feet where yours are set.
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7/24/09 10:44 P

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What Rick said. Quite do-able. Don't forget about having the physical fitness test once you're in basic and the good ole push ups, sit ups and the run.

I suggest P90 and then P90X and you'll smoke those young pups in any physical category. Then again, that's my standard suggestion! '-)

I applaud your decision and you know the men here will support you, too. Like I said, the service isn't for everyone and it is all volunteer; you've made a decision and are prepared to see it through.

You are the man.

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7/24/09 9:09 P

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80 pounds in roughly 10 months, very doable. 2 pounds per week, no problem if you are serious about tracking/controlling your consumption and exercising daily.

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Well this is something I've been thinking about for close to five years now...and at this point in my life I'm quite simply done thinking about it...right now I'm at a standstill in my life and I don't want to waste anymore time...I've spoken to many people who are currently serving and who have served, and they all say that it's the best decision that they've ever made...and it's a decision that I am 100% ready to make...


...I just need to make the weight.

I figure I can make the weight by May...if I stay the course

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Doc! It's damn good to see you back!

Well, to answer the question, yes, I was in KC, MO for a concert Tuesday night and yes, I rode the bike. 670 miles round trip but it was all good. Next run is in August for a 38 Special show out west.

Doc, I'll tell you from experience that armed forces service isn't for everyone. It takes a certain "calling", if you will, and you have to put yourself in to it 100% because there are millions putting 100% in to you. i would still be in jail or dead if I hadn't gone active duty and that's not a joke or a lie. My life at 19 was very similar to yours. I had a car [when it ran right], a job and was getting nowhere. My girlfriend was pregnant and I had to make some decisions. I put on the the last suit I'll ever wear, to coin a phrase. Nearly 30 years later with 12 years active and 17 in the reserves I'm still enjoying what I'm doing. Granted, not everyone becomes a master instructor, but I worked my way in to it and as Rick stated, timing is everything. I'm proud of my service and I stand up for every veteran and current service member; being a part of the brotherhood of arms is something only those who have served understand and it's a wonderful thing.

If you want to put yourself in to the preparation to enlist, you'll learn the drive, motivation and initiative you'll need when you put on the uniform and you'll be better for it. If you decide not to enlist, you'll still have found things out about yourself that you'll never forget. Either way, old friend, you'll still win.

I'd be happy and proud to have you as a service brother but if it doesn't work out, I hold nothing ill against you and give you big points for making the effort. Service isn't for everyone and you have to know it will change your life forever in ways you won't even notice until years from now. It paid off for me, I can tell you that much.

If you're willing to volunteer, raise your hand and swear allegiance you'll never have a more proud moment in your life. I'll support you in your efforts.

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Well I went to the recruiter's office...and basically there's a certain weight limitation for my height....I'm 5'9, so I need to be 185 lbs....and I'm at 265 now...so I have some work to do...

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Hey Doc, good to see you again. I'm no expert on the armed forces (I'll leave that to Splat when he checks in, he's either riding his bike or at a concert, or both), but if you are looking for some order in your life, you will get it.

I'll tell you, I seriously thought about that, and looked into it myself in my mid - 20's. My gut told me it really wasn't what I wanted. I ended up getting a management job with the company that I am still working with today (25 years later). Yet, life is all about timing. My timing on this company was probably just flat out luck.

That said, you have to go with your gut. You have to trust what your gut tells you. If you think that this is what you need, is best for you, it probably is. If you don't, don't do it. Trust your gut over anything anyone is selling you...you're a smart guy, you don't need me to tell you this. Best of luck. Rick

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I took the time to read some of the back posts...and wow...a lot of these situations are what define what being a man is all about. Dealing with sickness and disease, watching loved ones go through pain and feeling helpless...breaks some, molds others...

I just learned how to wipe my @$$ properly a few years ago (LOL) so I haven't been through much, so I look to you men now as role models...

During my hiatus from here I've just been lost and going in circles...going to school, not going to school...not knowing what I want to study...changing schools, majors...and all the while feeling like I'm wasting valuable time...

I've gained 65 lbs since I've been gone..and that's pretty much all I've gained...not much education, or status at the job...it all seems rather stagnent...

Which has led me to a decision that will change my life...

...I have decided to enlist in the Navy.

It's something that I've been considering for years...but after talking with friends and loved ones, and taking a step back and reflecting on my actions these last few years, I feel as if this is the best decision I can make for my life right now. I want to get away and do something with myself. I also want to feel like I'm doing something with myself...

These next few weeks and months I'm going to be going thru the motions...I also need to get myself in shape so I can keep up in boot camp...I'll be sticking around and keepin' you guys updated....



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Yes it was a very nice ballpark...I drive by it everyday on my way to work and it's slowly being torn down...sad sight =( I prefer the old park to the new park anyways...*shrugs* oh well...still better than fenway =P


So what's new around these parts?

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Hey Doc, good to see you. Nice ballpark...

You must be careful how you walk and where you go, for there are those following you who will set their feet where yours are set.
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wow...you fellas have kept this thread alive and well....hehe sorry for my disappearing act...I have lots of catching up to do....but since I plan on sticking around...I wont bombard all it once..=)

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I'm hip. I guess I can always fantasize about that video, though......

I'll let my displeasure known and make a plea for a couple of folks to get sober before anything worse happens. If my ex and her husband want to be drunks, they can do that at home as long as no one else is around. They can hurt themselves all they want but until they realize their actions are endangering others and they do something about it, they need to stay home and stay away from others. If I could buy a duplex and put both my daughters in it, I would. Anything or any place is better for those 2 granddaughters than with their grandmother and her life-long habit.

Nah - you had good words for me, Rick. That's why I posted the situation. I knew I'd get good feedback!

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Tough stuff, man. Your daughter moving in with them is very bad. Good thing your younger daughter has sense.

The ones that get hurt are the little ones. I have no good advice for you. Utubing them isn't going to get you anywhere. And doing worse won't either. Sorry.

You must be careful how you walk and where you go, for there are those following you who will set their feet where yours are set.
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I forgot to give a happy father's day to you and the rest of our crew here yesterday. I was in grandpa mode, I guess.

Your words ring true, my friend. Not exactly what I *wanted* to hear, but probably what I *needed* to hear.

I've spoken to my daughter about my feelings. She defends her mother to the last breath, and always has, but doesn't like the husband. And as much as she despises the husband, she hasn't said a peep about him and just writes it all off as a bad accident. The other twist to this is that daughter [and her daughters] moved back in with mother because she just can't keep things together. My ex hasn't been able to keep anything but a case of beer together for decades, and it gives the granddaughters an unspoken stamp of approval on alcoholism. Daughter and my ex work together in a bar [go figure] and when daughter is working, guess who watches the grand children? My youngest won't allow my ex to watch her children - she has said for the last couple of years something bad was going to happen because of the booze and didn't want her children involved when it happened.

It's a huge mess and an innocent little girl paid for it. Having a youtube video of what a 9MM hollow point does to a human foot would be gratifying, but unneccessary - and illegal. It would also be beneath me as one who tries to take the high road rather than be dragged down to others' levels. One would think that an incident like this would shock someone in to sobriety, but it hasn't. My ex and her husband are drinking even more heavily to "dull their pain".

As you can tell, I'm somewhat frustrated with the whole situation. I've always known it was just a matter of time before their actions hurt someone but I didn't think it would be one of my own. I just feel so badly for my granddaughter. She had nothing to do with the things that caused her injury and had the so-called adult[s] who was in charge made one decision different than usual, she wouldn't have been hurt. This was a preventable situation, but what is done is done and now we have to move forward with recovery for Eliza.

I'm still not certain if the Sheriff is going to press charges based on my complaint.

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Jesus Christ Splat, that is god awful. I can't imagine how tough that one is for you, and am very sorry. Man, the stuff that people do that effect others is just terrible, not to mention your granddaughter.

You can tell them what you think. However, they know what happened. If you are right, or wrong, where does it get you? It'll feel good getting it of your chest. Yet, you want access to your granddaughter, and that will not help.

The bigger problem is that your daughter knows of your Ex and her husband's problems and continues to have them look after your granddaughter. Until she gets it together, what you say to them means nothing.

By the way, happy Father's Day my friend. Keep riding, Rick

You must be careful how you walk and where you go, for there are those following you who will set their feet where yours are set.
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Hi KCIR! As a matter of fact, I just got back from my annual training on Wednesday. I was at Aberdeen Proving Grounds, MD getting certified to teach the Army Basic Instructor and Small Group Instructor courses. I had a great time. Had one day off so I went to DC to check things out. I had to go see the Vietnam Memorial. Everything else after that was just filler. My girlfriend's uncle is on the wall, as is the MIA soldier I adopted some time ago. The good news is that the helicopter my MIA was on was found in April and the remains are being analyzed now to match DNA. It was a good day in DC and the training was a resounding success.

Lyle is well, considering. Still hanging tough and fighting hard to beat his issue. I hope the best for Tom. If he is at peace with the situation, his mind unburdened and heart light, that is the best we can expect. Acceptance, by everyone, is tough, but I know you'll find the right balance. You're just that kind of guy.

Yes, I'm on the bike and living like a 21 year old this summer. One concert down, two more big ones to go, sprinkled with a few smaller venues here and there. I did a 750 mile ride over Memorial Day weekend and caught a show for my birthday. Nice weekend, it was!

My second granddaughter lost two and a half toes and a third of her foot to a riding lawnmower just before I went to Maryland.

So here's a topic for this thread.

My first ex-wife remarried a well-known drunk and dope smoker. My ex has never grown out of either of those things and is also a well-known drunk. My oldest daughter goes to work and leaves her two children with my ex and her husband. The husband takes the younger of the two with him to mow an abandoned yard his drinking buddy owns. Whether he was drinking or smoking it up, I don't know, but he puts my now 6 year old granddaughter on the mower with him and proceeds to mow. This mower is old and has no PTO or disengage lever - when the mower is on, the blades are turning. So he hits what he says is a bump, Eliza falls off and he says he can't stop the mower. Off goes nearly half of my granddaughter's foot. He and my ex take Eliza to the hospital and when the doctor says she needs to go to a bigger hospital an hour away, they go home. Haven't been to see her for the 2 weeks she's been in the hospital, but call every other day. The husband says he is sorry and that he was sober when the accident happened. The problem I have is that I know if this guy is awake and breathing, he's drinking - and every time I've ever seen him, he's got at least a 12 pack with him or going to go get a 12 pack. If my ex is with him, it's a case of beer.

So. Knowing what I know about this guy, and what I truly suspect happened, should I make my feelings known or sit tight? Everyone knows I'm not impressed and not happy. Lyle is less than pleased, to say the least. Part of me wants revenge, which isn't right, but understandable. I called the Sheriff and filed a report. I know the husband has been interviewed, but nothing back yet, officially.

I'm torn between what my machismo wants and what my rational brain says.

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Hey Splat, got into my Easter holiday routine. I'm in the holiday business, so I'm crazy busy (all the time) October through December and again February through Easter. I got through that and now got my daughter's graduation from high school over with and have a little time again.

Talked to Tom last weekend. Not going good. He was in the hospital getting a gallon of liquid pumped out of his lungs. The cancer has spread from his liver to his lungs and is pretty much over-taking him now. He is back home and sounds great (he sounded like death in the hospital), but it's month to month now. He has a strong faith in God keeping him positive and a strong wife looking out for him. He also is ok with his situation. He's going to be fine in the end. I hope I am.

I hope Lyle is hanging tough.

I'll bet you are checking out the concerts and riding the bike, you big kid. Your military gig must be coming up soon. My daughter's boyfriend joined the Army Reserves and is away at camp right now. Good guy. He wants to be a cop like his uncle.

Check out Shaun's progress. The thread is a sticky topic. He's doing really well. Take care, Rick

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G'day gentlemen!

It's been awfully quiet on what I consider to be one of the absolute best threads on this entire site.

What's new with everyone? Anything happening? What's been on your mind this last winter?

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How are things working out with you, KCIR?

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Thanks again

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Lyle does what Lyle does. He moves forward each and every day. One tough ole boy, he is. Much to emulate and lots to respect, to be sure.

Funny thing about his 3 daughters. The sons in law [myself and 2 others, of course] all know each other and we get along quite well together. One lives just a few miles from Lyle and I'm only 25 miles from him so we hang out on holidays, birthdays and other days just because we can. The 3rd lives in AZ and we haven't seen much of him lately.

ANYWAY....all 3 of his daughters were divorced for whatever reasons and Lyle has told ALL of us that he'll take his three men over his 3 daughters any day of the week. There are no EX's in his life except for his EX wives. He said he would make EX's of his daughters but there's no legal way to do that. He does have a sense of humor about him!

Seriously, though, 2 of the 3 of us are near by, available at any time and hang out with him as often as we can. It's kinda strange, weird and cool all rolled in to one.

Lyle will be sorely missed when his time comes, but he'll be with us long after that date.

Go slay yourself an elephant. You're an adult man, as is Tom, and the two of you can come to a gentleman's agreement on how to handle things. It will be an emotional and tough talk for both of you. Reality sucks. Bring respect and caring to the table and you'll be just fine, my friend.

I didn't think my diatribe would help, but I'm glad for you if it did!

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Thanks, Splat, that is actually great advice. Get it all out there on the table so there is no elephant in the room and than move on and live while you can.

It's a real testament to the person you are that you and Lyle are so close, considering that you are his x - so in law. I hope he is doing well.

Thanks again. Rick

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Whoa. That's a tough one, my friend. My former father in law, who I am still and always have been very close to, was diagnosed about 18 months ago with an extremely rare blood disorder that is taking him away from us, too. I understand your position and feel your pain. A "salt of the earth" man, he is, and I'd take him over my own father any day of the week. That's how much he means to me. A hard working farmer who stands by his word and always says what he does and does what he says. Like you, my family is all spread out and we don't see each other much, let alone talk. With the exception of my sisters and an aunt living near one of them, we're about all that's left for our family tree. My sisters both know Lyle and are also hurt with his health issue. He's touched a lot of people in his life, both directly and indirectly.

Lyle and I have always had a good relationship, even after I divorced his daughter and he understands why, so we still have a great relationship. I think him telling me the situation was harder than telling anyone else. I still don't know what to say all the time, but we had to sit down and put everything on the table after a few months and just talk about the reality of the situation. It was very tough and emotional for both of us, but at the end we agreed on this one thing: we're going to enjoy each other's company in whatever time is left and when it's time to talk final business, we'll gather again at the table together and work it out. Until then, we don't have to avoid anything, but we can focus on being in each others' company so that when he's gone, we always have him with us. In a spiritual sense, our loved ones are never gone as long as we hold high their memory. My beloved grandparents, now long gone, planted that seed in me many years ago and it stuck. I miss them dearly but keep them with me nearly every day. Lyle liked that thought and wants to make sure we have great memories to keep here and for him to take when he's gone.

I know that's not any real advice, but it's the mindset we have and how we're dealing with things. The reality doesn't change one bit and the whole thing flat-out sucks, but we're going to savor the time we have and make sure nothing spoils it. That's not to say we're going to walk on eggshells or pussyfoot around anything. We're just going to enjoy while we can. When it's time, we'll make sure business is taken care of the way he wants and make sure his legacy is passed to his descendents. My only hope is that he goes quickly and quietly at home, without pain and suffering; he doesn't deserve that.

I can't tell you how to deal with the issue, whether that be with yourself or with your brother. I can tell you how I'm working through the situation on this end and hope it helps you some. It's never easy and we each have to find our way through. Maybe my light, Lyle's light or perhaps Tom's light will help you with the situation. Maybe even my grandparents can lend a hand!

I'm truly sorry for what's happening, KCIR, and I really feel for you in this tough spot.

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Hey guys, let's get off politics (which got off track last year) and get back to what this, the longest running, most popular page is all about, "On Being a Man" (where's the Doctor with his great insight and freshness).

To get back on track...

I'm having a tough time right now. My step-brother, Tom, was diagnosed with cancer last year and has been fighting the good fight. Tom is about 55 or so, 5 years older than me. He's really a good guy. Good family man, good neighbor, volunteer fire man, a deacon at the church, good people. He is the kind of guy that you want for a next door neighbor.

I'm not real close with most of my family. They live in Michigan, Georgia, Florida and I'm in Mass. So I don't see much of them. However, I've seen Tom quite a bit over the last few years as he and his family have vacationed in ME and we have taken vacation to see them the last three Summers. So I feel pretty close to him, as do my girls.

The doctor just recently gave him less than a year to live. I've talked to Tom every couple weeks up until I heard the the latest news. It's tough. I just don't what to say anymore. Tom's brother Mark died of cancer about 5 years ago, and his brother Mike just recently was diagnosed with cancer.

If you have read this far, you have figured out that I'm not the great commuincator. Any advice on how to talk to Tom and Mike would be appreciated.

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In this life or the next, I once heard.

Unfortunately, what does come around doesn't necesarily equal the initiating action.

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I believe in good karma and that people will get their reward in this life whether it's good or bad.



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Nice story, KCIR!

On the inverse, my karma ran over your dogma. '-)

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I haven't checked this but it sounds plausible (and cool) -
His name was Fleming, and he was a poor Scottish farmer. One day, while trying to make a living for his family, he heard a cry for help coming from a near by bog. He dropped his tools and ran to the bog.
There, mired to his waist in black muck, was a terrified boy, screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad from what could have been a slow and terrifying death.
The next day, a fancy carriage pulled up to the Scotsman's sparse surroundings. An elegantly dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming had saved.

"I want to repay you," said the nobleman. "You saved my son's life."

"No, I can't accept payment for what I did," the Scottish farmer replied waving off the offer. At that moment, the farmer's own son came to the door of the family hovel.
"Is that your son?" the nobleman asked. "Yes," the farmer replied proudly.
"I'll make you a deal. Let me provide him with the level of education my own son will enjoy. If the lad is anything like his father, he'll no doubt grow to be a man we both will be proud of." And that he did.
Farmer Fleming's son attended the very best schools and in time, graduated from St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in London, and went on to become known throughout the world as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming, the discoverer of Penicillin.
Years afterward, the same nobleman's son who was saved from the bog was stricken with pneumonia.
What saved his life this time?Penicillin.
The name of the nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill. His son's name? Sir Winston Churchill.
Someone once said: What goes around comes around.



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Well, regardless of where the fight occurs, it's better to have the battle in THEIR front yards than here in our back yards. I can tell you that Iraq is barren and a big gun battle in the sand wehre no one hears the shots has no impact on anyone but the combatants. Drawing the terrorists to Iraq was a calculated move, granted, one that didn't pay off in the body counts desired. Even if we do get OBL, there are enough cells spread around the world that the fight will go on for decades. Look at what happened in the 2 Germanys with the Bader-Meinhoff and Red Army Faction groups.

True, Turkey has a serious problem with the Kurds and the land they want is in the mountainous southern region and really has no benefit for Turkey. Iraq still has some of the Saddam mentality and because the Kurds aren't Muslim, they're pretty much the black sheep so neither party is going to give in. I expect a battle from the north part of Iraq sooner or later.

I'm all for change, but not at the expense that is predicted. It's like losing the excess pounds we're all here to shed.....it didn't happen over night and it won't be solved over night. We were in for some tough times regardless, but I seriously fear things are going to be more dark and bleak than what was in the nightmare.

I guess we'll hang on to our hats and find out, no?

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I agree regarding what Saddam did to Kurds was horrible. They ought to have their own lands if Turkey and Iraq could ever agree on that...not likely. I also agree Bush #1 should have done the job back then. I have no idea what Clinton did behind the scenes in regard to striking back...except for the mess up in Sudan. I don't think we can say had he done so-and-so 9/11 wouldn't have happened. I don't blame Bush for how he responded to 9/11...he had most of America with him, but the fight should have been carried in Afghanistan fully. Iraq, in my opinion, has hobbled the fight and created more/future(?) problems.

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No, it wasn't. Notice the unemployment rate climbing as everyone lines up for the liberal handouts to start appearing at the end of January. Note the 1st amendment rights being trampled in Florida and the so-called fairness doctrine being brought back in the radio arena with the "creator" of the policy being appointed to the head of the FCC. If you own any kind of firearm, prepare to be taxed at nearly 500% for ammunition, additional 200% taxes on the purchase of a firearm and handguns to be banned, thanks to the association of the president-elect with George Sorros and the UN's head of gun banning. Disarming of America is upon us. *IF* you can afford to own a weapon and you have to use it in self-defense, *you* will be the criminal for using it. Check out what's happened in Chicago after Obama's legislation was enacted. The military is about to have a 25% budget cut, which means personnel and equipment. Not only are we, as a country, going to be disarmed, but fewer soldiers to protect our own citizens. If you're a parent, beware of your rights being stripped and your 14th amendment rights eroded to nothing. When your teenage daughter can have sex AND an abortion without your knowledge, where are your rights as a parent? Let that same daughter do something downtown and who do the police call and blame? You can't be the responsible parent if you have no rights to know what is going on, especially with a serious medical procedure like an abortion. Our taxes are going to kill us, literally, because of all the handouts, programs and bailouts. How are all of these programs and freebies going to be paid for? The tip of this iceberg is bigger than the entire iceberg that sank the Titanic.

I respect your opinion on Iraq, but here's a differing idea. I was in Iraq in 1991 and worked with the Pesh Merga, the security force for the Kurds. I saw the evidence of what Saddam did to those people with mustard and nerve gasses. If you arrest all the men in town and haul them hundreds of miles away for 90 days and then let them walk home, they can arrive to find all their women and children gassed and still lying where they died. Then you can arrest them again and shoot them all and bury them in a mass grave. Saddam had the chemicals and bought them from France, Germany and Russia, and the proof was dead in the streets of Kurdish towns. doesn't anyone remember the Scud missile firings in 1990 and 1991 and everyone was scared to death that the warheads might contain chemical weapons? Saddam had the chemicals, tested them on the Kurds and was working on arming Scuds with them yet no one remembers that. Fair enough, I didn't personally see the chemicals, but I did see the results of them.

The Iraqis are good people - I've been there. Their "leader", who took over by assassination and murdered anyone who didn't side with him, repressed the entire country and ran it in to the grave, literally. Remember what he taught his sons about dealing with failure and disagreement?

I'm a soldier and I do what I'm ordered, even if it means going back to the "sandbox". Had we done our job right the first time by letting the Navy Seals pull the trigger on the .50 caliber sniper rifle, all of this would already be over. You can blame daddy Bush for that one.

On the other hand, had Clinton backed up his words of finding the terrorists who struck America and her citizens FIVE times during his tenure, the Trade Center attack would not have happened.

It's not as easy as taking one person and laying all the blame on him. It's a cumulative pile and Bush junior happens to be the man in office and yes, the buck stops there. Of course, everyone says the war boils down to oil, but if it were, why didn't we just cap a couple 5 or 6 wells in Iraq with an American flag and claim them for ourselves as the spoils of war?

I enjoy a good debate.

Good to see you around, DOC!

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Ah politics...so fun to discuss...Splat, I assume the "writing on the wall" that was 'whitewashed' was your refrence to Bush and Iraq. Thanks for calling him out on it! WooHoo!

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yikes, it's been too long....

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And apparently only you and I didn't imbibe the beverage.

I'm not a handwriting expert, but I could decipher what was written on the wall. When the whitewashing is rubbed off, and the true meaning of what is under it is known, it'll be too late.

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And on top of that, O wants no drilling in Alaska, wants to eliminate as much coal use (by taxing it to death) as possible and is not in favor of nuclear power.

That all adds up to us being more oil dependent on the people out to destroy us, our buddies the Saudis, Iran, Hugo, etc.

So the people voted for gving up their guns (I don't have one but I am for the right to bare arms), free speech, dependence on our enemies, higher energy cost, income re-distribution (socialism), the right for gays to marry (which is only a title, in MA gays have the same rights as non-gay couples) is more important than the "right" to murder the living unborn. That's some strong cool aid he is serving.

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