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If your daughter saw what she weighed, this probably caused her to get very insecure. She has no reason to be, because up to 135 pounds is a healthy weight for someone 5'2.5, and it sounds like she weighs less then that. She may have a higher weight then some other children, but that is because muscle weighs more than fat. She's obviously very athletic, and that means she's probably muscular. I would explain to her that by not eating, she won't be able to do sports because she won't have the energy. I told my daughter once: "Think of your body like a car. Without enough fuel, the car will stop running. Don't you want to fuel your body so you can run?" and she surely ate right after that. She's probably just very insecure right now, but I think she just needs an explanation that she's beautiful and food is fuel, and won't make her fat.
My niece went through the same thing a couple of years ago. She was not eating anything and being very self conscience about her figure. We all talked to her because we were worried. She said she just wanted to lose weight. Her mother started only providing foods that were healthy. No junk food in the house. They started sitting together to eat meals whenever possible. We all encourage her and told her how great she looked and provided advice about what is healthy and not. She eventually started making smarter choices.
My own 11 year old is overweight. She does not talk much about but I see it on her face when she is up at 10 at night looking for a snack. She does not want to eat but feels the urge. Then she goes through phases of not wanting to eat anything. I have showed her my page on here and we make recipes together and exercise together. She has lost five pounds but is eating healthier that she ever has.
Try to explain to her that being healthy and being skinny are not one in the same. That being athletic and healthy are more important. I'm sure she will be fine.
My middle daughter is 11. She had a physical about 2 weeks ago and, though she didn't tell me her weight, I know it was over 100lbs (she is 5' 2.5"). They gave her 2 vaccines: the tetanus booster, and one for meningitis.
Since her visit, she has been limiting what she eats, saying that she isn't hungry. She says she thinks it has to do with the shot. I am not sure. She has eaten very little this week, and mostly carbs and not healthy choices. I have tried to talk to her about nutrition, and she sees how I eat on a regular basis.
I am very concerned. Her dr did not say anything about her weight at all. She is not heavy, but is very athletic. She plays soccer and takes gymnastics classes, but her self-esteem is really low, and she is surrounded by girls who are very thin at school (one in particular who is kind of the queen bee personality) and I fear that is influencing some of this as well.
Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated.
~~Kim in NC~ EDT
Aug 2009: 175
Dec 2009: 142
Aug - Dec 2012: 135 size 4
*30lb gain in 8 weeks*
Feb 2013: 164
April/13: 166 size 12-14
July/13 Jaw surgery
Sept- confirmed Hashimoto's
Dec 2013: 162
March 2014: 155
Goal: 135-140 size 4
“Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength!"~ Unknown