When I had kids at home as a full-time stay-at-home mom, we also had little money to spare. We had the most traditional Norman Rockwell-type dinners! It was wonderful. We all sat and ate together, amid nice fun conversations.
What we ate was based on what we could afford, and that included little red meat and everything from scratch (even spaghetti sauce and soups).
There was no soda, chips, or store-bought desserts; living in SoCal, we had fresh fruit and veggies aplenty.
I had to measure carefully and limit servings because of finances, but the kids always had their fill first. I was the thinniest I've ever been as a healthy person (and very very happy).
When I started working for financial reasons, we had five kids (8 months to 9 years) and it was crazy hectic, especially with no help from my (now ex-) husband (not with cooking, cleaning, shopping OR child care). His help could have made a difference, but... 20 years too late.
I was desparately unhappy and began binging late at night. Our family meals became quick and easy, and I used more convenience foods. Once they got older and started on extra-curricular activities, we ate on the run most nights, usually fast food burgers with healthy snacks from home, but still tried for family dinners when possible.
With frozen vegetables and cream soups and bisquick and quick recipes, it was fairly easy - except I wasn't looking at health content and weight issues, so don't know how healthy our diet was. None of my kids had/have weight problems, and we were an extremely active family, so it wasn't an issue.
I always insisted we have vegetables and they ate them, but I also served what they liked. I didn't do as my parents did, and serve food that would make them gag and force them to eat it. If a child didn't like a certain food (Scott and tuna casserole!), they could have a sandwich instead, but I didn't make two dinner entrees.
My food issues started in my childhood and I was very aware of trying not to pass on those... I can't even say bad habits, because it wasn't "habits," it was bad parenting! I tell myself my parents were raised in a different time and only did what they knew from their childhoods, but it was definitely wrong.
Being aware of the whys hasn't cured me of those food anxieties, but at least my kids made it through unscathed and with great compassion!
Edited by: MIMAWELIZABETH at: 1/24/2008 (01:54)
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