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1/2/13 8:22 P

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This is quite an accomplishment for me. No Overtime worked the last three work days. Of course, it is slow and the boss is gone. I still have the opportunity to work OT, I am just not doing it!

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12/30/12 5:21 P

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Hi. Welcome to the team. Lynn has given you some excellent articles. I hope they help. Stay in touch with the team and let us know how it is going.

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12/30/12 8:23 A

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I can appreciate what you are going through. I went through a similar situation about 3 years ago. I was at a point I could & needed to change jobs, which I eventually did. I also took some FMLA time to get additioonal help getting my depression under control.

I found that I tended to work a lot of OT when I was feeling down because I use my job as a main part of my identity. In reality, I needed to find activities that I felt good about doing. It sounds like you have a plan with going to Spin & Weight Watchers. Don't forget to continue to log ion here so we can cheer you through this tough time.

Withhout taking care of ourselves, we cannot do our work effectively. It sounds like it is time to make you your top priority.

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12/30/12 1:16 A

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I can understand how you feel with your work issues. Try your best to hang in there because I eventually had to go on disability. I'm doing my best to work with my therapist so I can get back to work. So start your spin classes and remember you're not defined by your job. Please feel free to contact me if you need to get anything off your chest.

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12/29/12 10:19 P

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I can resonate with your work issues--from the point of view of both having been a manager and having been an employee with a "challenging" manager. First of all, I would like to remind you that you are a very capable young lady, having gainful employment at age 60--no small feat in these economic times! I am encouraging you to remind yourself of the power you actually have and take control over the "sinking, sinking" feeling. You are not hapless, hopeless and helpless. You may need a little refresher course from a therapist or a good friend in living up to your potential, but you ARE capable.

In the meantime, here are some articles that may be helpful for you. What follows are links to articles about dealing with one's boss:

www.mayoclinic.com/health/assertive/
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www.mindtools.com/pages/article/Asse
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zionsphere.hubpages.com/hub/Asserti
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www.mindtools.com/stress/WorkOverloa
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I'm expecting that you will feel empowered after reading them, and you may want to schedule a meeting with your boss to present in a clear and unemotional way what your needs are. Stay in touch, okay? We've got your back!!

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12/29/12 8:31 P

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I have worked so much overtime that I haven't been doing a good job. I am really depressed about it because I usually provide excellent work. I just can't handle it. I told my boss that I no longer was working any overtime and if I fell behind he would have to deal with it. Needless to say, he is really upset and is giving me ultimatums . . . like how will you meet your commitments? I get even more depressed. I am 60 years old and really can't quit because who is going to hire me? Retirement isn't an option because of medical insurance. Besides, I have five weeks of vacation and flex time which I really hate to give up. BTW no one likes my boss and he three people -- including me -- have been to HR. I have discovered HR is only for managers, they don't listen to or help people any lower than that. So, I am sinking, sinking, sinking fast into a major depression.
I am starting back at LifeTime Spin Classes on Thursday. I know I felt better when I was exercising regularly. I am also going back on Weight Watchers so maybe I will start eating better, but still I worry about this depressive episode. I am really scared again.


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