Man, I feel like that all the time. My mom will make something from a package (Like Trader Joe's risotto the other night) and then look at me like I'm crazy become I'm mad she threw out the package and the info. I've learned I'm not eating ENOUGH, so its really important to me to watch what I'm eating. She just tells me not to be neurotic. It can be hard sometimes when it feels like people aren't being supportive.
As long as you feel happy and good about yourself don't listen to what others say. Some are just probably jealous that you are in fact losing weight and it shows or some might feel that they would loose you (the person they know and love) after you loose the weight. You should remind them that although you are making healthy choices and all the other healthy changes that you are still the same person. Hope you find friends that are more supportive of you.
I know exactly what you are talking about...and I know how hurtful it can be sometimes. Here you are, trying to do something good for yourself and all anyone can do is try to sabatage your efforts. Isnt it interesting how people critisize others when they try to be healthy and happy? My guess is that they are just jealous of your dedication and selfcontrol. I know it became pretty overwhelming for me that I ended up socially isolating myself. Eventually, I realized that I cant change the way anyone else thinks, but I can change my own attitude. It took a little bit of time, but I literally had to stop listening and caring about other people's comments. Also, I realized that I DONT HAVE TO EXPLAIN MYSELF TO ANYONE! You are in control of your own life. And you are not obligated to explain anything to anyone. Its none of their business really. The most effective thing that worked however, was surrounding myself with people that were following the same lifestyle as I was. Make new friends. My thought is that if your friends truely cared about you they would want what is best for you. Surround yourself with the positive and dont let what anyone says take you off course!
Oh and one more suggestion... If people (family and friends that are close to you) continue to voice concerns about you having an eating disorder. Consider getting a professional's opinion to prove that you are going about your weight loss in a healthy fashion. Either see a doctor or preferably a NUTRITIONIST that way you have a percribed weight loss plan that includes a meal and fitness plan. People will have a harder time discouraging you when you have a professional's validation!
I get that a lot too. Sometimes it's like I am looked down upon for making healthy choices. My friends give me a hard time when I dont drink much, eat less, refuse greasy foods, or order a salad at a restaurant. I can definitely be really frusterating. I've gotten to the point now that I don't care what they say or think...I know that I'm doing something good for myself. Right now they might be able to get away with being unhealthy and not gaining weight, but it will eventually catch up with them.
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." --Ralph Waldo Emerson
We all know a good support system is important when you're trying to have a more healthy lifestyle, but I feel that with culture today plus the college lifestyle people just think I'm crazy. I have to work really hard to make sure I'm eating right and exercising enough, so roommates automatically assume I have an eating disorder! It's really embarrassing not to partake in snacks or drinks at parties when I have to explain why. I'm losing weight at a healthy rate and have fun with fitness classes at my school, but I feel that I can't go out with my friends any more because they just make me feel like I am doing something wrong. Any advice?
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