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8/1/08 2:22 P

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"You'll examine what it costs you to retreat into the food trance instead of facing your feelings, especially the fact that it keeps you from solving the problems that need to be solved."

The "food trance"--that is a good phrase for emotional overeating. I guess denial is expensive. It is hard to face life on life's terms and to do what needs to be done while facing my feelings. I forget that feelings go on all the time and pass through quickly if I let them be and don't stop them and get stuck with them.

The feeling will pass. I don't need to act on it. How I feel at this instant is not the place from which to make decisions!





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6/25/08 9:06 A

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What a fabulous road of discovery you are embarking on! It isn't always fun, but you will never think the same way about some things again. People usually get only one or two of those influences in a lifetime, and they aren't always good. This one is! emoticon

*"The goal of weight loss is incompatible with recovering from disordered eating." Center for Clinical Interventions
*The No S Diet saved my emotional life! Four years and counting. nosdiet.com/ *Be happy with this moment. This moment is your life.
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6/24/08 11:57 P

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OK I don't have the book and I haven't started the online program yet... but I am almost convinced by this post. There are so many times where I have felt the same way that you did in this post... and I ate to cover up how I felt about things. I gave my power away to several other people in my life and I don't feel that way now... but my body is carrying on all of the past crap that I used to just take on and believe. I have a lot of work to do ... but this seems like a good program to help you get past that stuff... even if you don't even lose any weight it would be good to get past these issues.

I had a baby girl!!! now I have to get off the preg weight... I did it before with Sparks I can do it again! Thanks guys!



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6/14/08 1:36 P

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Sounds terrific! Insight won't make the choices for us, but it can make such a difference in the motivation to make the right ones for our total contentment. I'm so glad you're letting that judgement go. I'm glad you have high standards for yourself for honesty, but no one expects you to use them to denigrate yourself. You're making better choices now. What more can you do-besides wait until you are hungry to eat? emoticon

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6/14/08 1:08 P

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THis is actually where I am in the book so I thought I'd jump in here. I think the biggest key for me so far has been challenging my "catastrophic thinking" I tend to blow up big negative accusations or predictions with very little provocation and they can be my undoing.
Just last night I caught one that was swirling around in my head. I started thinking of a very negative thing that I used to do in the past at my old job when I felt anxious. I would edit my emails before I forwarded them to my boss to make myself look better. (Like if I was afraid that I had taken too long to reply to an inquiry, I would change the date time stamp, etc.)
At the time, I was very unhappy at my job and my old boss and I did not get along at all. I was in a constant state of fear at being chewed out by him. I did whatever I could to cover my butt and escape blame. Anyway, as this memory of my old behavior flooded back I became overwhelmed by it. I felt so awful and low. I really started in on myself and name calling myself and stated at one point very clearly that I had "absolutely no integrity whatsoever."
Then I stopped myself. I challenged that statement. I said that I had used bad judgement and made a mistake. That lots of people make mistakes and I make plenty of them. But it doesn't mean that I don't have integrity. I regret what I did and I won't ever do it again. I am determined to live a life of integrity today. And I felt a lot better. I don't think I have ever done that before. Learning to challenge my viscious inner critic is very key to overcoming binge eating for me.

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Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 11 of Shrink Yourself

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