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11/29/13 10:03 A

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emoticon for the support! It does help to have someone else listen and understand. I agree that all too soon they will be out on their own and have to make decisions for themselves. It's a little sad. I was just looking at pictures of when my four were little and that time has gone so quickly.

We can only do our best and I'm sure that is enough!!!

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11/29/13 4:53 A

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I guess the good thing is that we are not alone and it seems like a lot of the issues we struggle with our sons are more common than we think or feel at the time. I guess all we can really do is guide them the best we can and hope they find the motivation to put in the effort. I always try to make my kids understand that they will be on their own before too long and their choices are their own and they are the ones that will have to work with the life they create and that it is OK to ask for help.

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MJREIMERS's Photo MJREIMERS Posts: 3,644
11/27/13 3:24 P

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I rechecked the status of the missing work, and low and behold most of the grades are there. It seems like the teacher hadn't put the grades in and had set the deadline on the computer...thus it looked like had many missing assignments. To say the least my son is upset.

We said he still needs to make up any work that wasn't turned in. The thing is my son is getting all A's and B's so he has the grades. Science has slipped to a C, but he said he'll get it up.

The whole situation is frustrating. My son is planning on joining the military when he's done with high school. We told him there is no 1/2 effort and no easy way out in the military. I really don't like the idea, but will support his decision but, now I'm thinking that may be just what he needs. I just hope he doesn't drive me crazy by then. emoticon

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11/27/13 7:45 A

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Mako my son is in the exact same situation same age and everything...won't apply himself although he has some special needs he uses it as an excuse not to succeed and I think it's terrible

If You're tired or starting over stop giving up

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11/26/13 3:46 P

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My son is 14 and I decided to have him go to Connections Academy this year. We had the same problem with him frequently not turning in homework. Connections Academy is a free online public school. I like the format because I can see exactly what he is supposed to be working on. Before in the regular school, we wouldn't find out until it was obviously to late for that assignment which would mean that he is probably behind on whatever they would currently be working on. I am glad we made this choice and things are going much better now since he is not missing out on any of the lessons. (one has to be completed before moving to the next in a particular subject). I have 2 other kids (15 and 11) who still attend a traditional brick and mortar school. They are all individuals, so I think it's important to figure out what works best for each child. Hope this helps! I know it is frustrating to find out that your son is missing work and you want to scream WHY???!!!!!!!!

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11/26/13 7:13 A

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My oldest son is 15, and my third child. He is extremely bright and even took the ACT as a 7th grader. We always thought he was a bit bored in classes and his teachers would say the same.

Well, this year he is a freshman in high school and still doesn't apply himself. He has missing work in three subjects and we just had to be the "mean parents." emoticon No gadgets, gizmos, phone, or friends until the assignments are completed and turned in. (Even if they no longer count towards his grade.)

He wants to go into the armed services and even though I'd rather him not, maybe it's what he needs. It just seems like he never puts forth an effort when he thinks things get difficult. It's easier just to "let it go."

I'm just a little frustrated, so thanks for listening. I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving! emoticon

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