I would suggest talking to the whole family about health, not just your son. None of my kids are over weight, but we have had family discussions about processed food and sodas. My husband and I red a book called Sugar, Salt, Fat and discussed it often with our kids. We told them that the food industry tries to get us to buy processed foods, because they make us want to eat more. The book talks all about tricks the food industry uses to get us to by more food we need to consume. I helps my kids see not only aree those foods unhealthy, they are tricks that can make us eat even more unhealthy food. So now, we try to steer away from all of it. They can have some at friends houses, but they are making some better choices
We started changing habits one meal at a time. We looked at our cereals, and our book suggested no cereals with more than five grams of sugar. That is a little more than a teaspoon, some cereals have 15 grams of sugar, imagine pouring three teaspoons of sugar in your bowl. WHat we did was mix some of their favorite versions with healthier options...honey nut Cheerios and multigrain, honey nut chex and corn chex, kid and Reese's puffs. After they got used to that, we tried some cereals that had less sugar on their own. Rey now love rice krispies.
We then attacked our snack choices. I started by giving them their favorites like cheez it's and salt and vinegar chips, but made them have a fruit or veggie with it every time. I then started giving them smaller portions of those favorites and more of the fruit. We now snack more on pb and j sandwiches and fruits and veggies and I don't buy a lot of the other stuff,
For dinners, after they got used to the snacks and breakfasts, I simply made substitutions slowly. We went from full fat sour cream to reduced fat to slowly to fat free. I have found making the jumps slowly means they don't notice as much. This week, we started with ground turkey instead of hamburgers in recipes. I made lasagna with ground turkey and part skim ricotta and low sugar/salt tomato sauce and nobody noticed the difference. I made chili with ground turkey and my 11 year old son didn't even notice. These kind to switches don't make them feel fat, because they don't even know I am doing it,
I did tell the kids how awful sodas are for everyone, and that is the one thing am totally cutting it for them. We did let them buy the mini cans, and they can have one every couple of days. What I tell them is soda has so much sugar, 11 teaspoons in one can, that they can choose it for dessert if they want, because it really is a dessert. We are trying to be healthy, but we still have dessert around here, so if they want soda or gogurt or sugar cereals those are fine choices for dessert, o they can have some ice cream instead. I want them to not feel deprived..so they have a treat once a day, so eh don't go nuts about it, but they are learning moderation.
I read your post to my 11 year old son. His advice is to tell your son not to worry about how he looks, but how you feel. Think about foods as energy your body needs, and you want to give your body good energy, he is very athletic, and wants to look good, but is not overly concerned about weight, but how he performs.
I think if you concentrate on the whole family and tell your son you have learned that Anerican sin general are not healthy, not just him, and that the food industry conspires to make us that way so we spend more money on their food, maybe he wouldn't feel picked on and worry so much? Another idea is to taj to his doctor of course on his self esteem and worries and maybe his doctor can confirm he is not fat or confirm that he needs to exercise more, and then you would have back up?
I hope that helps and I didn't ramble too much, we have made these changes slowly over a whole summer, I noticed my nine year old was getting a little pudgy, especially in her backside, so I thought if I slowly made changes for he whole family, it would help her not feel singled out. She still doesn't know I was really targeting her, but over the whole summer she seems to have slimmed down and have more energy. Good luck!,
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