I have two boys, 6 and 11 (1st and 6th grade). I am having an issue with extra-curricular activities. My oldest always did cub scouts and one sport (which changed throughout the year) and that worked well. About 18 months ago, we signed both boys up for a martial arts class hoping that it would give my oldest more self confidence. So we are up to now, and my youngest is now also in scouts and plays seasonal sports. Along with martial arts, we literally have something to do *every single day* after school and usually on Saturday. My husband and I have decided to take the boys out of martial arts because of the fact we have *no* family time and it is also very expensive. I feel very, very guilty doing this. The boys have agreed to it reluctantly and seem a bit sad, and of course they can go back to it at a future date if it is truly their passion (although the cost will go up even more since we would have a new contract.)
Should I feel guilty? I know this is the best decision for our family as far as time and finances go, but add this to all the Christmas stress and I am literally sick to my stomach. I guess I am afraid we are "ruining" them and hurting their feels. I should confess that also I do not love the martial arts classes. Not only is there a monthly fee, but there is testing every other month (more fee), competitions several times a year (more fee), and of course we've had to buy all kinds of equipment that they would probably have outgrown if they go back in a year or two. I am not sure that it has helped my oldest with his self confidence either. That is another topic, but he really needs more self confidence in his life.
They are both fairly good at it, also, which makes me feel guilty. I guess I feel like they should enjoy baseball, basketball and soccer right now because once you get to middle school and high school you don't get to play unless you are one of the top players, and to be honest, I don't think they will be, except possibly in baseball.
Thanks for any words of wisdom. I am so stressed about this it is unreal. Also, I know the owners of the martial arts school will pressure us to stay as they need to keep as many students as possible (this is their only source of income.)
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