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1/31/13 11:56 P

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I think a lot depends not only on you, but on the other people around your daughter as well.

Right now, thanks to financial issues, my husband, daughter, and I live with my grandfather. Up until then, it was rare indeed that we ever had junk food in the house. We might have dined out more than we should have, but even then we made health conscious choices. Now living with my grandfather (and my aunt is next door) there is ALWAYS A TON OF JUNK FOOD! (Yes I did need to make that capitalization exaggeration). When we lived on our own, junk food consisted of microwave popcorn, multigrain bars, and full fat flavored yogurts. Right now if I were to walk in the kitchen I would find cake and marshmallows on the kitchen table, a tub of ice cream in the freezer (would be 2 but we finished off the other one at dinnertime today), 2 boxes of icee (of course that's actually from when she was sick), 4 boxes of cookies in the pantry, along with fiddle faddle, more marshmallows, more cakes, chips, pretzels, etc, etc, etc! Anyway, I'm sure you see an obscene difference in the way we stock our houses with food.

::off from my rant now:: In a way, Xena's habits haven changed at mealtimes. If she's hungry, she eats, if she's not feeling it, or it's not something she likes, she'll either ask for something different, just pick at it / play with it, or not eat. But... all day long she begs for candy, cookies, cake, etc. I say no... offer her other alternatives and options. (How about this apple instead? Or you can have a cookie after you've eaten an apple or a cheese stick) Sometimes, she'll accept the alternative, sometimes (okay, most of the time) she throws a tantrum. It's not our influence that is affecting her so much as the rest of our families. Worse even, I noticed the past few days that when she's been binging on good foods (fruits, veggies, whole grains) my grandfather's been telling her that she's going to get fat... he does not make this comment when she runs in the kitchen fills both fists up with cookies and runs off to eat them. It's a very frustrating situation.

I suppose basically, all I'm really saying, is that as long as you provide healthy choices, provide occasional treats, and give her lots of love, that everything will be fine

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1/31/13 12:31 P

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At 17 months old, she'll be able to tell you when she is hungry and full. Babies tend to know when they need to stop on their own, unlike us adults. :) If she wants more, chances are, she needs it. At that age, both of my kids went days where they hardly ate, and days when they ate everything in sight. It evened out. Also, my son was at the top of the growth charts as a baby, but by the time he was 2, he was small for his age. He's 3 now, and barely on the charts, but he was a 9 pound newborn. My 4-pound newborn daughter became a 4 feet 3 inches kindergartner. You never know how they will turn out. :)


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1/31/13 12:01 P

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I really love your philosophy EmilyClaire! My thoughts exactly, I don't want her to have an obsession with food.
She is only 17 months old (I said in my introduction profile that I hoped you would welcome me here...heheh), but she is at the top of the charts since her birth (both height and weight) and it is bothering me that everyday people come and tell me Wow, she sure is big! That doesn't help me at all! She is not fat considering her height, but sure have the cheeks... LOL.

We decided this weekend to start swimming lessons with her this Spring, and from there, we hope she'll want to keep up with sports as she is growing up and able to make her choices...


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1/31/13 11:08 A

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My daughter was a preemie, so she was always small as a baby/toddler. Now she is 6, and is off-the-charts tall and filling out a bit. She isn't overweight, but she eats like a maniac. My mom was always very careful about what I ate, and I ended up sneaking food, being very possessive of food, etc. With my daughter, I'm taking a different approach. She wants to eat incredible amounts, and I don't mention anything about weight at all. Instead, I give her one serving of the main course at a meal, and then she can have as many fruits and vegetables as she wants until she is full. I don't want her to feel like I am over-controlling her food intake, so I just make sure we have healthy choices. We are also a very active family, but I've always been active and athletic, and I still managed to get 110 pounds overweight with my compulsive eating. I don't want her to have a "battle" relationship with food. I want her to enjoy food, and understand that healthy eating can be good, and there is room for a treat now and then as long as you remember it is a treat.


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1/31/13 10:22 A

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I'm pretty sure this topic was already discussed, but couldn't find it. How many of you, mom of little girls, are worrying their little girl might have the same weight issue later on? It scares me alot, and I'm starting to realize I'm putting a lot of stress on myself. My husband gave her Cheerios last weekend (Multigrains Cheerios) and I almost had a panic attack!
I just don't want her to feel the stress of MY problem, but it's getting harder as she is growing up.
I do want her to be able to enjoy "goodies" here and there as well without ME making her feel bad about it... :(





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