My husband has been a stay-at-home dad since May. He and our son stay busy by going to the YMCA (swimming, playing, etc), going to the local pool, going to local parks, taking walks around the neighborhood, etc. The more they do in the mornings, the more likely my son is to take a nice long nap in the afternoon which gives my husband a much-needed break.
Is there someone close by (a friend, relative, or someone in the neighborhood that you trust) that could take them for him sometimes? I know when I have had to job hunt in the past I did a lot of it online. I would look for jobs online on various sites, and most of them have you send your resume via email (sometimes fax). I sent tons of resumes out from home. I also took one day that I took my kids to a daycare for the day and I spent that day going around to architects (since that is the field I am in) handing out my resume and talking to people when I could. Other than that one day I only needed babysitters for times when I was called in for interviews, so as long as you could find someone to watch them then maybe that would work out?
Also, I've noticed that my kids cause me less stress when they have something to do. On days that he is home with them all day maybe it would help him to make a schedule. Find things they would like to do and get them involved in something to keep them entertained, or take them to the park or just play outside in the yard. It may take more work to plan in the beginning, but will likely make the days go by quicker and less stressful.
I hope you find something that works for you to help your situation. I know how hard it can be to not have the extra income and even the smallest little thing can add stress to your day. Good luck!
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Getting to the feeling of hopelessness is hard. I'm sure your husband feels like pulling his hair out somedays -- so do I with my toddler and I'm not even home with him during the week, but there are always options. You might check to see if there are any "Mother's Day out" programs at churches in your area where you can leave your kids one day a week or even with a boys & girls club type place. Those are generally very low cost, sometimes free, for families who can't afford day care. Even if it were just a day or two a week, it might give your husband the break he needs from the kids and some time to job hunt.
You might also check with your kids' friends and see if you could help each other out. Maybe if a friend came over one day, then your child could go to their house another day. This would give your husband an extra kid one day, but they would likely entertain each other and stay out of his way, then he'd get a day to himself later...
Jsut my first thoughts. Hope you find soemthing to help you! Good luck!
I have a 3 year old and a 7 year old who is on summer break, and my husband is near his breaking point. He is not the stay at home dad type, but he is unemployed and we can't afford daycare. I feel horrible for my kids, because he can't get past his feelings of hopelessness, but then I feel awful for him because he's stuck at home with the kids and can't look for work, and it's creating a rift in our family. I don't want to think that there is nothing for us to do but wait it out, but this is starting to look like a hopeless situation. Any suggestions?
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