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2/8/14 4:36 P

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emoticon the RE was definitely wrong to treat you that way. It is good you are ovulating :) emoticon You've got this!

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2/7/14 1:03 P

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Thanks. I just had a miscarriage after ovulating and getting pregnant on my own in December/January. I lost tons of weight but I feel 100 more will put me in the right area to start trying. I was saddened that I lost a pregnancy but I am trying to get healthy. I think the RE was wrong to treat me the way he did, but I certainly understand the need to keep going with my weight loss. I am thinking about the good things - the near 390 weight loss, having at least 3 periods on my own, and ovulating.

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit"

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"Cultivate the ground before planting the seed"

~ Blessings to you~


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2/7/14 12:14 P

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Keep on as you are doing. emoticon I was told I would require fertility drugs to get pregnant, but after losing 70 lbs, I got pregnant on my own. The first time I miscarried. Two years later, I got pregnant again and had a healthy little boy. I breastfed him for a year and got pregnant again as soon as I quit breastfeeding. My kiddos are 6 and 4. I want another, but I put on a lot of weight having the boys and I haven't lost it and I haven't gotten pregnant again. I know I will have to get the weight off to get pregnant again. I wish you the very very best. I will be praying for you. I know the fear of thinking you will never get to have babies. I remember the many tears I shed thinking I would never know the joy of being a mother. I remember the deep depression I fell into after the miscarriage. emoticon

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2/6/14 10:39 A

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Thanks! I was told what every other doctor tells me. I need to lose weight. He won't consider running any tests until I put a 50lb dent in my weight. I'm not trying to get pregnant tomorrow, I just want to know what I'm dealing with when that time arrives. I'm not worried though. I'll move to the next doctor.

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit"

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"Cultivate the ground before planting the seed"

~ Blessings to you~


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2/6/14 10:00 A

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Good job losing 85 lbs!!!!!!! Bariatric surgery is so dangerous. I know a few people who have had it and they all suffer malnutrition and have required blood transfusions, lost hair, etc. I hope everything goes great for you with the RE and you get that baby!

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1/6/14 1:55 P

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Thanks so much! It will be a process. I have done a lot of research over the past few years and found I have to be my own advocate. I have more questions than answers. Maybe seeing this specialist will help close the gap on some of them.

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit"

Aristotle

"Cultivate the ground before planting the seed"

~ Blessings to you~


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1/6/14 12:53 P

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My pleasure! We've been there and it's a lot to take in so I'm happy to pass along info. The medical route did not work for us (my AMH was undetectable, even after losing 60 lbs), but I'm happy to shed light where I can.

OB/GYN's cannot test for infertility. Those tests must be done through an RE. There are certain baseline things Gyno's can do (basically prescribe clomid to trigger ovulation) but any official infertility DX or treatment needs to come from an RE.

Do as much research ahead of time to know what questions you want to ask the RE. Be forewarned that if they are anything like mine they will not deal with speculation or "if that doesn't work what is the next step," but it helps you focus since they will through a lot of information at you. RESOLVE, the National Association for Infertility has excellent resources of questions to ask your doctor, as well as explanations of the procedures they will do. They also have support groups around the US that may be helpful for you.

But no matter what, DO NOT let them diminish what you have done so far! You have lost almost 400 lbs against incredible odds. If you say you are going to lose 100 more lbs, I have no doubt that you will, and your doctor shouldn't either. Your RE may actually encourage more weight loss even if what they find at first blush isn't stellar, because there are some numbers (AMH for example) that can be artificially inflated or deflated in obese women. You are still young (cliche, and sucks to hear when all you want is to be pg, but it's true) and it will only be harder to lose and maintain weight loss after starting a family. If the RE tells you to focus on yourself right now, you do it.

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1/6/14 11:46 A

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Thanks for the overview! I just need a doctor to listen. I recognize I am still morbidly obese, but I am rectifying this. My current gyn has not performed any testing to determine if I will need assistance. She also makes me feel like I have twinkies in my back pocket....

It is no easy feat with PCOS to lose 50, let alone 385lbs on my own without her surgery recommendations. I would add this weight loss is maintained. I would like to lose 100 more by the end of this year. Hopefully this visit will help me gain more insight into what I will need to do to conceive.

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit"

Aristotle

"Cultivate the ground before planting the seed"

~ Blessings to you~


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1/6/14 11:25 A

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Your first apt. will be an interview of you and your partner - health history, what you have done up to this point, etc. Regardless of your weight, the RE will next probably want to perform baseline test on you and your partner. For you they include blood work, sonograms, and tests to see if there is anything abnormal in your uterus and tubes - all during your next cycle (test have to be done between days 3 and 10 - IIRC). They aren't the most pleasant experiences but your RE will prep you for them. He gets off easy with only a semen analysis. If the RE finds something in your testing that indicates he needs to move immediately (ie, low ovarian reserve) they might be willing to work with you as you are. But I would still expect that your RE may want you to lose weight because as you know it is better for your health and the health of your baby (it also helps their chances of getting you pg).

Highlight the fact that you have successfully lost weight before, and that you are willing to work for it. Find out the ideal weight they would like to work with you and set a goal.

I wish you all the best with this!

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1/6/14 11:02 A

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I have my first appointment with a Reproductive Endocrinologist. He specializes in infertility and PCOS. What should I expect?

I am at my wits end with my current gynecologist as she is trying to force feed me bariatric surgery (no credit for the 85lbs I lost in 8 months in 2012, and the 300lbs between 2003-2008). She stated she would not will help me do anything until I lose 200lbs. The 2000 mg of Metformin has not helped in the past 7 years I took it. She said she would rather have me at advanced maternal age and healthy as opposed to being obese and pregnant. So it is time to move on....

Edited by: DONEGIRL4LIFE at: 1/6/2014 (11:03)
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit"

Aristotle

"Cultivate the ground before planting the seed"

~ Blessings to you~


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