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Fitness Minutes: (86) Posts: 1 4/2/14 12:52 P
When I was a teenager, I expected: 1) To be married by 22 2) Have 4 kids by the time I was 28 3) Have a large house and a couple of dogs.
I turned 30 a couple of months ago and I have: 1) A college degree 2) A handful of animals, but no dogs 3) Married with no children, and plans to never have them. 4) A three year plan for a house.
Honestly, my plans changed. The only things I really wish I had right now are the house and dog. Through some soul searching I came to realize that becoming a parent wasn't a good option for myself or my husband, but I have the opportunity to be an awesome aunty. The things I really want are attainable, and I'm pleased that I can be more realistic with myself. I am blessed with genes that almost guarantee I won't get gray hairs until it all turns white at once, and although I do find the occasional weird body hair, I haven't turned into a wookie (one side of the family has a strong affinity to too much body hair).
Posts: 441 7/4/13 6:54 P
I think I had a lot of the same expectations that everyone else did growing up. By the time I hit thirty I expected I would have graduated from college, gotten a great job, travelled the world, found a terrific man to marry and had a couple kids with him...
I have managed exactly ONE of those so far, and I want the rest. I am not going to wait any longer, and now is the time to do it; I'm going to make turning 30 become the best year of my life!
i think therefore i am, i believe therefore i can!
current weight: 124.0
Posts: 8,209 11/17/12 5:32 P
I turned thirty in may so i thought i would be in a different place than i am right now. But i'm starting to realize what is important and what isn't. I'm still not married thought i would be. I still don't have children thought i would have them by now. I thought i would have a awesome job i don't i'm unemployed and looking for work anything at this point. But i will get their i'm not giving up i'm just starting so here is to a new decade. No more feeling sorry for myself just be happy with what you have right now.
Edited by: JUMPINJULIE at: 11/17/2012 (17:34)
It is always hard before it is easy. I Am Beautiful. I Can Do this. Sweat is Fat crying.
current weight: 149.0
Posts: 22 10/3/10 2:27 P
I turned thirty this past July 2010. Like many of you, I thought that my life would've been totally different at this age.
I thought by 30 I would:
1. Have gotten married 2. Have kids 3. Obtained a law degree and have a successful law practice. 4. Been financial stable. 5. Have a great life with my spouse and kids traveling and enjoying life. 6. Been physically fit and at my ideal clothing size of a 6.
At 30, I have none of those things....well, a little bit of #5 (Enjoying life and traveling when time/finances allows). I am currently unemployed and have decided to pursue a grad and doctoral degree in clinical psychology and law. I am a full-time student, living with my family as I pursue this new career venture. I've also decided to start my own business recently as well (lots on my plate, I know), which is a challenging yet rewarding experience.
Although I'm not where I thought I'd be, I think I'm where I need to be. I have grown tremendously over the past decade and have learned to embrace life and its challenges...it builds character. I have a wonderful family and friends who love me and that's all that matters. The highlight of my 30's thus far was a wonderful birthday cruise with close friends to Cozumel Mexico.
Bringing in the "Purrty 30's" on a cruise was wonderful it helped bring forth a positive outlook. As a result, I've stayed on this positive high and have decided to tackle my personal goals one by one. With God's grace, determination and hard work, this time around I WILL be successful.
Pounds lost: 2.2
Posts: 8 9/2/10 11:51 A
Although I will not be 30 until election day of this year. I am ready and embracing 30! I have three wonderful children and a supporting husband. My life is not at all how I ever thought it would be. We live in an unpredictable world, with times as trying as they have been I envy those who keep their life's on track with their goals, but some times you have to bend or you will break! I learned the hard way, but would not do one thing different. I love my life!
current weight: 190.0
Posts: 7 8/27/10 3:42 P
I turn 30 this coming Monday. I have have been extremly lucky to have had such a fulfilled life in 30 short,busy, exhausting, yet fun years. I have been able to travel with my career, I have danced on many stages and have had the pleasure of learning about many different cultures; meeting wonderful people in the process. When I turned 25, I set some financial goals that I wanted to reach by the time I turned 30, if not before that. I have been able to do so with a lot of hard work, discipline, and constant reminders to myself. I now own my home,and am building a stable life for myself for the firt time in my life.
I am looking forward to my 30's. I will be getting married in December to a wonderful man. To all the 30 somethings out there, I wish you all the best journey! This is the prime of our lives- let's live it up!
Fitness Minutes: (304) Posts: 57 8/19/10 7:42 A
I lost a pregnancy last July and spent a lot of time last fall convinced that I would be at least pregnant by my 30th birthday...has not happened yet. I was quite upset about it to the point that I was refusing to celebrate. But my DH made sure that I had a great day so I guess that counts for something. Otherwise I have no real complaints. In all honesty I had not really considered it much until this past year and that was all focused on making babies (which is still a work in progress).
~ Live, Love, Laugh~
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Posts: 349 7/29/10 5:52 P
I turned 30 this June, it was scary, but not as bad as I thought it would be.
In high school I thought by 30 I'd: -Be done with school and have a degree -Be far from the corporate world in some sort of artsy job -Be married -Probably have 2 kids and be done -Have a nice, BIG house -Not be living paycheck to paycheck and have money in savings -Be healthy and fit and no longer overweight
The reality at 30: -Did 1 year of college, haven't been back since and am still not quite sure what I want to be when I grow up -Working in a corporate job in the finance dept -Been married for a little over 3 years -1 8 year old daughter and I'm not sure if I want to do it all over again -Have a nice SMALL house, but it's new, we had it built and it's nice, it will do for now -Living paycheck to paycheck with little money saved -Getting healthy and fit, I've lost 48lbs and I'm now about the size I was right after graduating high school
Yeah sure I didn't do everything I thought I would by the time I turned 30, but my 20's were great and I have a feeling my 30's will be even better!
current weight: 196.0
Posts: 1,303 6/12/10 9:02 A
I will be 30 next week. I've had some unexpected surprises happen in my life before hitting the big 3-0. When I graduated high school I thought by 30 I would have my BA, be married, and have 3 kids.
During my early 20's my goals changed...I still wanted the bachelors but then I wanted my masters and to travel the world! I was still okay with getting married, but kids were kinda pushed to something that might happen before I hit 40.
So: -have my bachelors and masters -haven't quite traveled the world nearly as much as I would like -married with two doggies -don't quite have the house yet, but I'm not crazy about where I'm living now so it is okay. -I JUST finally started a career....at least I started that before I hit 30.
Do I care about turning 30...not so much....I'm happy that I've made it to 30! My brother was murdered when I was 14, he was 27. 27 was an anxious number for me. I did my thinking and worrying when I was that age...probably because that is the age my brother died. That was my time for self-reflection.
As we grow and learn, I think our goals in life change.
Edited by: MRS.CARLY at: 6/12/2010 (09:04)
Pounds lost: 6.8
Posts: 1 6/5/10 1:42 A
In the long run - did the full spectrum light help?
Fitness Minutes: (5,102) Posts: 689 4/14/10 4:24 P
I was dreading 30. Really I just wanted the day to go by un-noticed.
What I wanted before I turned 30: -Degree -Stable Job -Married -2 or 3 kids and be done before I turned 30 -house
What I do have: -Married -House -1 daughter on earth and one in heaven. I am done having kids, but it didn't end how I had planned.
I've just recently come to realize that just because I didn't hit all of my "goals" before I turned 30, that theres no reason I can't make new goals with a new deadline. I don't know what those new goals are yet, but I've got plenty of time to think of them.
Cheers to the 30's!
Just turned 30 and i want to start it off right! No more excuses!
120-go summerclothes shopping
110-The thrill of knowing that I finally made it to my goal weight :)
Fitness Minutes: (31,829) Posts: 5,937 4/12/10 7:39 P
I don't really know what I expected when I turned 30 (the blessed event happened last Friday, ha). I know that when I turned 25, I was terribly sad. I seem to remember thinking that I hadn't accomplished anything except graduating college, which was not really that exciting since I didn't know what I wanted to do with myself.
But 30 is much better. I didn't mind 30, with the slight exception that my clock is ticking! I have a loving boyfriend of three years, who tells me that we will get engaged "soon", although his soon and my soon are very different. We have a great house, two dogs, no debt (except for the house and our vehicles). We both have good jobs, similar goals. Life is good.
Now that I'm working on myself (something I put off for a long time), things are looking even better. While I haven't really mastered the whole healthy eating thing yet, I have mastered the fitness needs, and I love it. It's such great stress relief.
Here's to a great decade!
Keri ~ Illinois
"The difference between try and triumph is a little umph." - Marvin Phillips
"Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway." - Earl Nightingale
Pounds lost: 25.4
Posts: 33 4/12/10 3:00 P
I also found myself 30 and with a mountain of debt. Luckily my husband of nearly a year have set out to get rid of all debt and retire at the age of 40. Our last resort to accomplish was to open our business, we were both teachers and living paycheck to paycheck. Believe me that is not the life I invisioned when I graduated from college five years ago. Life is great when you take hold of your life on a daily basis..
current weight: 225.0
Posts: 347 4/11/10 4:01 P
I was so happy on my 30th birthday because it was a joint birthday party for my 1 year old girl! So 30 years and right where I thought I'd be in terms of the marriage, kids, and education. What I didn't expect is that we would be under literally a mountain of debt (from said education), not own a house, and that I have not even decided whether or not I want a job (or to be a stay at home mom), and if I do want a full time job, what it should be. Life is so great right now though, I wouldn't change a thing!
current weight: 142.0
Posts: 105 3/15/10 11:43 A
Mocoloco- I totally hear you. I had a lot of similar expectations. Thought I'd be married, have children, savings, etc. Just thought I'd feel like a secure adult. I'm getting there though. I'm happy about my size and getting happier about my fitness level (I'm accepting that I will NEVER really be a runner). I'm approaching the 4 year mark of dating my boyfriend (but we've been to look at rings). Also loving my two fur babies, a cat and a puppy. Finally got a raise at work so I feel I'm going to be compensated for the work and time I've put in and for the loans I'm paying off for my MSW. I guess things are coming together but it's hard to get over the idealized version we have of our futures and their time frame.
current weight: 109.8
Posts: 189 3/1/10 11:12 A
Like many people have mentioned, I thought my life would be quite different than it turned out. When I was in my early 20's I thought by the time I'm 30 (I turned 30 in Aug '09) I would:
1. Be more fit and fitting into size 4 clothes again 2. Be married 3. Have my 1st kid already 4. Have upgraded my car 5. Have a master's degree 6. Be in a management position at work 7. Have a house 8. Have a sizable amount in retirement savings
Fast forward almost a decade and this is where I'm at:
1. I'm less fit than ever and am straddling between wearing size 8-10 clothes (which is a lot for a 5'2" frame) 2. Still dating the same boyfriend - we recently celebrated our 7th yr dating anniversary (and we're considering going to counseling to work out some communication issues) - no ring yet. 3. I have a wonderful fur-baby but no children 4. I'm still driving the car I bought in college. Ole Miss turned 11 yrs. old last October. 5. I did get my MBA degree a couple of years ago (but I'm not getting compensated or recognized for it at my current job of 2 yrs) 6. I changed careers in my mid-20's and had to essentially start from the entry level again (even though I received my master's degree). While a lot of my friends are a manager at their jobs, I just got promoted to a senior staff position. I'm still trying to find what my career should be since I'm not really using my degrees, but I am thankful I have a job that values me during these tough times. 7. I just bought a house, but definitely not what I thought I could get for the amount of $$$ 8. I took a couple of years off from working so I could go to MBA school full-time (I paid for it myself). I lived off of my savings and essentially depleted it before I was able to get a full-time job after graduation. I never touched my retirement funds, but it doesn't help I haven't put anything in for several years now. Although I've been working again for 2 years, I'm still trying to start from scratch with building up my savings.
Edited by: MOCOLOCO at: 3/1/2010 (11:19)
Posts: 36 2/28/10 1:41 P
Well I will be 30 in another month and a half and I don't have a house, or a car, not married, no kids and currently unemployed! How depressing is that? I moved over 6000kms away from my family and friends to a place thats suppose to have more opportunities. I do not like it here, and I am not crazy for the people here. So far I have managed to pay off half of my debt and thats about it. I am depressed and confused. I am wanting to move back "home" however I have no money to move back. I feel pressured by my parents to have kids because my older and only sister is not having any. I want to go back to school but then that will put me back into debt again! But I would have to upgrade my high school to do that as well. Which means if I go back it will be another 4-5 years before I have kids, which makes it riskier because I will be 35-ish. I am in a union and currently there are 2300 people ahead of me who have been unemployed longer. I am about as confused now as I was when I was 21 years old...and that wasn't a good time in my life. That about sums it up!
current weight: 175.0
Posts: 401 2/22/10 1:46 P
I thought hitting 30 would be the end of the world. My life has changed dramatically in the last 4 years. And at least I have succeeded in part of my by the time I hit 30 goals. I am married and I did have my 2nd child before I hit 30. Although my husband is not the person I expected it to be (I am remarried) and I gave birth 4 months before turning 30.
Although I have debt, I'm still in school and still not quite sure what I want to be when I grow up, I am happy with who I am. I think that is most important.
And as with my new years resolutions I have created new goals for meeting before 35.
Pounds lost: 4.0
Posts: 177 1/31/10 9:48 P
30 is the new 22!!!! Don't worry about what you don't have...my goals are to be happy and healthy, no matter what!!!! Good luck to everyone!!!
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Posts: 5 1/25/10 5:05 P
I will be 30 in 6 months, so unless something miraculous happens (money falls from the sky) I will still be in the same situation I am at 29.
1. My husband and I own a home 2. We have 3 beautiful children 3. I graduated with my Bachelors degree in May 09 4. My husband and I both have wonderfuls jobs working with for the state.
What I didn't plan was being nearly 80lbs overweight and feeling awful about myself. My goal is to definately get alot of this weight off in 6 months.
current weight: 210.0
Posts: 11 1/8/10 9:57 P
I love this subject in that it so reflects so much of the type of person I am- I am a planner... A visionary- And at a much younger age I had planned to be out of college and married by 22-23... my first baby by 25 and working on my 2nd or 3rd child by now... The house was definitely in my vision and a very steady and comfortable income- 30 was never one of those ages I had always "dreamed of" or imagined being... you know... you can't wait to be 16, then 18, then 20 and 21... and 25... those are "big deal" ages... but no young person really thinks "I can't WAIT to turn THIRTY!"
It's hilarious when I look back on all of that and see where I'm at. I didn't get married til 27- Still no kids (but seriously- I have no where to put any, no money to care for any and no time either!! SERIOUSLY?!) We have moved 5 times in 3 years between La. and Tx. And none of the places we lived with the exception of a 4 month span have been in a house. Crazy. Financially we are in a crucially tight position- And it's not always fun or wonderful- To top it off, I had watched so many of my friends who turned 30 act so discouraged, sad and absolutely disgusted with at the idea of it. The month before I turned 30, I took some time to really think about my life, and the whole "age" issue- I dealt with fears and frustrations I had, and I came to grips with them. And you know what? Turning 30 ended up being WONDERFUL for me- I realized that this was not a terrible "end to my young life" or a failure of me, but the beginning of my successes- the beginning of who I really am going to become. This time in life while filled with struggles, is where the "BIG" decisions get made, the opportunities come and the path for my future really starts to take shape- It's an exciting time, not a sad one- This is where I get to be a "grown-up"- and no, it's not always fun- there are responsibilities, uncertainties and questions- but there are life experiences and rewards and successes that I will reach, that until now, I've only dreamed of! No- It's not what I thought it would be- But I have learned something... life is never going to be exactly as you imagine... it's full of surprises- you have to jump on, and hold on tight, and be ready! And take it as it comes... and just know, when it's not how you planned, there's a gift in there somewhere... To fight depression: Spend time with people you love, people that make you a better person- Focus on others- helping them, loving them- Exercise daily, and pray too! Listen to HAPPY songs- Songs that make you wanna dance or smile or sing along- Avoid alcohol, fried food, and too much sugar- LIGHTEN UP... Get as much light around you as you can- Turn the lights on in your home, go outside- And get some bright flowers, pj's and tee-shirts- The comfy clothes you love to wear should make you feel happy too! And remember... true happiness is not in things we can buy, but rather in things that come freely- contentment, family, friendships, smiling, hugs, love and kindness... and the Holy Spirit. Sorry to be so lengthy- Excited to share in these thoughts! Happy Journey!
current weight: 286.0
Posts: 962 1/8/10 8:16 A
I would never have imagined myself a stay at home mom of four children. I actually thought I would never have children! HA! The jokes on me!
Fitness Minutes: (7,693) Posts: 1,119 12/29/09 11:06 A
After looking at my own post, I realize that even though I had no idea 2 months ago how life would change, I am more than happy in it now.
I found out I am pregnant on November 29. Yesterday began 9 weeks. Although I am filing for bankruptcy, that fact doesn't change how happy I am about the reason why we are in debt - not because we splurged, but because about 85% of our debt comes from education. My college degree is on its way - I have 4 classes left, and I know it will be hard, but I will graduate this year from the community college and be working on my application to a southern florida university at the beginning of 2010.
Sometimes God answers prayers, more than you'd ever expect. Two months ago, I was in a bad position and in a horrible mood. Now since my pregnancy and seeing my family, I realize that I am very loved and unique - nothing could make me happier than having this baby, my wonderful husband, and the people that support me!
At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.
“Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light.”
—Norman B. Rice
current weight: 149.8
Posts: 137 12/21/09 5:06 P
I couldn't imagine thirty. Perhaps I thought I would be a completely different person from who I actually am. I thought that 1. my career would be on track 2. I would be single 3. I would be better traveled 4. I would have my finances in order
The reality is the complete opposite of every one of those things. I guess that's a reference point for what I would like to nurture in my life. My marriage is something I want to continue to build. I have to do something about my career and my finances and I think the travel will follow.
Still I have to say that at thirty, I feel different from 20 or even 25 in that I have less time and patience for foolishness. My time is so much more precious. My loved ones so much more important. Every dollar so much more valuable. And that is the gift of growing older I guess. The added appreciation for the things in your life. The realization you are lucky to be alive.
Also battling the depression myself but I got a full spectrum lamp at costco. It plus the exercise help a LOT.
Pounds lost: 5.0
Fitness Minutes: (10,017) Posts: 65 11/24/09 7:03 P
I hope to have a HUGE change in my life. Last year I moved to another city searching for better career opportunities - and I wouldn't mind moving to another country to improve my career.
I also expect to study something non-related to my career, just for personal development. I believe it will make me a more complete person.
At last, but not least, now that I've lost weight, I hope I can dance again. Or, who knows, try synchronized swimming, that would be like dancing in the water!
I can has tofuburger?
current weight: 105.0
Posts: 268 11/5/09 8:47 A
I was lucky in that i had success in my career much earlier than most, so when at 23 i didn't have my debt free life with the house and hubby and baby to go along with it i kind of freaked out. i went into a tail spin of sorts because i had always just assumed that is where i would be by that point in my life and never realized that one aspect just happened way sooner than the rest.
That experience really taught me to put less emphasis on the material things and focus on what mattered. Now that i am almost 30 and do have a house, hubby and baby, i am trying to focus more on improving things: health, finances, etc.
Funny that i have exchanged one battle for another, but today my crows feet are way more important than what i considered the end of the world 7 years ago.
current weight: 169.0
Posts: 3 10/27/09 1:21 A
I just turned 30 recently also. The things I thought I'd have by this point: 1. A (nicer) house. 2. A masters degree...I am working on an associates to override that pesky bachelors that I'm not using. 3. No debt - We had gotten out from under it and now we have it again thanks to my school and the recession. 4. A nicer car 5. Healthier weight 6. Babies - We are putting this off for a few more years but when i was younger I thought I'd have several by now.
Pounds lost: 11.0
Fitness Minutes: (25,517) Posts: 336 10/12/09 3:31 P
I didn't think that I would be married before 30. In high school and college, I didn't date much mainly because I couldn't stand most of the guys my age. I opted to focus on my education and get my career started. While I did finish my Master's degree before 30, I'm definitely not where I thought I would be in my career. I'm still working that one out.
After getting married earilier than I figured, I thought that I would have a family. I have since learned that kids are not in my future.
I do have a house.
While I may not be where I thought I would be, I am happy and embracing the fact that life can't always be planned...it just has to be lived!
Melissa Nestor, MS, CSCS
"Choose a good reputation over great riches; being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold."
Proverbs 22:1, NLT
"A cheerful look brings joy to the heart; good news makes for good health."
Proverbs 15:30, NLT
Pounds lost: 0.0
Fitness Minutes: (7,693) Posts: 1,119 10/11/09 3:00 P
I don't know how everyone else who has been 30 for a few months feels, but there are certain things I thought I'd have that I don't.
1. A house 2. A baby 3. Enormous amount of debt 4. A college degree 5. A job
What I do have is a very positive and optimistic husband, a princess fur-baby, a high school diploma and a place to live, food to eat, clothes on my back, and some money in the bank.
I am also suffering from depression - and trying to work my way out of it.
What does/did everyone else expect, and what do you have now?
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