Thank you I enjoyed this thread. I will refer back to it. The message below is called " radical acceptance" in DBT. (a type of therapy)
-Mary eastern standard time
Be kind to yourself.
"You is kind, you is smart, you is important."
"We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same." – Carlos Castaneda
"I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be responsible, to be honorable, to be compassionate. It is, after all, to matter: to count, to stand for something, to have made some difference that you lived at all."
– Leo Rosten
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A reminder that all that energy we spend on worrying is wasted. Might as well put that energy to better use - like for appreciating and accepting the world AS IT IS - no matter how painful that may be.
"Leap, and the net will appear." -Zen koan
"One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star." -Nietzsche
"Fall seven times, stand up eight." -Japanese Proverb
The four season occur free form anyone's demand or vote. The natural law and order of this world is not "for" or "against" you. Fundamentally, there is nothing in the world that either threatens you or promotes your point of view. There is a natural law and order that allows you to survive, which is basically good. We often take for granted or reject this basic law and order in the universe, but we should think twice. We should appreciate what we have. We should feel that is is wonderful to be in this world.
When you slouch, you are trying to hide your heart, protecting it by slumping over; when you sit upright but relaxed in the posture of meditation, your heart is naked. Your entire being is exposed--to yourself first of all, but to others as well. Through the practice of sitting still and following your breath as it goes out and dissolves, you are connecting with your heart. By simply letting yourself be as you are, you develop genuine sympathy toward yourself. When you sit erect, you proclaim to yourself and to the rest of the world that you are going to be a warrior, a fully human being.
Uncertainty here refers to doubting yourself or the existence of basic goodness. When you don't punish or condemn yourself, when you relax and appreciate your body and mind, you begin to contact basic goodness in yourself. So it is extremely important to be willing to open yourself to yourself.
As human beings, we have a working basis within us that allows us to uplift our state of existence and cheer up fully. Because we have a mind and body, we can comprehend this world. Existence is wonderful and precious. We don't know how long we will live. While we have our life, why not make use of it? Before we even make use of it, why don't we appreciate it?
In the wakeful vision of Shambhala, which we call the vision of the Great Eastern Sun, no human being is ever a lost cause. We don't feel that we have to suppress or put a lid on anyone or anything. We are always willing to give things a chance to flower.
i tend to get dopey grins on my face when i read these things, especially after a not-so-relaxing sleep or morning activities like cleaning or trying to get things to work. its like a mental "its all groovy, man" thing going on in my head.
i like these, its so like an eraser for the brain, helpful for meditation (or starting it again)
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"This is a revolution, dammit! We're going to have to offend SOMEBODY!"--John Adams, "1776"
"You're not going crazy, Arthur. You're going sane in a crazy world."--Tick
It is not just an arbitrary idea that the the world is good - we can experience its goodness. The human potential for intelligence and dignity is attuned to experiencing the brilliance of the bright blue sky, the freshness of green fields, and the beauty of the trees and mountains. We have an actual connection to reality that can wake us up and make us feel basically good. Goodness can happen to us. In fact, it is happening already.
I have been reading from my kindness handbook and the question is " what do you really need right now to be happy?" ( this is verbatim from the book) I know the state of mind so well, as soon as you get into buisnass class. you start thinking about first class. this is how we are conditioned- there is always something else to want, even before we take a moment to appreciate what we already have, or are about to have, the variety of opportunity and circumstance is infinite. we get into a state of mind of looking for an upgrade, and another upgrade , and yet another, it can be endless, living more consciously is about turning around of always wanting more, it is about deconditioning, about getting out of such constricted mind states and discovering a radically different kind of happiness- one that is not so vulnerable, that does not lead to certain dissatisfaction, we need to loosen our grasping and out clinging, we need to have the courage to step out of our conditioning.
reading this reminds me of how much we rely on and look for outside sources to help us to be happy, our jobs and people we meet can have such an impact, and to be happy for me at least is to have friends and to laugh, what do you need to be happy?
Edited by: HARPERLADY at: 12/20/2010 (13:52)
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self control is knowing you can and deciding you wont
Fundamental goodness is unconditional. It is there already, just as heaven and earth are already there. Imagine that you are sitting naked on the earth. You are exposed to heaven above and earth below, sandwiched between them. You can't reject your atmosphere, the sun and the moon, sidewalks and skyscrapers, the landscape or the sea. This goodness is that basic, that unconditional. It is not good versus bad. It is not a "for" or "against" view, just as sunlight is not "for" or "against."
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The key to warriorship and the ultimate definition of bravery is not being afraid of who you are. Examine your experience to see what it contains that is of value in helping yourself and others. Warriorship is the opposite of selfishness. We become selfish when we are afraid of ourselves and afraid of the seeming threats the world presents. We want to build a little nest, a cocoon, to protect ourselves. But we can be much more brave than that. Even in the face of great problems, we can be heroic and kind at the same time.
The following posts will be from The Sacred Path of the Warrior by Chogyam Trungpa. They are numbered 1 to 53 and will include a slogan and commentary. If you would like, use the slogans as a focus for a meditation session.
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