Hi Team. Maybe someone has an idea on how to use Paul's methods or another method to help me change the way I deal with stress.
I'm finding my life to be extremely stressful at this time and it looks like it won't ease up anytime soon. I've also found that I'm 'hungry' all of the time and I never feel full. Which of course means I'm emotionally 'hungry' and so food will not satisfy my hunger.
I listen to the Cravings CD every morning and I listen to the Exercise CD on my way to work (I take public transportation). I've also increased my walking to 6,000 steps a day. I've gotten out of the habit of using the 'tapping technique', but that helped more with specific cravings, not the "I need to eat anything and everything" feelings that I have right now.
Has anyone found one or two of Paul's techniques to really help them deal with stress/emotions without food?
Stress is something that has affected me a lot - and I always no one understood my stress - I wasn't a worry wort or an anxious person - there was stuff happening that was really stressful (not going into it but it involved my teenage daughter, abusive boyfriend, drugs & homelessness... then there was other stuff). So suggestions like take a bath or light some candles or say a prayer (really?) did not help me.
Stress is a physical response to anxiety and if you are unable to alter the cause of the anxiety (like being caused by other people or situation that are totally out of your control) you have to minimise the physical responses so they don't make you ill.
The other thing about stress is that it is different for every person - so you have ot try a lot of things to find what works for you?
Obvsiously, any stress that is causing severe physical responses (chest pains, dreadful headaches, dizziness, shortness of breath...etc) should be mentioned to a doctor.
There are lots of relaxation techniques out there - meditation, deep breathing etc which are very good. Relaxation is very important because it gives your mind and body a break from all the stress. Having some time out from stess enables you to regain some strength so that the next day is less wearing on the mind and body - although the cause of the stress is not relieved.
Talking about it. Talking with someone - counsellor, friend or via blogging - getting it off your chest helps. Keeps things bottled in - thinking that no one is interested or I should be more positive and not whine, and any sort of 'faking it' is not helpful, in fact it is down right harmful. Because under those messages is a subconscious saying no one else cares so shut up. You are entitled to have a vent, a moan, a whine. As long as you don't get trapped by the drama of it all and start to enjoy it - or only talk to people when you are down - those are not healthy.
So - what do you do to relax - what hobbies keep you sane! How do you cope with stessful periods in your life??
This week has been very stressful at work. I've used the technique Lady_Lois suggested, the tapping technique from Paul's book, talked about my concerns, did the deep breathing exercises, and went walking to help relieve the stress. I've also listened to a relaxation hypnosis on the way to work (I take the train) which has helped a lot. All of the little things I've done has helped me relieve the stress I have felt little by little. I did over eat during meals, but I didn't binge which is a huge accomplishment.
Does anyone else have any suggestions on how to relieve stress?
Wow! That was amazing Lady_Lois! I used a memory of a massage and I feel so calm!
I've been doing the tapping technique to help with stress and deep breathing. Both of those have helped. However, recently I have noticed that I am emotionally eating a lot more to deal with stress, anger, sadness, etc and I can feel the difference in my clothes.
Between work, family, finances, etc my stress has increased a lot over the past year. I'm looking forward to using the relaxation technique Lady_Lois wrote about.
I have had a very stressful life - many ups and extreme lows - and I got ill from it. The doctor recommended hypnotherapy - I saw a hypnotherapist and had some sessions and it worked. When I stopped seeing her (£45 a time) I looked into Paul McKenna and I much prefer his CDs.
Listening to the CDs (any of them) really helps me relax - it switches off the constant noise of whatever my subconsicous is on about - and gives me a break.
Doing the mirror exercise helps with my confidence - part of the noise of my inescapable stress is to do with my appearance and confidence.
The confidence button or stress busting button. I don't do this enough.
Think of a time when you felt suprememly confident, for example when you first discovered you were the best at something, or won praise for something or just felt great about yourself. (OR a time when you felt really relaxed - perhaps on holiday or having a massage or something).
Make the memory vivid - see it in colour, hear the sounds and smell of the moment - make it is real and vivid as you can.
As you recal this memory, press your thumb and forefinger together.
Release and repeat at least 5 times.
The memory will come easier and easier and then the pressing of the thumb and forefinger will trigger this memory and feeling each time. Then when you feel insecure or stressed, press your thumb and forefinger together as your confidence/stressbuster button and the memory will flood back making you feel much better.
So, what are you doing to tackle your stress? Or do you need help in tackling it?
Listening to your body is important and many cravings and binges are caused by our emotions - they knock at our door and unless we answer, it will knock louder and louder until we do deal with whatever it is?
A lot of this pressure is from inescapable stress. Our internal dialogue, our subconcious thoughts, outside pressure - all sorts of things cause this inescapable stress. So, how DO you deal with it?
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