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10/19/11 9:21 A

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Hi.I LIVE IN Ohio and my boyfriend lives in Missouri.We are only an hour difference.We have been dating for under a month.We havent met in person yet,but we are truely in love.He makes me laugh and I make him laugh.We are soo funny.I love Shannon Cook! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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3/5/11 2:57 P

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So, I have 3 weeks till I see my guy next (it will have been 5 weeks once those 3 are up). I've been really bad about what I eat and feel like I've gained some weight back. I don't want to step on the scale for a few days because I'm bloated and don't want to get the water weight counted in my weigh in. (A large popcorn and soda at the movies will make me bloated) I'm hoping that for the next 3 weeks I can be good about working out and eating better. I need to work on my lower abs because they seem to get sore with all of the activities we do when we're together. Anyone know some good lower ab workouts? Well, wish me luck.

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3/4/11 1:22 P

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No, it's totally not bad that you want to see him. We have this idea today that people can be in a relationship and not really pay attention to each other and that's okay. You see that with people who go off on girls' weekends, do business travel, even live in separate houses.** I pretty often hear people say that they don't care what their BF/GF/spouse thinks about something, they'll do it anyway.
Look, a relationship takes attention, just like anything else. It's not only okay, it's reasonable, good, and right to want to spend time together. If you're never relating, how can you call it a relationship?

That said of course, we don't always have control over these things. My boyfriend works so much right now that I feel like we're long distance again. Sometimes the only thing you can do is be really patient and wait for a better future.

**I don't think that any of these is necessarily bad. But put into the overall picture of people not paying attention to each other...

"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present." - Marcus Aurelius


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3/4/11 11:44 A

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I am in a semi LDR my boyfriend and I olny live an hour and half away from each other and we are in the same time zone, but when we first starting dating we were in two different provinces. Over the summer he away from May - Sept with the military.
We were planning a nice weekend together and he called saying that the military called him in for the weekend so he can't come visit. He was here all of last week, but was sick so I spent all my time looking after him and we had no real relationship time together.

Is it really so bad of me to want to see him so we can work on our relationship? Because of of late things have not been going good even though we talk every night on the phone and text randomly though the day.

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2/13/11 10:31 P

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I would say there are definite red flags if he's questioning your feelings. Even if he's all legit, I'd be pretty worried about a guy who doesn't allow you to feel what you feel.

I don't recall if you addressed this, but it's also a problem that he seems to be letting you take all the financial (and physical!) risk. I would hope somebody worth fighting for would insist that HE take the trouble of coming to you or at least meeting you somewhere, at least for the first time.

When I met my man, I was living in Europe and he was living in Latin America. He flew all the way to a second European country to see me. It was a huge leap on his part, and it really showed me that he meant it.

Not that the guy bears all the responsibility, you know? But women still tend to be more physically and financially vulnerable. So he should at least be OFFERING to meet you half way on this, metaphorically.

good luck :)

"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present." - Marcus Aurelius


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2/13/11 4:54 A

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I just finished 5 weeks of a 20 week semester abroad, and it's really hard, on me and my boyfriend. We're both miserable about it, not sure which of us more. We do Skype a few days a week, it's hard with both of our schedules and the time difference sometimes, and we do email and aim. Google talk allows me to text and call his phone without using international rates, it's considered domestic, so that's been a real blessing. But yeah...it's kinda rough. He is going to come visit in 6 weeks and a day, or that's the plan, and stay for a week and then once he goes back I'll have almost 8 more weeks here before I can go home. I have severe major depression anyway, and this just exacerbates it. It's nice to know that other people have made it through stuff and worked out okay. Some days I just don't know if we're gonna make it with how hard it is.

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1/28/11 12:16 P

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Just wanted to say hang in there!
My boyfriend and I had several periods of long distance, sometimes just across the country, sometimes across the ocean.
And it's worked out! We're living together permanently now.
It is HARD, but if you WORK to make it happen, you'll be alright! BF and I carved out time to talk every night, so I knew I was still part of his life. Sometimes we had to miss it for other things, but people still tell me about how seriously he took those calls and cut things off early to come "see" me.

So that's my story...good luck to everybody!

"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present." - Marcus Aurelius


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12/18/10 3:35 P

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So, our trip got changed again. Luckily I got to go see him Thursday and came home yesterday. He was supposed to come back with me, but at the last minute decided not to. He was packed and ready to go, but I could tell his gut was telling him not to. I was disappointed, but not surprised when he said he wasn't coming. There was a nasty storm predicted and he needed to be home for work. I'm hoping to see him for new year's tho.

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12/10/10 5:07 P

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My guy and I used to see each other every 2-4 weeks. Its now going on 8 weeks since we've seen each other, and its getting hard. I know there are those out there who haven't seen their significant others in much longer and I honestly don't know how you do it. We've had three trips planned so far, and they've all gotten canceled. The first time was due to weather, the second he got sick, and the third he got scheduled to work when he wasn't supposed to. We have a fourth trip planned this thursday-saturday. I'm going to visit him thursday, we'll drive back to my place friday and spend friday and saturday in my town. If this trip gets canceled I honestly don't think I'll be able to take it gracefully.

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5/1/10 2:26 P

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I recently moved away to attend school and my boyfriend stayed home. We didn't end our relationship. What we do is we make sure and talk everyday twice a day and it seems to work. emoticon

Kimberly from Missouri :)


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12/19/09 2:25 P

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I was in an LDR for about two years with my boyfriend. I lived in Detroit, MI and he lived in Kansas City, KS--about 800 miles apart. We met through a complex web of associations but now can't imagine life without each other. He moved up to Michigan for about 9 months of the two years, but then moved back to KC for school. I can't tell you how much harder it was being long-distance after having lived with him! We were able to see each other every few months as money would allow, and PRAISE GOD! I've now moved out to KC and we got an apartment together just after Thanksgiving this year. It's like the weight of the world has been lifted off me. Life is so much better having his support RIGHT THERE in the flesh, you know?

Hang in there, LDR ladies! You know your man is worth the wait!

All you need is love. --The Beatles

One thing I can tell you is you've got to be free! --John Lennon

I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent. -- Mohandas K. Gandhi


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11/9/09 7:53 A

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My roommate Tyler and I are both in LDRs. His girlfriend has come to visit the last two weeks in a row, and I've been so green with envy. She went home this morning emoticon , and even though she and I are friends, I was glad to see her go. I know that is rotten of me! I love them both but I can only stand so much of others happiness when I'm down. My boyfriend is trying to come see me this weekend coming up emoticon , but he may have to work again. It really sucks only seeing him once a month when we used to live 5 mins from each other. But the longer we go apart the more time I have to make some changes in myself emoticon . That is how I'm gonna try to look at it from now on...

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10/29/09 3:11 P

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Hey! I've been in a long distance relationship for the past 3 years and it's still continuing. I know it's hard. I only see my boyfriend every few weeks. It gets easier once your used to it. Good luck!

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10/7/09 5:42 P

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Hello ladies - I'm also in a LDR and thought I'd stop by and say hi..

I totally feel your pain about "wasting time" and not "having a history".. Skype is only so much fun.. I love your idea of doing the same things (watching movie or cooking food) - although I doubt my boy would be up for coordination of that sort!

Just had a visit from him and we agreed that we didn't care about others not wanting to see us snuggle on in public - even though I can get a bit blue when I see others doing that and he's miles away.. Hmm.

Take care out there!

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9/16/09 10:21 P

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I made this a sticky so all you Girlfriends in LDR have a place to chat! :D

"Fall 7 times, get up 8." ~Chinese Proverb


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5/16/09 1:31 P

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Thank you for the advice. I hope everything works out for you and your guy.

The joy of being, which is the only true happiness, cannot come to you through any form possession, achievement, person

or

even-through anything that happens. That joy cannot 'Come'

to you

ever. It emantes from the formless dimention 'Within You',

from

consciouness itself and thus is one with who you are.

Love and peace,
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5/16/09 2:13 A

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Good! On your terms!

You can talk to him on Skype for free, talking instead of just emailing might give you new insight about the relationship! And you can do video chat if you both have webcams, also free! I know I really appreciate being able to talk to my guy any time I feel far away. Seeing him on video Skype is really nice too, but sometimes that makes me miss him more.

If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one!

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5/15/09 11:45 P

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No actually we met in facebook. I do want to meet him, but it will be on my terms. If we don't get along. I want to have a back up plan and money to do with.

The joy of being, which is the only true happiness, cannot come to you through any form possession, achievement, person

or

even-through anything that happens. That joy cannot 'Come'

to you

ever. It emantes from the formless dimention 'Within You',

from

consciouness itself and thus is one with who you are.

Love and peace,
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5/15/09 12:47 P

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That sucks! To feel you have such a great connection. Of course you'd have a better sense if you met him in person, but going that far and spending all that money is too much risk. Have you talked with him on Skype?

If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one!

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5/15/09 12:37 P

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Yep, I met him online. I have to wait how this materializes. Right now now head is telling me to just remain friends. Still talk to him and let him make the first move.

My heart is saying this is the perfect guy and I want to be with him. I think my brain is going to win this match up. Thank you for the advice.

The joy of being, which is the only true happiness, cannot come to you through any form possession, achievement, person

or

even-through anything that happens. That joy cannot 'Come'

to you

ever. It emantes from the formless dimention 'Within You',

from

consciouness itself and thus is one with who you are.

Love and peace,
Mary


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5/15/09 9:32 A

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Did you met this guy online? Be careful! I haven't done any online dating but it sounds like a lot of b.s. goes down there because some people are just playing around. So if you're seeing red flags, don't bother spending the $$$ on going to Australia!

I met my guy when he was over here temporarily for a conference, wasn't looking for anything more than chit chat at a concert. But!

If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one!

Dolly Parton


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5/14/09 11:47 P

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Well, kind of. I like this guy that lives in Australia. We even talked about me going over to see him. I tell him that I love him, but he questions it all the time. I think red flags are raising already. What do you think?

The joy of being, which is the only true happiness, cannot come to you through any form possession, achievement, person

or

even-through anything that happens. That joy cannot 'Come'

to you

ever. It emantes from the formless dimention 'Within You',

from

consciouness itself and thus is one with who you are.

Love and peace,
Mary


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5/14/09 9:53 A

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Hi! My guy lives on another continent, and there's a 6-hour time difference. It's tough! I was over there for a week at Easter, and he'll be here June 6. I hope to tone up my body a bit before I see him.

Anyone else in a LDR?

If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one!

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