Thank you all for the great answers! I guess that's part of that whole "girls cannot be friends without competing" stereotype. On the other hand, my true girlfriends make the sweetest comments and I can see that they are genuinely happy for me. I can say I've been getting the best and the worst from my friends. Needless to say that I've been way more selective about my friendships...
SUNFLOWERSAVAGE that's right, that's exactly what I'm doing, changing my role. If they have a problem with that, then they are not worth calling friends. Thank you for the encouragement!
BEFEARLESSNOW could it be that your parents don't want you to think they're putting pressure on you by making comments about your weight loss? Or maybe they just don't know how much you value their opinion. I come from Italian background on both sides of the family... It took so long to get them convinced that "yes, that's all I'm gonna eat because I'm full... not because I don't like your food anymore." It's even harder with my grandma, I actually have to leave the table when I'm done or else she will put more food on my plate! Not because she wants me fat, but because that's it's always been.
LISSASLOSINIT those 12 weeks make sense, some people actually don't pay that much attention to us as much as we think we do. But the friends I'm talking about I know for sure they've noticed. You know those looks you get from a girl examining you from head to toe, even if it's just a glimpse? Plus, they are usually the girls that love attention. Coincidence? I don't think so. And you're spot on. This change is for ME, for the first time it is for ME and that's why it's working better than ever. Also, this has been a very good tool to recognize who my true friends are and remove negative influence from my life.
PUGLOVER1999 I've done the same mistake as you and I've changed my mindset as well. I quit doing this for other people, I do it for myself and it's been working greatly! No one can motivate me better than myself. The same way I'm accountable for my accomplishments, I'm also accountable for my setbacks. Having joined SP has helped me a lot dealing with the latter as I finally have people I can share experiences with, like you guys!
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