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8/4/13 7:28 A

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glad to know i'm not the only one!

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6/15/13 10:21 P

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It's been tough going for me and my husband in the past, but recently, we've both started eating suuuper healthy.

He's trying to simultaneously bulk up and lean out (aka, lots of protein, but generally low calories) and got a diet plan from a trainer. Because the foods from the plan are all that's in the house, I'm following the same plan. The big caveat is that I eat between 2/3 to 1/2 of his portion sizes- I just use a smaller plate!

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6/2/13 1:25 P

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Wow! It's kind of comforting to hear that I'm not the only one dealing with this right now. Like you, I'm kind of short and small--5'2" and 117 lb--and don't need nearly as much food as my husband. My main struggle is late night snacking, so what will he do? Ask me at 11pm, if I want to go to McDonalds. Dang.

I've tried stocking the house with all kinds of healthy snacks for his late night munchies, but they just don't seem to cut it. I think the main thing that would curb this behavior is to just go to bed and sleep. It seems the later we stay up the more we eat and the poorer our choices become.


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4/1/13 10:58 P

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Aah the old boyfriend blow up...i gained a lot of weight when i started dating my fiancee. I realized that i cant eat what he eats because for one thing he's 6'5 and im 5'8, hes in the military and i have a sedentary job. To cut back when we go out to eat we started ordering one entree that we both liked and i'll order a side salad (cuz we all know restaurant portions are huge). Also i learned to cook scaled down versions of his faves so i can enjoy them guilt free.

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2/26/13 5:52 P

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my boyfriend is an absolute pizza fanatic...he could eat it every meal for every day! his freezer is stock piled with frozen pizzas and he probably orders in at least once a week. It is so hard to resist it when that's what he wants to eat/order since i too have a soft spot for pizza.

I have found a great recipe for pizza dough and Pizza sauce from the "Looney Spoons Collection" cook book. I double the dough recipie and make three pizza crusts out of it so that they are nice and thin. I try to top my half with lower fat toppings, use low fat cheese etc. I freeze them on disposable pizza trays in large ziplocs so that they are ready to just pop in the oven when we both get that craving.

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1/24/13 10:56 A

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Some great advice so far -- another tip I would add is eating slowly. If you eat half as fast as him, you eat half as much as him, yet it doesn't seem like you're missing out. Try putting your fork down between every bite, and taking a lot of water breaks. Then by the time he's getting seconds you still have food on your plate.

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1/9/13 11:40 A

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My boyfriend loves the smoothies I make! And you can be sneaky about putting healthy stuff in it! His favorite is my peanut butter banana smoothie, and I make it with almond milk and sprinkle nutmeg on top! We love to cook together and create new recipes so that helps us stay healthy. He is also really active and we go on walks/adventures together a lot too. The thing is if we don't have something healthy prepared or planned, that's when we don't eat well, and when he assumes a quick walk will burn it off hahaha. Good luck!

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12/30/12 2:14 P

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I have a similar issue with my husband. I'm 5' tall, and I weigh 111 lbs; he's 5'8" tall, and he weighs 250 lbs. Not only is his daily calorie intake way off from mine, but he's also obese/unhealthy as well. He's tried to diet (even spent a lot of $$$ on a trainer for him) a few times, but nothing has ever really stuck for him. I try to be supportive by trying to go through the diet/exercise process with him, but he just makes really bad food choices. If it is high in calories, fat, carbs, anything bad or covered with butter/sugar--- he wants to eat it! I'm better at self control than he is, but when I see him eating something like that then it breaks down my resolve, you know? I just feel like... I'm only 111 but I will still say "no" to eating pizza and/or ice cream or whatever else in front of him out of solidarity for trying to help him lose weight! As far as I'm concerned if he's on a diet then all of the junk food in the house can go, because I'll do whatever it takes to see him happy and healthy! I just don't know why he can't do the same for me if he knows I'm on a diet! Why suggest going to the Cheesecake Factory or getting a Five Guys burger or eating sweets in front of me???

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10/1/12 3:49 P

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As for some meal ideas...

My boyfriend and I both love chicken franchaise (I always spell that wrong lol) which isn't bad if you can find a recipe that doesn't use a ton of butter. We usually have it with whole-grain rice and lots of veggies.

Another good one is baked chicken parm, if you don't bread and fry the chicken. If the sauce is flavorful, you probably won't even care that the chicken isn't breaded. And mozzarella cheese isn't particularly bad for you, either. Have it with some healthy pasta and a salad or other veggies.

A stir fry is also a fairly easy and tasty one. You can do so many different things with a stir fry! Just watch the sodium if you use soy or teriyaki sauce.

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10/1/12 3:43 P

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I hear all of you about the eating with a boyfriend/fiance/husband! I'm 4'8" and my bf is 6'3"...so the amount of food our bodies need are obviously very different. I need to eat under 1600 calories just to maintain my weight--around 1200 to lose. I've already lost 15lbs since June, largely because I have such an awesome man. :) We live about an hour apart, and swap weekends (he comes by me one weekend, I go by him the next.) He's started buying less junk and more fruits and veggies the weekends that I'll be there. Before I got serious about eating right, though...well, it was bad haha. I'd eat OK at home, but when I was with him, I'd eat whatever I wanted, usually in large amounts. Mozzarella sticks, pizza, cookies, ice cream, brownies, dinners with creamy sauces... Not to mention I enjoy baking. Mainly things I shouldn't eat. I've tried to bake healthier stuff, and healthier versions of the cookies, cakes, and brownies I love...but they never seem nearly as good as the "bad" stuff. emoticon

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9/22/12 8:25 A

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Tell him about your goals and ask him to help keep you accountable. Discuss meals you can make together--look at some SP recipes online and see what you'd BOTH might be interested in.

That's what I do with my Boyfriend. Every time I see a new recipe, I bookmark it, and when he's free we'll look at it and see if we want to try it or toss it. He also is very mindful about what I eat, making sure that I'm on track (politely!!!), and tries his best not to sabotage my hard work.

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9/4/12 2:33 P

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I will cook grilled chicken breast in the oven with no skin....I will slice of pineapple and stick it on top of the chicken breast in the last 20 minutes of cooking and sprinkle with some chicken seasoning that is a little spicy. I will make a homemade honey mustard with mustard and agava nector and a little touch of apple cider vingear and drizzle it over pineapple and chicken. Then we will usually have a dark spinach salad on the side with the same honey mustard dressing and lots of veggies.



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9/3/12 7:37 A

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I'm in the same position! I'm only 5'1 and he's 6'3 plus he's in the army so pretty much never sits still when he's working so his metabolism is sky high! I'm gluten intolerant as well so eating together is a total nightmare. We're both really keen on eating our meals together when we can. Unfortunately it's usually easier for me to grab something unhealthy and gluten free so when we're together my healthy eating goes out the window. I come from a very healthy-eating family and he doesn't so, for example, mashed potatoes for him include lots of butter and whole milk whereas mine is skimmed milk and a bit of pepper which is pretty tasteless for him in comparison! He's lost a ton of weight being in Afghan and feels a lot better for it and is trying to keep the weight off so he's trying to eat healthier.

These tips have been so helpful! But I was also wondering what kind of meals do you cook with your boyfriends/partners that you both enjoy and are quite healthy?

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8/30/12 11:15 A

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I had the same problem! I am 5'1 and my boyfriend is 6'5 talk about portion difference. When we first moved in together is was a struggle. I finally started cooking and now I cook healthy recipes that we both like. He eats a ton more and I make my plate once and do not go back for 2nds like he does.



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8/23/12 9:12 A

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I was going to post on this topic too! A lot of GREAT advice in these responses. I completely understand that feeling that just "clicks" and its okay to eat sweets, junk food, or whatever he's eating when we're together (which is most of the time since we live together). I don't know why that happens and it makes things difficult, but whenever that urge hits me, I try distract myself...I know easier said than done. Analyze why you want to eat it, is it a bonding thing, like you'll enjoy it together? Try doing something else together, like playing a game or some other distraction emoticon . If its because somehow you feel like when you're together its almost like a 'vacation' or some special occasion (and therefore its okay to break the rules) then try doing something else special, go someplace new to explore, or something else that's not routine.

Other than that I like what others have said, stick with YOUR portions for YOUR body, never let him pile on the food for you (i learned that quickly...it doesnt make sense to eat the same when I'm 60% of his body weight!)
Also communicate, get him on board with your goals and if he's not a part of them already he might learn a thing or two, or you can be each other's support. We both have a serious weakness for pizza and when one or the other is craving it we act as each other's resistance.

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7/6/12 11:25 A

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I am going through the same exact thing! My BF and I moved in with one another in October. He and I have two totally different goals. He is actually trying to gain weight, while I am trying to lose. It's a very hard situation to have to deal with as a woman. He eats 2 or 3 plates for dinner, while I eat half of one of his portions. If that's not enough, for dessert he eats oreo cakesters. I don't know if any of you have ever smelt them, but they smell delicious. Anyways, what I would do in order to get through this situation is when you go to the store, get things that are easy to portion out, like grapes, carrots, strawberries, veggie straws, etc. When he is on one of his binges, eat one of your healthy portions or do you have a dog? Use that as an excuse to walk the dog. I'll be honest, when it's that time of the month and I'm really struggling to stick with the diet, I take the dog on a walk. It's just so much easier to do that or go to the gym rather than creating a fight because I'm crabby and want to eat crap like him. Best of luck!

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6/22/12 9:43 P

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I live with my boyfriend. I found I exercise the most and eat lighter portions while he's away for work. When he's home, it's so easy for me to skip the gym to prepare dinner or worry what to eat. It just sucks because he's so in shape but too lazy to work out at the gym with me.

I solved this by changing my work shift to earlier so I get home before him. That's when I fit in my exercise. By the time he gets home, I'm all ready to cook dinner. I'm also trying to push him to play soccer again since he hates gyms. That way I can get in my outdoor running time while he's playing.

He also loves eating ice cream, but I've just learned to take ONE bite from his scoop. Sharing is a lot better than me trying to control myself!

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6/15/12 3:07 P

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I'm dealing with this right now, too! A couple things that have worked for us:

He drinks a soda almost every night. It's so hard to not sneak a few sips, so I buy him a kind that I don't really care for.

If my husband wants to eat late night junk food that I shouldn't be eating, he does it when I'm in the tub or on the phone. If I'm preoccupied doing something else, I'm a lot less likely to binge on sugary/salty snack foods.

I've noticed that I dish out a lot larger portions when I am with my guy. I try to just be conscious of this.

Good luck girl!



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6/5/12 6:59 P

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I feel for you. Boys metabolisms are ridiculous!

My boyfriend is Asian, and it's a constant struggle to weigh less than him. I'm a couple inches shorter, so I feel I should be at least a pound lighter than him. He eats terribly, and I've told him that I want to eat healthier. He's supportive in that if we go out to eat he'll stop at Subway for me if I ask, and then go to Mc'Donalds for himself.

He is ALWAYS hungry though, so If I've already eaten a couple hours ago, and then he picks up 2 large fries for himself, it's difficult to resist. I've failed badly once so far by eating half a large fry, and it's very frustrating.

Also, because of my diabetes he frequently tells me I should eat, and I can only say "no, I'm fine" so many times in an hour. On the upside, he's very cute and attentive to my health as far as everything besides healthy diet goes. We go to the gym together sometimes, but I think more active dates are a great idea!

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5/31/12 11:15 A

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I am also in a long distance relationship, so I can totally relate to wanting to enjoy every minute you actually get to spend with your boyfriend, or in my case, fiancé. Guys just need to realize that we can't just eat whatever we want and maintain our weight. You can't out-exercise a bad diet. When guys are young, it seems like they can just do that. Their metabolisms are so freaking high and their BMR is so much higher than ours. It just seems like women got the short end of the stick. But there are definitely ways to deal with it. I agree that communication is key. Once you make him realize that you're trying to lose weight/maintain your weight and live a healthy lifestyle, he should be able to support you with that. He wants you to feel good about yourself. He probably already thinks you're incredibly beautiful and he wants you to see yourself the way he sees you. From that perspective, he should be supportive of your lifestyle. Making working out together a fun date activity! Biking together, rollerblading together, going to the park and running around like you used to when you were a little kid. As for food, you can absolutely eat what he does, but in smaller portions. And try to get him more into healthier foods. Not to sound anti-feminist, but make healthy meals for him. Soon, he'll learn to love them and start making them for YOU! I hope some of this helped!

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5/17/12 5:01 A

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This is DEFINITELY one of the hardest parts (for me) about being in a relationship while trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle. I'm in a long distance relationship, so when we're together on the weekends I want to just be able to enjoy our time together and make nice meals and do nice things... which is fine and sometimes we do that and the meals are healthy and delicious. BUT my boyfriend is 6'4, I'm 5'1, so we have VERY different needs nutritionally. He also has a huge sweet tooth and wants some type of dessert every day. We go kind of on a rollercoaster as to how we deal with it -- sometimes I want those things too and end up screwing up a week of good eating, but most of the time I have to explain that I don't want sweets and that I want to make healthier meals.

I've found the thing that has made the most difference is actually talking about the issue. No surprise there, most things within a relationship can be improved through communication! We talked about our different nutritional needs so that something as simple as dishing food is more effective (he used to dish me the same amount of food as himself, which made it harder for me to stop eating something - especially something delicious - when there was some left on my plate). Now I get a small portion and if I'm still hungry or I feel like having more, it's a conscious decision. I've also gotten better about having him eat chocolate or other sweets around me even if I'm not having them, but that one totally depends on my mood and level of will power. Still, he's more aware of it and makes an effort not to flaunt his junk food and supports me in trying to eat healthier. It's tough going but I think with communication and dedication it can be done -- having a supportive boyfriend can be one of the best ways to be successful in this journey!

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5/10/12 8:07 P

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Ughhhhh boyfriends!!!! No, they are great...but it is sooooo annoying trying to coordinate foods with them. My boyfriend is adorable and buys "lite" versions of stuff, but he still eats tons of candy and ice cream and all this stuff that I always have to sneak bites of. During my weakest times (when I REALLY want to eat the same things he does) I usually end up grabbing a yogurt to eat suuuuper slowly. Best would be if you eat a greek yogurt since it has lots of protein--but it feels more right when you eat something that tastes more like the ice cream he has. So I sometimes freeze some light yoplaits (like boston creme pie, key lime pie, orange creme, etc.)...that seems to help. And when it's frozen it last longer. I mean I could tell you to snack on fruits or veggies instead but somehow that just doesn't cut it when it really comes down to it. Something my boyfriend and I both like are protein smoothies. I use either vanilla protein and frozen peaches or pineapple or mixed berries and almond milk and that's super yummy, or I use chocolate protein powder and frozen mixed berries and almond milk and it is all really delicious! Sometimes the consistency comes out and it reminds me of fro yo! It definitely helps if you find something at least sort of healthy and not too high in calories that you both like?

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5/10/12 1:55 P

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I'll have days of eating healthy, exercising regularly and everything and i will feel great! And then i stay with my boyfriend for a few days... and all **** breaks loose. It's not that he even eats completely unhealthy but something clicks in my head that it's okay for me to eat sweets and junk food when i'm around him. Even when he doesn't! Anyone have any suggestions for not blowing my diet?

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