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2/13/09 3:42 A

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Ladies - you can always change things up a bit. You can still keep the tradition but not as "vulgar". I have been to weddings where they do the bouquet and garter tosses. Those who catch it can do nothing, get a picture taken with the bride and groom and/or dance together. If you're a fun outgoing couple the whole process would be very fun. I've been to weddings where the groom has pulled out numerous items from under the brides dress before the garter but they were comfortable with that. We're doing the tosses because it's something we want to do, but there are other things that can be done too.

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2/11/09 2:29 P

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I don't want to do a garter toss because I have also been embarrassed for the bride during the removal. My mom acts like its blasphemous not to do a garter toss, I'm like, why can't he toss it without having everyone watch him take it off of me, I could give him the spare garter to keep in his pocket to toss without everyone watching him go up my dress.
It's tradition around here for the garter toss and then for the person who catches it to put it on the girl who catches the bouquet, but I'm just not comfortable with it.

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I'm just starting the whole process of wedding planning (well, not even really starting just nothing to do at work) but I can guarantee that we will not be doing the garter toss. So not my style or his. Not all that interested in the bouqet toss either. There are probably not a lot of traditional things going on at the wedding or before. We are just very low key kind of people.

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10/23/08 6:24 P

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This topic hasn't been discussed between my fiance and myself. I understand where a lot of people are coming from when they say they feel uncomfortable having their father, grandfather..etc seeing someone go up their dress with their hands or teeth. I'm not sure how far back this tradition goes or if it has any significant meaning, but I might end up coming up with an alternative too. I like the idea of the anniversary dance that was mentioned in one of the prior posts as an alternative way to give the bouquet. We will not have very many single people either and I know that when I go to weddings I tend to avoid the bouquet toss because I think it's somewhat embarassing to chase down foliage. I'll definitely have to bring this up to my fiance and see what his thoughts or opinion on the garter/bouquet toss is and take it from there.

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10/23/08 3:22 P

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My fiance will be wearing a kilt - so I have thrown out the idea to go under his kilt and pull one out!

Considering half of those in attendance will be kilted - it could be amusing - but it is still up for discussion because I am only letting him get my garter if he gets to be as red faced as me :)

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We have decided to do away with the garter and bouquet toss as well. Neither of us particularly like it and we also feel that it can also make the singles, especially older singles, feel awkward and uncomfortable and so we have decided to just do away with it. Although there are actually quite a few wedding traditions we are not going to have.



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8/12/08 10:23 A

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We're not doing the garter removal/toss either. It is definitely not for me. And actually, we were initially not going to do the bouquet toss either though mainly because I want to keep my bouquet. Instead I'm getting a toss bouquet and not tying it with anything. That way, in theory anyway, when I throw it over my head the flowers will come apart and everyone will get one.

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8/12/08 9:27 A

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We're totally rocking the garter toss teeth and all to the Ferris Bueller theme song, but i think the big difference is that there will be a lot of singles at the wedding. Either way i think its wicked fun!

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I am not sure about this either. I really don't want his head up my dress in front of my family. Taking it off by hand is not that bad but I really don't like the tradition. I do want to do the bouquet toss but I think they kind of go together so I am not sure.

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hell i would do it just cause i know my husband wants to enjoy that part of the wedding lol

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6/6/08 9:25 A

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I refuse to do the garter thing, i think its tacky. My 80+ grandmother, who is coming all the way from scotland does not need to see my new huusband go up my dress!
I havent decided about the bouquet toss yet...




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6/6/08 7:42 A

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Sounds like many of us are in the same boat!

I liked the idea of keeping with traditions...but I don't think between our families we have 3 single people above the age of 12!

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6/6/08 12:52 A

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We aren't doing the garter toss, just the boquet. However we are in the same boat as many others, with most of our guests being attached.

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No garter or bouquet toss for us, not enough single people since it's such a small wedding.

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6/5/08 9:40 P

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We are NOT doing this one. Not only are neither of us comfortable with it, but there aren't enough single men. I am the first of all my friends getting married, so we can do the bouquet, but all of his male friends are married or older...so not going to happen!

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4/25/08 10:46 A

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I think the garter removal is hilarious and I can't wait to do it. However... my fiance thought it would be REALLY funny to come out with a gigantic pair of granny panties first, and then fish out the garter. I guess he would tape the panties under the chair or something? Regardless, that is NOT happening. I'm losing 20 pounds so I can look smoking in hot lacy thongs... NOT so his entire family can laugh at granny panties. I'm no bridezille, but I vetoed that one pretty fast :)

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4/23/08 7:23 P

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An Anniversary Dance is where you get all the married couples on the dance floor. The DJ then call out a time and whomever has been married for less than that time leaves the floor. The first time is always "20 minutes" or however long ago the ceremony was, and the Bride and Groom leaves. Then you go up from there, 1 year, 5, 10, 15 until there's only one couple on the dance floor. Whoever is last, gets the bouquet.

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4/23/08 5:27 P

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I'm actually really looking forward to the dollar dance - it may be the only minute and a half I get with a lot of my friends at the reception!

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4/23/08 5:15 P

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At my friend's wedding a few years ago, they blind-folded the groom and then her dad put the garter on and she sat on his lap so that his leg was covered by her dress...it was hilarious because the groom went down there and got a mouth full of his father-in-law's hairy leg! My fiance would kill me if I tried to pull that. We'll probably do the garter toss, but I think I'm gonna make him use his hands!!! My cousin got married last weekend and their whole wedding had a Disney theme (they are both special needs) and when the groom came back up, he had Mickey Mouse ears on...it was sooo cute!!!

 
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4/23/08 9:33 A

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Thanks... I have been wanting to do cupcakes for a long time for my wedding... We are going to set it up on a cake stand so it looks like the traditional cake...I just think cupcakes stay a lot more moist than a regular cake plus you don't have to use forks and plates to pass them out I found some really cute cupcake cups for them..they have leaves on them for my fall wedding. I love the rice crispy treat idea that is sooo cute!!!!

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4/23/08 9:10 A

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Sam20/08:

Cupcakes is such a great idea! I have a friend who made their wedding cake out of rice crispy treats and then decorated it like a cake. It turned out amazing.

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We aren't doing a garter toss, but it's not really because we're against it. Out of our 100 guests, about five of them will be single and I think only 2 of them are men. Seems kind of pointless to do a bouquet or garter toss for just those people, right?

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as a joke, I want the DJ to play Welcome to the Jungle by Guns n Roses....

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i hear ya! thanks!

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yeah everyone gets in line to dance with either the bride or groom and they have to pay a 1.00 to dance with them..I don't know I think it's kind of silly... I just don't feel like dancing with a bunch of guys who aren't my husband!!

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Tell me about the anniversary dance and money dance? I have seen the bride dance for money. But what is an anniversary dance and how do you initiate a money dance. I am polish and if i remember correctly at a polish wedding, the bride puts on a babushka (scarf) and dances the polka and is paid by people to dance with them.
I think if you aren't polish, you can just have the dollar dance and people pay you as they dance with you. I paid to dance with my nephew come to think of it, so it is not just the bride that does this.

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4/22/08 3:57 A

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We haven't decided or talked about this. I don't mind the garter toss, but I don't have enough single girlfriends to really do a bouquet toss. I was thinking of doing an Anniversary Dance instead! I don't know what to with the garter then, can we still throw it? Every wedding I've ever been to has done a bouquet/garter toss!

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4/21/08 4:35 P

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HI we aren't doing this either..I am also staying away form the $ dance and the father daughter dance!!! I am also NOT cutting the cake...we have cup cakes!! =) I am not doing the father daughter dance because my father is in a wheelchair and I feel it would be more sad than anything!

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4/21/08 9:00 A

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We aren't doing this, because we are having a very small wedding with just immediate family.

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4/20/08 6:58 P

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we're doing a bouquet toss but not a garter. My fiance is Indian, he didn't even believe me when I told him about the garter tradition. I had to go find youtube videos to prove it. hehe. Anyway, he was totally mortified, so i don't even have to come up with an argument against it.

My best friend got married a year an a half ago, and we bungee-corded all sorts of random things under her skirt for him to pull out before he got to the garter. He hammed it up and it was great... but that's much more their style than ours.

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4/4/08 10:42 A

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That is how it is often done in my area. We're skipping the tradition completely. Something just doesn't feel right to me about my husband sticking his head or hand up my dress in from of my Dad, Grandfather, etc. The whole thing really isn't my style nor does it match the kind of wedding we're having.

We're skipping the bouquet toss too. I don't want to make my single friends chase foliage around the dance floor. Instead, I'm doing a toast to my Mom and giving it to her.

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4/4/08 10:28 A

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Same as MEGAN here. I am reluctantly participating in this tradition. My fiancee doesn't care about anything else but for some reason he wants to do this!

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yeah, we're doing the garter toss, but I was against it. I'm just going through with it for my fiancee'.

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We're doing the garter toss. However, hands only... as my dress will probably be a fit and flare style.

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We aren't doing the bouquet toss or the garter toss as most of the people who will be there are either already married/taken or older and don't want to participate. We are giving a garter to his brother, though, who just needs a little nudge in the right direction with his son's mother.

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We aren't doing this, its just not my style and there won't be that many single people anyways :)

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We are doing it too- I can't wait!

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We are doing the garter removal. It will be hilarious!

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Ive told my fiance, no removal with the teeth. Hands only. And I'm not going to have the guy put the garter on another girl (unless maybe if they are a coule)

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We aren't doing it either, mainly because we won't have many single's there to participate. But I agree, it would be embarassing. I went to a wedding once where the groom pulled out a "For Rent" sign before he took off thhe garter. That was pretty funny!

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I'm not going to participate in the garter or bouquet removal/toss...it's just not my style...

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Just curious as to how widespread this tradition is since I've really only been to weddings in the Canadian Maritimes.

Around here, at some point during the reception, the garter must be removed so that the groom can throw it to the eligible bachelors (just like the bride throws her boquet to the bachelorettes). The actual removal of the garter is an extremely hysterical and embarrassing procedure. The bride must sit down with her legs crossed (garter leg on top) and while the band/dj play suggestive music, the groom must get down on his hands and knees, stick his head under the brides dress, and slide the garter off her leg with his teeth. XD

Just as good, when someone has caught the garter and the boquet, the guy who got the garter must put it on the girl who got the boquet. Half of the time he'll do it with his teeth just like the groom, but the other half both parties are hysterical embarrassed and he slips it on as quickly as possible with his hands. :P

I always thought this was the funniest freakin' thing when I was at weddings in the past...now I'm picturing being PART of the festivities and I'm turning beat-red just thinking about it. lol

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