Welcome Linda, I love the advice about the old rear view mirror you got from Lynn. It is so true. Surround yourself with positive people and thoughts and you will succeed. I'm so glad you are here! Big Hugs, Jo
Linda, Welcome to the team. I am sorry for all the struggles you had to go through. I am happy you found us. We will be your support and believe it or not You are an Inspiration because you are a survivor and you fought to be here. Many Blessings on you journey.
I wish we could put up some of the Christmas spirit in jars and open a jar of it every month. ~Harlan Miller
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I told my husband about how your husband reacted to the cancer, and he just stared at me, with his mouth open, in shock. I said, "You want to go find the guy and punch him in the face, don't you?" and he said "Hell yes."
Not all males are like your husband. I won't call him a man, because he isn't one.
Linda, welcome to the gang! So sorry that you qualify to join......and for all that you have been through. That is so disappointing that your husband could not cope, just when you need support the most!
You will certainly find support and encouragement here! After all, these teams are great, but ours is even more special, as we're not only struggling with weight issues, but also with life changing, life altering health issues. Feel free to post frequently so that we can get to know you, and if you need to vent, we're here for you!! We all have out days, and sometimes it's good to just get it out, we'll understand!
It is true, this site is overwhelming at first, but take it slow, explore a little, ask questions, and before you know it, you'll be an "old" pro!!
And congrats on being cancer free!
That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
Phil. 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; An optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill
"Victory is not found in the ease of our circumstances, nor in the strength of our own resources, but in the presence of the Lord, who is with us" Roy Lessin
Welcome, You have had a rough road. But now it is all about you. You will find support, motivation, friendship and love here on our team. I have found such a sense of belonging on this site that I can not explain. I have wonderful friends, but my SP friends are especially wonderful because they have all made the journey and truly understand my feelings. Like Ivylass said, take it slow, you can do this and we are all here to help.
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Welcome, Linda. I'm sorry you've had such a rough time with it, and I'm sorry your husband couldn't deal with your cancer. You've been ridden hard and put up wet, so you need to start taking care of yourself. You CAN get thin and stay that way, you can have more energy, and you can say "see what you gave up!" to your ex.
SP can be a bit overwhelming because it has so much info and resources. Start of slow, and if you do nothing else, use the Nutrition Tracker to track your daily calories. You can do it. So many of us have.
My grandmother died from breast cancer before I was born. My mother had breast cancer at age 50, had a mastectomy and chemo. She developed colon cancer at age 54. She died at age 56. I developed breast cancer at age 41. I had just had a mammagram in November, but in June I found a lump. I had a lumpectomy, chemo and radiation. Unfortunately my husband was not very supportive and was upset because I was getting so much attention!!?? Thankfully my Dad was there to help take care of me and support me. Little did I know that two years later I would be taking care of my Daddy who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. He died September of 2005. My husband left me and my children in April of 2006. He said he no longer loved me. We have been divorced since Sept. 2007. I had to sell my house and move into a trailer. Unfortunately, I am an emotional eater and ate my way through the divorce. Also, during chemo, I gained instead of lost weight because of the steroids they gave me to help with the aches of Taxol. At my heaviest I was 189 lbs. I have lost and gained weight 3 times in the last 6 years. Right now I am at 165. I have tried to eat right since May and exercised almost everyday, but have not been able to drop a pound. I am feeling old, fat, frustrated and invisible. I feel better when exercising but not losing the weight hurts. I was always skinny growing up and could lose 5 pounds if I cut back for a couple of days, but no more. I'm grateful for being cancer free for the last six years, but I want to feel good about myself and be healthier. I want to be here for my kids. I don't want them to be ashamed of me.
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