I'm sorry you are having a rough time of it. my dh when I first started this hated it. hated the fact I wanted to lose weight and feel good about myself. he though it was to lose him. I had to finally sit him down and explain, that this is for me, I want to feel good about myself. I want to lose weight to look good for myself. To teach my daughters a good example. I want to be a role model for my children. Ever since then, he has warmed up to cooking lighter, trying new foods, new recipes. He is skeptical at times about some recipes but then I tweak them even further and use less fat and calories and he doesn't even know. he even quit smoking finally a month ago, is quitting drinking, and started working out. He had to realize himself that he has gained 50 extra pounds over the years and he had to be ready. I didn't try to force him, I just changed our habits a little especially with food. Now he sees how good I feel and he wants to feel that way also. He is in this thing with me so we are much more active now. Now that we have our WII we always play it especially on Friday nights, we have family game night and our neighbors come over and we play for hours along with our children. We are all active and it is fun. good luck.
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i am so sorry your going thru so much .. i know it must be hard..my husband is good but eats not as good as me but i dont let that stop me from eating healthy and less.. so just tell him how you feel and stick to your guns about eating better.. i know you will get thru this.. hugs Geri
loving myself as i am beautiful inside and out!!! Think positive .. you can do it!!!..... i do care.��Life is not easy for any of us, but what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves.� � Don't give up we all can do this!! Lost 110 pounds so far! i am loving it! I am now exercising 50 mins a day working up to 60 ! Keeping active is so important! classylady~Geri
I think my husband has been "testing" me since I've been on SP. The second day, he baked 2 pecan pies. I told him that when I succeeded and was a skinny minny that instead of patting him on the back and saying "I couldn't have done it without you." that I'll pat myself on the back and say "I did it in spite of you." He has done this in the past, so I'm really kind of used to it. I just ignore him, he could stand to lose a few, but frankly I have enough on my mind eating what I should to worry about what he chooses to eat.
It is easy to think, it is hard to do, but to do what you think, that is the hardest. .......Goethe
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Let your soul stand cool and composed before a million universes. Walt Whitman
I thought someone started this thread, and if they did I apologize for stepping on toes. I was unable to find the thread. I will like to vent about my husband being unsupportable and unwilling to change his eating habits eventhough he is overweight. Today instead of getting angry I decided to start this thread so I don't fuel my anger by overeating. I was picking up my child from school and playing solitaire on my cellphone while waiting. Someone was pulling out of the parking lot beside me and I wasn't paying attention. A parent decided to scream across the parking lot why didn't I move and at first I was dumbfounded and then I screamed back to mind his business. Then I wanted to give him the finger but was too far behind topursue that action which I'm grateful because it is an elementary school. I don't want to embarass my child or self and was glad I was not able to see him when he was leaving the school.
I am guided by the wisdom of God to eat good food in right amounts. I attain and maintain my right weight. - Silent Unity.
The principle is competing against yourself. It's about self-improvement, about being better than you were the day before.
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