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1/12/11 4:22 P

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Would You Speak to Your Friends the Way You Speak to Yourself?
We recognize the benefit of positive speech, we see the happiness it brings to our friends and we feel good about bringing this joy to others. So if we know all this, why is it so hard to speak this way to ourselves?
We all make mistakes, but when we magnify them we’re simply making more of the mistake while making less of ourselves.

Valuable lessons when making healthy lifestyle changes.

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2/14/09 10:58 A

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Thank you!

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2/14/09 9:15 A

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Very good!!! cause what we say to ourselves is important.. we need to be nicer and be more postive and love ourselves too!

loving myself as i am beautiful inside and out!!! Think positive .. you can do it!!!..... i do care.��Life is not easy for any of us, but what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves.� � Don't give up we all can do this!!
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2/14/09 2:56 A

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I agree.

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2/13/09 8:50 P

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Very helpful message.

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2/13/09 7:47 P

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great message. thanks for sharing. it really makes you stop and think about things.

Be tolerant of the human race. Your whole family belongs to it -- and some of your spouse's family does too.

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2/13/09 7:47 P

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Wonderful! thanks

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Excellent.....

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2/13/09 6:59 P

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Very nice. Thanks for taking the time to share with us.

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2/13/09 6:56 P

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Thanks for sharing.

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Jewells, as usual, you are right there with what I'm working on in my life. I'm working so hard to speak kindly, positively, gently, respectfully to myself. I'm catching myself when I say something negative or insulting to myself and changing that dialogue into something positive and uplifting. At least I'm much more aware of how my self-talk affects me and working to change that. Thanks for your very timely post!

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2/13/09 6:07 P

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2/13/09 6:02 P

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I have to print this off and read it to myself EVERY DAY!! She must have used me for a role model when she wrote this.

Thanks so much for posting this valuable article.


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2/13/09 5:57 P

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Thanks for sharing. I'm sure many of us are completely unaware of the negative self-talk occurring within us on a regular basis. I believe it takes courage and a willingness to turn inward, to listen carefully, and then treat ourselves GENTLY, before we can overcome the negative. But once we do,
ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!!

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2/13/09 5:46 P

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excellent article, thanks for sharing

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2/13/09 5:38 P

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copied from girlfriendology 101- loving me day!!

Would You Speak to Your Friends the Way You Speak to Yourself?
Very often when we speak to our friends, we shower them with compliments, praise and approval. It makes them feel proud, valued and respected and makes us feel good as well. We recognize the benefit of positive speech, we see the happiness it brings to our friends and we feel good about bringing this joy to others. So if we know all this, why is it so hard to speak this way to ourselves?

For many moms, negative self talk is a way of life. “I’m so dumb/lazy/fat” can be how we define ourselves. We place ourselves in a particular category and limit ourselves from ever expanding beyond it. It’s like we’re willingly putting ourselves in prison while we hold the key. It’s bad enough many moms feel this way about themselves but most share these negative thoughts with their coworkers, friends, spouses and even children.

So let’s look at how negative self talk would affect those in each group, starting with coworkers.
Maybe you said something you didn’t intend to say at a meeting, submitted a report that wasn’t your best or handled a situation in a way that wasn’t the most effective. You berate yourself, letting others know just how terrible your actions were. What message are your coworkers receiving? Are you a valuable resource and integral part of the team or are you positioning yourself as a weak link? Is your contribution necessary and valued or would your office have been better off without your input? Those answers are determined and defined by how you portray yourself. Of course we all make mistakes, but when we magnify them we’re simply making more of the mistake while making less of ourselves.

Now take a look at how you speak about yourself when you’re with your friends. We teach
others how to treat us. If we speak negatively about ourselves, we’re setting the tone for others
to do the same. It shows we don’t value or respect ourselves so others learn to follow by
example. For some moms however, criticizing themselves is their way of fishing for
compliments. For example, one mom says how bad of a mom she is in order to receive a
reassuring boost that she is in fact a good mom. The problem with this method is that friends
may find it tiresome and draining. At some point, when you keep putting yourself down, your
friend may simply not want the responsibility of picking you up. That’s your job, not hers. She
wants to be loyal and supportive, but her time and energy is limited. Does she want to spend it
boosting your self esteem or enjoying your company?

Then there’s the way we speak about ourselves to our spouses or significant others. For most of us, we want our relationships to bring us joy, satisfaction, enrichment and fulfillment. We want to feel loved, respected, appreciated and adored. So let’s look at how we’re going about this. What are we “bringing to the table” when we show that we don’t love and respect ourselves by calling ourselves names? To make matters worse, why would we choose to point out all of our imperfections? No one’s perfect, but by finding a way to love our uniqueness, idiosyncrasies and quirkiness others can love them too. It’s “the spin” we put on ourselves; if we think we’re something special, that feeling radiates to those around us.

Finally, let’s examine how our negative self talk affects our children. Imagine you’re getting
ready to go out, you’re getting dressed and your children are in your room with you. Clothes are flying everywhere as you scramble to find something that’s clean, stylish and fits without cutting off your circulation. You’re frustrated, angry with yourself for letting yourself go and not taking the time to buy clothes that suit your current size. While this may be a defining moment where you embark on healthier eating and exercise, it’s a defining moment for your kids as well.

First of all, you are your children’s greatest role model. They study you to learn how to think,
feel, behave and react. So think about what you’re teaching them. Is this how you want them to
think, feel and act? Of course not, so why is that the lesson you’re choosing to teach them? If
you want them to accept, love and appreciate themselves, then why don’t you give yourself that same love and appreciation? You’re their mom and that’s why they love you. Period. It’s who you are, not how you look or what you wear.

Learning how to speak to ourselves more positively may take some practice. For some it means
counteracting every negative comment with a positive comment. For others it may mean finding
something they like about themselves in order to begin the process of self love. Whatever gets
you there doesn’t matter. What’s important is to begin speaking to ourselves the way we speak
to others…for everyone’s sake.

Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHC “The Mojo Coach™” is a Registered Dietitian with a Master’s degree in Nutrition Science. She’s a Certified Personal Trainer, Whole Health Coach, Lifestyle Expert - just for moms, speaker and the author of The Lifestyle Fitness Program: A Six Part Plan So Every Mom Can Look, Feel and Live Her Best and From Mom To Wow: Your Ultimate Body, Mind and Life Makeover Guide. Debi’s been branded “The Mojo Coach” because for nearly 20 years she’s motivated overweight, overwhelmed and unfit moms to “get their mojo back” through gradual, lifestyle change. Sign up for a free report, 52 weeks of weekly tips and a subscription to Debi’s newsletter Mojo Moments at www.TheMojoCoach.com.


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