HOPE is not pretending that there's never any sorrow - It's the knowledge that our troubles will be overcome tomorrow. It's the inner strength we call on to sustain us now and then, till our problems lie behind us and we are happy again
It takes a strong person to be with someone when theyy are dieing. Your"mom" is in a better place now with no aches , pains, or no dementia. Remember you will be rewarded for this in heaven, and on earth. You are a kind and loving person. You will get back on the horse when you are ready, and only you will know this. Take your time if you need it. God Bless you for who you are. Ann
Thank you. I don't sugar coat with the daughter and the son I don't bother with if I don't have to. I've told the daughter that I have told people that I have been to see 'Mom" more than her family. The daughter agrees with me. Thank you again. I'm blessed and know it.
What a blessing you are to me right now. I feel your pain. My mother and father died in '94 and '96. That woman I adopted as my "Mom". I spoiled her rotten. She had dementia herself and even though she didn't know who I was I knew she did deep down. As far as logging your food goes I bought a small notebook that I took with me everywhere. And I wrote all food down. So what if I didn't weigh, measure it I wrote it down. Then when I got tired of guessing how much I ate I started using my measuring spoons and measuring cups. When I got tired of trying to figure out how much meat I ate I bought a scale. Everything stays on the counter next to the stove. Even if I don't log on to SP that day I have ALL the food written down along with my steps etc. When I do go on SP I go to that date and put everything in. Baby steps is how I do it. Today I'm jumping back in. I hope I've helped you as you have done me. Thank you, Karen
Thank you for the words of encouragement. I know that I am a good person and what I needed to do I had to get the hurt out and I'm NOT ashamed to ask for help. I prayed for "Mom" now I'll ask for help for myself. Thank you again, Karen
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I am so sorry for your loss. There will be a star in your heavenly crown. The "family" will have to deal with their actions (or lack there of) and hopefully will regret them later in life. You are not responsible for them, so please don't give them a second thought. Thank you for being there and giving comfort.
Life is a cycle, we have good weeks and bad months, this was as bad month. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep on going. You can do it.
One Day at a Time: 1) 10,000 steps daily 2) fruit & vegie at every meal and log 3) aerobic or strength train every day 4) 7 hours sleep daily 5) check in with SP daily
August 2014 goals: 1) Get my nutrition back under control and record daily 2) Finish the forest service quilt and wall hanging 3) Ride my bike 25 miles a week 4) Clean and de-clutter one room each week
Kim - First let me say how sorry I am for the passing of your "Mom." I can empathize a bit because my Dad died the beginning of Jan. He had also been in a nursing home just for 5 months....he had dementia, broke both hips within 4 months and then deteriorated rather rapidly. Sorry to go into details, I was his only child and his only sister passed away not 10 days before. Anyway, the "bad" food issue is something I think we all deal with, especially when life throws stress at us. I have been trying to track food but don't always primarily because I am eating too many calories. You are doing the right thing by tracking, excersizing and sharing all of it with others like yourself. Don't give up, you are worth too much to yourself, God and others to do that! As far as the selfishness of others there's nothing you can do about that but pray for them. Venting is healthy, just do the good and right things for you!
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You are a very kind, caring and loving person. How sad all this is and, I think your a wonderul human being. Be nice to yourself and, walk slowly and, take deep breaths. You have a big heart...
Take time to THINK...It is the source of power.Take Time to READ..It is the fountain of wisdom. Take time to PRAY..It is the greatest power on earth. Take Time to LOVE and BE LOVED..It is a God-given privilege. Be friendly, laugh,give and do charity.....IT is the key to heaven. I live in El Paso, TX
For the last few months I have been going to the gym, logging in my food, fitness and trying to make friends on SP, losing inches and weight. And visiting the nursing home to see the woman that I took care of for almost four years. These past 2 weeks my gym has closed and "Mom" has died. I've done the best I could for myself at that time but "Mom" was more important than myself because I knew she was dying and I needed to be there for her. This past Sunday morning she died and I was holding her hand. Her "family" was NOT there but I was. I did not want her to die by herself or to be with someone else who did not know her. I am upset with the family but I shouldn't be because they are selfish and I know this. I went into old eating habits to eat away the pain. Not a lot of food but not good food. So I logged on today and I am venting. I'm going to start again by logging in my food then my steps. This may not be the correct place to vent but it says Encouragement and I need that right now. Thanks for reading this and for any encouragement I get. THANK YOU ALL
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