Forgiveness is not for the other person, it is for you. You can make up your mind to forgive someone without them even knowing it. People think that if you forgive someone, that you have to go to that person and tell them. You don't. When you forgive someone, you release the hurt, anger, pain from your life and then you are free to move on. As long as you hold on to that hurt, anger, and pain, you are stuck in that moment, reliving that moment, over and over. This is not to say that you have to decide to forgive right this very second, you still need to work through the emotions, your emotions, not the other person's emotions. Speaking from experience, it took me at least 4 years to get over the hurt caused to me by my x-husband. But then one day, I realized that I needed to let it go. While driving in my car one day, I spoke these words, "I forgive you and I release you and all hurt pain and anger related to you from my life." And felt better immediately. The thing is, he knows nothing about it. I did it for me.
I have read that holding on to hurt and anger, is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. Do it in your own time and own way but let it go~~~~sooner than later
Edited by: DARKCHILD at: 10/19/2011 (19:05)
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