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4/21/14 11:34 A

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I'm in a good position today after five years of trying to change careers and getting two more degrees. What has happened is that I did not change careers but am pretty happy with comng back to my old career in a new way. In staying positive, I had people still bring offers in my old arena. I took the new position (it smacked of the parable of the warning message, boat, helicopter during a storm) as I knew I needed to be productive in my relationship and bring in some extra income. I don't feel I gave up but really changed during this process. Yes, I got turned down a lot! but it only made me more resolved to get something good in the end. I ended up in a horrible situation but knowing myself better, I survived.

I gained 20 lbs in the last year as I only slept 5 hours a night and between full time school and full time work, I could not manage any exercise except 1 hr per week. I finished, slightly depressed at having finished but not in a different situation. So, in December, I picked myself up and started working out. I've packed on muscle and hope to be back in maintenance by mid-June.

It's been a tough road but I've discovered how to be mentally tough. I worked on patience (forebearance) which is huge in my relationship and being in the moment which I'm still working on. I hope to start a meditation practice when I move into my maintenance exercise routine.


 
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4/19/14 11:21 P

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So, maybe its time to take a break and regroup.

I heard a story several years ago about a high school football team. This team never won any games. They were known by all the other teams as an easy win. They expected to lose all their games. They got a new football coach. When he began working with the team, they were a depressed group of boys who had no hope. He told them that he wanted them to "fake it, until they make it." They were to act like a winning team even though they didn't feel like it. And regardless of the outcome of their games they were to keep "faking it until they made it." So, they did what their coach told them to do. They started acting differently and coming to practices with a different mindset. They eventually began winning games and went to state. The story was told by a man who had been one of players. He said that changed his whole attitude.

Sometimes we have to change our whole mindset. Many times we think we have to wait until... before we can live our lives fully. What would happen if we started to live our lives before the until.. comes. I'm guilty of this. I'm always waiting for something to happen before I can really enjoy my life. Maybe its living our lives fully in the moment. Right now, my youngest son is graduating from high school. I'm realizing all those years I was upset or angry because I wasn't a certain weight, or didn't have a certain job, I missed out on lots of things. Maybe it's living in the moment that is needed.
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4/19/14 6:12 P

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But she keeps yanking the football away. So Charlie Brown is just a glutton for punishment.

I don't mean to wallow. I just can't see myself running at the football any more.

One stumble does not a failure make.

Everything in moderation.


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4/18/14 8:40 P

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Yes, but remember, Charlie Brown keeps going back. He continues to have hope.
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4/18/14 8:35 A

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Thanks, Cindi. I appreciate your insight. I feel like Charlie Brown after Lucy has yanked the football away for the umpteenth time. I can't keep doing this.

One stumble does not a failure make.

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4/17/14 10:50 P

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I'm sorry to hear this. I remember feeling much the same way. It's hard to keep going when you want something so much. Sometimes its when we least expect it that something happens. Don't give up. I really believe that there is a reason for everything. List all the reasons why being where you are is a good thing. List the advantages of where you are right now. I've been thinking of applying for supervisor job, but then I start thinking about the things that would change and the things I wouldn't necessarily like and I realize that maybe it may not be the right time. I'm not sure what your field is, but sometimes we have to think outside the box. I had to do that when I didn't think I would ever get a job. I had really thought I had made some mistakes in getting another degree and leaving my other professions. Then I got a job 3 hours from home that was my dream job. Don't give up, you never know what might open up. You've been making connections and you never know when they will pay off.

I'm glad you posted. Lets keep the conversation going. I started this team when I was feeling much the way you are feeling. Being on this team and just talking to other people who were in the same boat and could relate helped me a lot. I've kept the team going because I wanted it here for anyone who needed to post their frustrations and struggles, because finding a job is not easy task.
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4/17/14 1:17 P

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I had another disappointment today...I was not selected for a new position in a different department at work. They promoted from within, and I am very happy for the young lady as we collaborate together. But I just can't keep doing this...getting my hopes up, only to see them dashed. It hurts too much.

It's coming up on two years since I graduated with my MBA and I feel like it was a complete waste of time and money. I haven't been able to do anything with it. Yes, I'm glad I have a job and it pays fairly well, but I don't want to do it any more. I can't seem to get out of it. I've had interviews, even second interviews, I've done networking, I even paid for LinkedIn premium for a while. Nothing.

I feel guilty for spending money on an MBA that is useless. I feel so much despair that all I can think of is my life insurance policy and how much better my husband would be better off with the pay out. The only thing keeping me going is the Outlander premier on Starz later this summer. How pathetic is that?

I just don't have the energy to keep hoping, when it hurts so much when it doesn't happen.



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