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4/2/08 11:49 P

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Glory,

You are such a sweetheart!!! I want you to know that I, in no way, thought that you were being insensitive, and I was not intending to refer to you when I talk about people who don't understand why I need to do this. I get far more encouragement from you and others on this team than from anyone else in my life, and I wouldn't trade y'all for the world!!!

I think that it's always hard to see or understand the struggles that others face. I know alot of people who are overweight look at me and think I have it easy. In some ways, I see it the other way because the biological reality is that it's harder to lose 10 pounds from a 140 pound frame than 10 pounds from a 240 pound frame. I feel like my battle is harder in some ways.

Case in point - a girlfriend of mine just lost 30 pounds by giving up her daily starbucks run and butter on her bread. She admits that she didn't have to count calories or deny herself much, she just cut out the "extras". Well, for me that isn't enough to lose weight. I am already doing those things, so I have to cut deeper to show any results.

Again, so as not to offend, this is not to be insensitive to other people's struggles, because believe me, there are days when I remember to feel fortunate that I don't have a great deal of weight to lose, and I am in awe of the determination and dedication of those who can do it.

It's all about "lending and ear" and doing your best to understand and try to offer helpful advice when we can. That's what we are all here for right?


Alison

DOB: 15/11/1967

Height 5 ' 7
BMI: 21.3
HW: 145
CW: 135
GW: 125


 current weight: 143.0 
 
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4/2/08 10:27 P

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I am right along in thinking as you girls ..

I have set a goal for 3 pds. per month and I weigh once or maybe twice a month.
I find this works best for me .. In times past when I don't set some type of specific monthly goal I find that I'm a little more slack than I'd care to be ..so thus month I have set a small goal..

I do not have an unrealistic goal of losing these 56 pds. in 'not very many months' but look at this as a HeALTHY Lifestyle Change, and as a journey that will continue all my life

Allison you talked about how people couldn't understand why on earth you would want to lose weight as you already look so good . I apologize for not understanding and validating your feelings .. I think we just need to be educated on this as I was today while listening to a wonderful podcast on
Weight Loss and the Mind .. a caller wrote in the same question that you had and he could himself relate to it .. He said that he just didn't talk about it to such friends and if it was extreme evaluated if the friendship might need terminated .. He explained how it feels to now within your heart you not quite where you want to be weight wise, thus I want you to know that I stand behind you 100@ in your endeavor to lose this and apologize for suggesting it may be that it's your 'set point'

hugs,
glory

Edited by: GLORY2WALKWHIM at: 4/3/2008 (01:29)

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4/2/08 9:53 P

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lol ~ oopsie!

hey, i get this chapter! I actually am still working on getting going, so I will be starting fresh again tomorrow...

but I appreciate the comments in the book for today... in the past when my focus was dieting, i would peel off extra clothes, not drink water b4hand and like the biggest loser probably would want to exercise a whole bunch the day b4 and barely eat the day b4!!! how's that for maniac dieting??? well it was kind of like that when i was on medically supervised diets...

and for me that was part of the insanity of yo-yo dieting....

and also why i try not to set actual weight loss goals for each week but rather try to focus on the things we can do to make that happen.

What I mean is results/action orient goals which we can do and control versus result goals which we can't control like when the body decides to retain and gain water weight wk 4 of our ladies' cycle!

one time i had not eaten a bite off plan for over 3 weeks and was waiting to weigh and have a big surprise! Big surprise all right! 0 loss! not 1 single lb! I was so devastated i gave up and started eating right then.

It took me several hours to realize i was in week 4 of my cycle and normally would have gained 5 - 10 lbs, so really I had lost weight, it just wasn't showing on the scale.

too late... that binge lasted almost 2 weeks b4 i could get it together to *diet* again... that was b4 i decided no more diets and to work on creating a real lifestyle (way to eat & exercise) that I could do, want to do and even enjoy the rest of my life.

i still struggle not to slip back into the insaniac crazy things i would do when dieting...

~ which reminds me of our sabotaging thoughts... i think this is something we will need to deal with the rest of our lives... not just with how we eat but all the other areas in our lives as well...

Edited by: MOV4WARD at: 4/2/2008 (22:10)
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4/2/08 8:49 P

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Oops, this was supposed to say Day 28!!

Alison

DOB: 15/11/1967

Height 5 ' 7
BMI: 21.3
HW: 145
CW: 135
GW: 125


 current weight: 143.0 
 
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138.5
134
129.5
125
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4/2/08 12:51 P

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How's everyone doing with identifying their sabotaging thoughts and thinking errors and talking back to them. From my perspective, this is a challenge that I will need to continue to work on throughout the program and beyond. I think it is extremely valuable and I think mastering this skill may hold the key to lasting change.

Today's challenge is to prepare to "weigh-in". How has everyone been doing with the weigh-ins? I have to admit that I haven't been following them because I either 1) am scared that I won't have lost weight and I will feel discouraged and want to binge, or 2) I WILL have lost weight and use it as an excuse to say "hey, you're doing great, you can relax the rules a little!!). I have had experience with both of these scenarios, so at this point, I have decided to not weigh in for awhile and see how I feel at the end of the month. By then I will have had enough consistent eating days behind me to be ready to deal with the number without sabotaging what little I have accomplished.

But for those of you who want to weigh in tomorrow, Beck cautions you NOT to skimp on eating today in an attempt to alter the number on the scale tomorrow. This patterns is unhealthy and allows you to make thinking errors such as "I can be loose with my eating during the week and then reign myself a couple of days before my weigh in. The goal is to normalize your eating behaviors every single day, which means never overeating or undereating (what a concept!!!)

Also, remember to have realistic expectations and celebrate ANY progress!! Even if it doesn't show on the scale. Remember that lots of things contribute to weight including hormonal and biological fluctuations, so no weight loss or a weight gain is NOT a reason to give up!!

So, if you are so inclined, get out those scales everyone and let us know how you are doing!!!

Alison

DOB: 15/11/1967

Height 5 ' 7
BMI: 21.3
HW: 145
CW: 135
GW: 125


 current weight: 143.0 
 
143
138.5
134
129.5
125
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