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I know what you mean about parents - mine always had just one "right" way to do everything and it was their way - so frustrating! A quote I put on my blog yesterday may or may not help you, but it seems relevant and it's short, so I'll copy and paste it here.
"For overeaters, eating is learned and reinforced early in life as the desired response to any increased stressor or unwanted emotions."
Note to self: remember Miller, just because you learned this early in life, it doesn't mean you have to keep using it as your "desired response." You're all grown up - when you're stressed and feeling unwanted emotions now, you can choose anything in the world to be your "NEW desired response."
That said, I'm still working on it - I haven't found a good new desired response - at least nothing that comes close to food. I've thought about prayer, exercise, etc. It's hard.
Good luck and take care,
"The present is what slips by us while we’re pondering the past and worrying about the future. - Ziggy
"The groundwork of all happiness is health."
"Comparison is the thief of joy."
Just smile & wave. It will help you get through the difficulties - then scream later. It will be refreshing; as you did, when you reward yourself for making it through.
Hope you stuck to your 'small amount' goal...I think that acknowledging that there are people who can 'push your buttons' is the first step in building an awareness of how food can, or cannot, comfort you....There is no food that tastes as good as making healthy choices feels...
Shame I feel for you. Parents are supposed to be nurturing and caring, but it doesn't always happen that way. Even while raising teens, sometimes our biggest stresses and strains come from the oldest member of our families....parents!
Hope you did manage to stick to your goal of eating only a small amount. I also hope you've woken up recharged and ready to enjoy your day.
I will NOT run emotionally from compliments and hide in fat layers for protection.
Today I had to be around my Dad all day. Every two minutes he was nitpicking over something. Everything has to be done right, and right is always his way. I managed to keep my cool around him but it feels like it has built up pressure inside of me. Honestly, I am going to go eat some Lays potato chips and dark chocolate so I will feel better, but I am going to be strict and only allow myself a small amount. Somehow I need to de-stress before going to bed.