I know what you mean about parents - mine always had just one "right" way to do everything and it was their way - so frustrating! A quote I put on my blog yesterday may or may not help you, but it seems relevant and it's short, so I'll copy and paste it here.
"For overeaters, eating is learned and reinforced early in life as the desired response to any increased stressor or unwanted emotions."
Note to self: remember Miller, just because you learned this early in life, it doesn't mean you have to keep using it as your "desired response." You're all grown up - when you're stressed and feeling unwanted emotions now, you can choose anything in the world to be your "NEW desired response."
That said, I'm still working on it - I haven't found a good new desired response - at least nothing that comes close to food. I've thought about prayer, exercise, etc. It's hard.
Good luck and take care,
"The present is what slips by us while we’re pondering the past and worrying about the future. - Ziggy
"The groundwork of all happiness is health."
"Comparison is the thief of joy."
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