Unfortunately, you're probably going to get over the lack of desire to binge before you get over the breakup.
Breakups are the opportunity for us to get deeply that we don't need anything or anyone we don't have and that we are our own source of wholeness.
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thanks for all the responses guys, i do know what i need to do and that it will take time...and true, it's not really what i want to hear. i want to flip a switch and to feel fine again. on a good note, last night i started painting and i've been working on a piece all day. i'm heading to yoga soon and then more painting tonight. tomorrow i have the unlucky task of telling the ex that i just can't be any kind of friend for her right now and that i need to cut off all communication so i can concentrate on myself.
thanks again for the responses, i'll probably be rereading them a lot in the next few weeks.
I know this is NOT what you want to hear... but I find that time is the only solution (and not always a great one at that, but it is the truth). I had a bad break up a few years ago, and sometimes I still ask myself those questions because I fell for him pretty hard. BESTMEPOSSIBLE has the best advice. After going through a rough patch of depression and not taking care of myself, I have taken that negative energy and am turning it into something positive. This time of my life is me time - I must focus on myself, my goals, my dreams, and become the person I want to be. Because I have such big goals, I can't be held down by a relationship (unless another person as "wild and free" as me wants to join in on my goals). This is the time to focus on you and to take care of youself. I hope some of this advice helps!
It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is, finding the right person for you is difficult for most people. I had a bad break up long ago. I am thinking back - it took a few months to get over the initial emotions. It took even longer to deal with the "break up voices" and to come to grips with a number of questions I had about the break up. I guess you could call them the "why me" and the "why not me"'s. lol
The hard truth, that no one wants to hear, is that we don't need someone in our life that isn't completely committed to us. As an RN I can tell you that if you are having issues with chronic fatigue - drinking alcohol isn't helping the condition. Your body won't function well when dehydrated, and no matter how much you try to rehydrate, if you are drinking regularly - you are dehydrated. I hope that helps to kick the ETOH - pour all that angst into your art! Channel it. Direct it. Use it and turn it into something beautiful.
Hope today is better than yesterday.
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Havent had a broken heart in so long.. but if i did .. it would prob be food i would turn to.. just it is hard to deal with.. but i hope and pray things will be much better for you..!
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You Know I really don't think there is a cure... But I do know that anytime a relationship has ended for me especially the ones that hurt the most is an opportunity for me to grow... To better myself and really figure out what is really important to me... Also to learn that I am ok by myself which always make for a better person to be with. Big hugs and lots of love being sent your way... Hang in there
i guess there are two reactions to emotional eating during a break up...sometimes people eat a pint of ice cream and sometimes people practically stop eating all together. i can't seem to finish a meal. happily i have lost all cravings for chocolate and chips and my other food vices...but i have lost my craving for food in general. the only thing i do want...is alcohol, the only thing that soothes me. i'm walking a lot more, the exercise makes me feel pretty good, but it doesn't make the break up voices go away. any other people going through the end of a relationship? mine was 2 1/2 years and it took all of 3 days for her to fall in love with someone new. after my last breakup it took me 5 years to trust someone new...i have no idea how long it will take this time. love is so fickle.
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